Some of the realities we are faced with today are what we witnessed at the DC KISS 14.02.10:
1. Fewer men than women. A number of guys who signed up to attend the event developed cold feet! We didn't envisage this. On on our part we’d have to do more to draw them in. We can all help by inviting guys around us. You may not fancy those you invite but you will be giving them an opportunity to connect with or to someone.
The truth that this drives home is that women have to be ready to do the asking; so he comes around you and wouldn't talk or invite you for a date so what should you do? Go ahead and invite him to a date! Hopefully he'll relax and do what a man should do.
2. Low level of interaction. Guests gravitated towards their friends or gender but we can solve this by consciously deciding to mingle with others regardless of gender, age or status. You may have felt like na man I wan meet but these females, younger folks etc have brothers, cousins, friends who may be or provide the link you require.
Gentlemen and ladies, we need to interact more. Don't hide in your shell interact!
3. Conventional conditioning. The scripts given to participants never said use the head tie to make a head gear or knot the tie. The script said, be innovative but all the participants did the same thing! The conventional thing. Also the script did not say don't ask for help but most of the participants did not ask their partners for help. What am I saying?
We need to take a walk away from tradition to melt the heart of those we hook up with. We also need to ask for help. A woman knows better how to use head tie and a man knows better how to knot a tie; should you not be sure how to make your partner happy, ask him/her.
4. Comparing. Those who participated measured what they were doing by the standard of others on the stage. We do that in our relationships forgetting personalities differ. Only one participant tried to match the colour of the tie she chose with the colour of the shirt worn by partner.
In life we may not always get to choose, at times choice is thrust at us. If one participant had used the material to tie a bow or as a wrapper, I bet another would have followed suit. Let’s blaze our own trail and make it something worth copying.
5. Unpreparedness. Those who participated in "Between U & I" were unprepared. Let's face it; