Banish Depression

Banish Depression... Depression sinks. 

I have been blessed with skills to survive and help many survive. I do not need to list those God worked through me to save from depression but their lives remain testaments to God’s glory. 

The Psalmist questioned depression but immediately proffered solution. Psalm 43:5, “Why are you in despair, my soul? And why are you restless within me? Wait for God, for I will again praise Him For the help of His presence, my God. 

Depression is characterised by low mood, low moments and overall feeling of low self worth. What can you do to banish depression which often drags many into seclusion or loneliness even when not physically alone? 

1. Rather than mourn, grieve or lament, make decisions. To be happy or joyful you must desire and decide to be. This should not always be about mega things; e.g. make a decision to watch a sermon or comedy instead of movie that will make your blood boil or heart race.

2. Remove negatives from your conversation. Every time you want to say “can’t, won’t, don’t”, consider whether “unable”, “can”, “will”, “do” would fit in. Rather than say "I can’t survive" say "By God I will survive" and come up with strategies to work towards it while trusting God to do what you cannot do. Change your self talk and your choice of words. I heard a security officer say to someone, “If you can, please stay warm.” Though said to someone else, it made me feel good. When later I was speaking to a representative, rather than "May I know your name?" I said "Who do I have the pleasure of speaking with", she said loud clear and with cheer in her voice Valentino. She works for EZPASS. 

3. Plan your day at least a day before by having a routine - set wake up time, set prayer time, schedule meals, calls, siesta, schedule time you wish to check your mail and do social media. If your day is open ended, 8-15 hours may go to NOTHING. Also plan what you will wear, eat etc. Even if it is to care for your child, plan it. 

4. Sell, schedule or start something that would make you move... A 10 year old girl gets me out of bed M-F these days. On days I don’t feel like, knowing she would need me, gets me off my bum. With minus -15 weather I sure did not want to get out of bed but I thought of her. Desire for group worship gets me out of bed on Sunday. Yours could be love for your spouse or children.

5. Play music. It wards of negative energy. If you can sing add singing, if you can dance, add dance. It makes you feel good from inside out, just make sure it is not a dirge! 

6. Find a friend, adopt or foster (formally or informally) a child or get a pet and learn to treat the human or animal RIGHT. My friend was upset for what my friend did wrong but I had to say I am sorry because I VALUE the friendship. If the friendship is meaningless, I would click the block button. 

7. Click the block button on toxic people. No matter how influential someone is, if they make your belly turn, click the block button except God says you must work with the person, in which case, you have to ask God for strategies. Family members can become toxic if they are NOT moving you forward. It does not have to be a forever block but to have your head in the right place, click that block for now. 

8. Talk less about ills done to you. Talk more about good by God and others. Positive stories attract blessings. Rather than pity party those you tell tales to will think your problem is too big to solve. I must remember this. Thank you Holy Spirit. For twitter folks who believe I have announced ills more, visit my other pages... And order Living Proof. It is a book filled with stories of God’s mercies. @RunningBrook can tell you more. 

9. Discover a purpose and build on your goals. It will keep you going daily. The goal of counselling, mentoring, advocacy, ministering and publishing make me read more and work hard to have more wisdom to share and publish more titles. I trust it would pay off one day. Also, it helps me direct my energy to something positive. 

10. This is actually NUMERO UNO. Add faith. Whatever you do, ADD FAITH. Have you seen how world power, atomic power, economic power fell flat in the face of pestilence! The world directed many to psychologists and sociologists but they often have no way round issues and end up applying theory to clients. If you believe The Creator, seek, trust and obey as you make Matthew 7:7 your watchword. 

Written by the leading of the Holy Spirit this day 29 January 2021 


 Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa 

is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

The Sovereign God

It is a FACT that God is SOVEREIGN by incontestable right. The ultimate source of

immeasurable power and transformational authority is unquestionable but limitlessly

loving (1 John 4:16, Ephesians 3:18, Lamentation 3:22). Some argue about God’s

sovereignty but considering humans are yet to discover how to create breath, brain or

bowel, such audacity should be ignored. Assaults on humans like corona, cholera,

conjunctivitis are reminders that man is fallible and would bend or break when the

natural order of things are tampered with. Nature was tampered with in Eden when

humans trusted Satan. This brought historical trauma on humanity (Romans 5:12). What

we eat, drink, say, do, where we go, how we live etc. decrease longevity God served

humanity at creation. The wise know that God is ABSOLUTELY SOVEREIGN. Why?

 

1.       God Creates

God created all in nature. We are the works of His hands. Isaiah 47:20, Is 46:10,

Colossians 1:16, Psalm 24

 

2.       God Completes

The fullness of the Deity is complete in Jesus and by extension all humans (Colossians

2:9). God started and completed the work of creation. The Faithful One has started a

new chapter of taking up the fatherhood of his children as they carry on his legacy.

Philippians 1:6, Genesis 2:1-2, John 17:4

 

3.       God Controls

God is in absolute control and rules over the living and the dead. His authority extends

over nature, seasons and elements. He grants salvation. He grants mercy. He blesses

one and decides against blessing another. Abuja may boil, Washington DC may burn,

Presidents may lose control but God has never and will never be out of control. He is

GOD. Psalm 115:3, Ephesians 1:11, Psalm 103:19, Job 42:2

 

4.       God Commands

He said let there be and there was. Who can annul when God has commanded. By God’s

decree earth was established. Power belongs to God! O bu Chineke nwe ike! Psalm

62:11, Genesis 1:3, Psalm 33:9, Lamentation 1:5, 12-16, 2:1-10, Isaiah 1:17

 

5.       God Calls

Saul was on the dark side. He supervised the terror unleashed on Saints. God later

arrested Saul’s will and turned it into a worthy mantle. God called our brother into

fatherhood. He called him to serve humanity through his life’s role. He in his sovereignty

called him away from that role. How well would we carry on till God calls us too? Psalm

24, Romans 8:28, 1 Corinthians 1:26-27, Ephesians 4:4

 

6.       God Counsels

God is called the Wonderful Counsellor (Isaiah 9:6). Many would reach you with advice;

focus on God’s counsel. The Scriptures noted that the counsel of the ungodly shall not

stand. Psalm 73:24, Psalm 33:11, Joshua 1:9, Proverbs 31: 8-9, 2 Samuel 15:31,

 

7.       God Connects

Look at all those around. We are celebrating the life of God’s ambassador, your son,

brother, husband, father, uncle, hero because his parents were brought together after

which he was connected to his wife. God is using his home call to connect us all. What

role would we play in the life of his wife and children after today? God is the Divine

Connector. Colossians 2:19, Romans 12:5, Ephesians 2:13, 1 John 4:7

 

8.       God Crushes

How many times have we been saved from death? What battles have God finished for

us; what wars have God won to make you a wonder. God will arise to crush enemies

who make this death a reason to attempt threat or theft. He will arise to crush whoever

may have been nefarious or negligent where death was not natural. He will arise with

vengeance and crush the culture that may seek to humiliate, discriminate and defraud

rather than harmonise and defend. Lamentations 16:33

 

9.       God Concludes

This is the one the just and unjust do not like. Whether in the middle of prosperity or

pain, God concludes. Sovereign God is a FINISHER. At Calvary God said, “It is FINISHED.”

He gave up life to enter into eternity. He is not our genie and so WILL NOT take

permission from us about when He elects to remove his Saints from labour field or

battle front, or end the life of workers of iniquity. The drawing line is where they end up,

hades or heaven? The Sovereign God CONCLUDES. Did our brother lay down his life or

God took it because He was too bruised to carry on the journey or to shield Him

permanently from this broken, damaged world? We may never know and we cannot

question God because God is SOVEREIGN. 1 Samuel 2:6, Psalm 139:16, Job 1:21-22

 

10.   God Comforts

Lazarus the friend of Jesus died and humans lamented. Humans lamented when the

sojourn of the Son of God was concluded. But God rolled out His voice in consolation

and warmth in comfort. John 11:35 have the most powerful show of humanity and

vulnerability that GOD displayed. Jesus wept. After conclusion what next? Comfort. I

pray comfort on all his siblings who were with him when he began the journey of life. I

pray comfort for friends, extended families and loved ones across the world. I pray

comfort for his children who received the gift of life through him. I pray divine

consolation for them, as they keep wondering why daddy did not stay for graduations,

weddings, naming ceremonies and achievements. I pray divine embracement for his

darling wife, Pearl Kanu. English Language has no lexicon to convey my heartfelt prayer

but as I have said repeatedly, God will hold you. When we yield, The Sovereignty of God

comforts us. Joshua 1:9

 

11.   God Confirms

Many pray Rest In Peace, some say Rest In Power but we are reminded in the Bible that

the works done here on earth would determine whom God would say to, “Enter my

rest”. After death is judgement and The Sovereign God decides who will enter into

Eternal Rest or Eternal Damnation. God will confirm to you His beloved how He wants

you to carry on. As Psalm 119:165 states, “Great peace have those who love your

law; nothing can make them stumble.” In obeying God, we will come to a place of

confirmation where God will grant you supernatural peace that surpass human

understanding. Most importantly, he will confirm rest for our brother (Matthew 25:21).

 

Finally…

That God hears your prayer does not mean He will heed. He is not your

genie, HE IS GOD. Know and accept His power, purpose, position and

place as THE CREATOR. ~ Dr. Omolola Omoteso

Revelation 22:13 “I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end, the first and the

last.” Today we commit our brother back to the earth from which he was created. We

return his body into creation. His soul is already with The Creator.

May our minds be safeguarded from depression that comes with departure of beloved?

Many can’t process this. I spoke to him... We prayed for healing. We expected healing.

Like you, I have questions but, who do we ask? Jesus is the answer...

Was it enemies that sneaked in behind us? Did God call his son away from life’s labour?

In time revelations will unfold and confirmations will follow. If God made it happen, can

we question him? If we do, can we change his ABSOLUTE SOVEREIGNTY?

I have no idea what you heard but grief does not get better with days but time will shed

more light and grant us the liberty to move ahead. We can only do so sanely IF we take

on the courage to be consoled, comforted and healed. As loved ones, we have done our

part while he yet lived. However the ceremonies to celebrate his life turns out,

remember you did your part. What more you could have done, does not exist now.

Trying to conjure it will drain and depress you.

“Till death do us part” is an error message couples are made to chant which gives false

hope of severance. All he built with our sister stares us all in the face including their

lovely children. Final is never final. Closure does not come with death or with funeral.

Words will play back, worries will step in, queries will follow, endless questions may

never be answered and those unguided and unguarded may walk into quagmire...

But God remains God. God creates. God completes. God controls. God commands. God

calls. God counsels. God connects. God crushes. God concludes. God comforts. God

confirms. Remember Proverbs 4:23, and continue to meditate on Psalm 23 especially 4.

We are here because we received the gift of our brother’s life - as son, brother,

husband, friend and family. We are here today because He was a gift to his clan,

community, country, company class and church. We are here because he was an

achiever who excelled; a galvaniser who reached out beyond his comfort zone. We are

here because a great man departed and earth is depleted because of his absence. We

are here because a man of family who held on to faith has been called off to eternity.

His epitaph could read, “Here rests a great man.” What will yours read

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate 

about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate 

about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Choose Life

I heard of a man who died of heartbreak. I have heard of men, women and children who die of heartbreak from issues that happen to humans.

In life many things you can talk about and many more things you cannot talk about can break your heart.

Who will you tell when you discover your children are not biologically yours. Who will you tell that children you carried in your womb are only biologically related to your spouse. Who will you reveal to that you gave your wife permission to have sex outside and bring home pregnancy as yours. Who will you confide in that though you accuse your woman of adultery, it was you who drove her to it because you avoided her during ovulation cycles so she remains devoted to the children of your former wife - living or dead, who calls her mummy. Who will you complain to when, a man who abandoned his child at birth after an attempt to abort was manipulated against his will, suddenly return years after to claim her because a brain wave reminded him the sperm was his. Who will you lament to that the first man whose marriage proposal you accepted, but was whisked off by his secretary, never stopped loving you. Who do you tell that your third child belong to a stranger you met at a bar on a day you went to cool off from marital stress potent enough to kill you. Who do you tell that a boss raped you and pleaded with you to cover his shame in exchange for financial support you dearly need. Who do you confide in that in deciding not to pay with childlessness for marriage to a man who turns out to be impotent, you sought the bosom of another while keeping his secret, one he still refuse to talk about. Who do you tell that you saw the doctor pulling out his penis from your body as sedation from abortion wore off. Who do you tell that in your moment of emotional need, you forced yourself on your wife’s sister and her only child, one who gives everyone so much joy, is biologically yours.

Hmn. The grave remains a vault of silenced secrets. Secrets known to God Almighty from whom no being can hide.

No matter your story, dying of a heartbreak is too great a punishment. I can only pray God grants loved ones of those whose hearts bowed to the price of death peace. 

I have known ache from lost love. I have known pain from grief, fraud and diabolic attacks by in-laws who wrestled to take all including my life. I continue to pray and fight hard as God keeps my life from their reach. My strategies changed when I decided I don’t want to be a dead hero... Dead people never get justice.

May I share what I know, in hope that you will do your own research and regardless of what research uncovers, you will chose life in the universal knowledge that NO HUMAN OWNS ANYTHING. All we lay claim to were GIVEN.

No man owns a woman under the law. Simply put, no human can own another human. Under the law, all contracts are cancellable.

Covenants are more binding than contracts. When it is sealed by God, you need mercy to annul. When it is sealed by blood, you need God. Renouncement is insufficient to break a blood bond.

Marriage under The Act does not forbid a man or woman from marrying another. It forbids a man and woman from marrying another under The Act. With corrupt judges and criminal attorneys, your rights under the law can be manipulated.

Rachael was Jacobs first love and I daresay first wife. It was for her he laboured. His will was manipulated and he was offered another. He could have walked away. She could have walked away. The love he maintained for her did not fence her from the death of her own making. God granted her request for one more son but she never lived to nurture him. The anger she housed till death led her to name him Benoni.

If you were not given the key to his penis or the lock to her vagina, do not kill yourself or scheme to kill when you hear he or she elected to use it with another. Your right is limited and subject to his or her will.

A paper is not what sustains a marriage or contract; commitment, contentment and cooperation does. If you have to repeatedly chant, I am your husband, you either are insane or have no spouse. A wife who willfully signed you into marriage knows who you are. There is no better currency to seal marriage than trust. Sadly it is in shortfall. Never demand it if you are incapable of giving it. If you live on porn, do not cry wolf and act mad if your wife seek the arms of another who is not wasted on e-hangover. You made your choice. She made hers. 

A legal paper makes your marriage a legal contract. It does not prevent either of you from killing the other or becoming insane. It is why it is revokable but insanity therefrom may need lifetime therapy.

If you married under God, call God to mediate when things go off course and be ready for the transformation He orders. If you cannot abide by the Law of God, do not run to God when sweet becomes sour.

Remember. The Law of God did not prevent Cain from killing Abel. Abel elected against God’s will to trust a jealous brother. He paid with his life. His death was avenged but Cain received mercy. Abel could not request mercy.

Be aware that as long as marriage was consummated under the law, regardless of reproductive ability of a man, children born in a marriage are his. No one should die of a heartbreak when there are legal steps for redress. If there is no legal redress, learn to move ahead; to start a pity party is to risk being mocked for choosing virtue above vice.

Shame should never be worn by victims; they are garbs belonging to abusers! I meet clients who are so ashamed of what was done to them that they refuse to take on the courage to be healed. To punish yourself when life has dealt you a deadly blow is double jeopardy. 

In the deep waters of abuse, I chose to go for manicure. I chose to go for massage. I chose to eat out with friends. I chose to be closer to the children. I chose life.

Please speak to a counsellor if in dire straits about ANYTHING that turns your sleep to a sigh. I am a COUNSELLOR. Your first session is free courtesy #ExcelWithAnne. 

Choose counsel over crime. The dead face judgement. The living can get justice.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Pastor Adeboye's Prophecies for 2021

Prophecies for 2021

International Scene 

1. Some of the things that happened in 2020 will spill over into 2021.

2. The world as a whole can only come out of the wounds when they admit the following;

1) That it is the Most High that rules in the affairs of men not science. Daniel 4:25. 

2) That it is God that gives wisdom to the wise. Daniel 2:20-21. 

3) That God can reduce the so called wisdom of man to foolishness. 1 Corinthians 1:19-20. 4) 

4) That for every vaccine discovered, there is already a variant in the making. This will continue until the high and mighty admit that safety is of the Lord. Proverbs 21:31. 

5) God says He will begin to deal with nations on individual basis so that in any nation, if God’s people will humble themselves and pray, He will heal their land. 2 Chronicles 7:14

Nigeria 
1. God wants us in Nigeria to know that only God can lift a siege. 2 Kings 7:1-end

2. The humble who put their trust in God will see the end of the siege. James 4:6

3. The erstwhile ignored will become vessels unto honour in God’s hands. 1 Corinthians 1:27

4. God says there will be sounds from heaven.


Individuals
1. Your very survival and restoration will be in your own hands. Psalm 91

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.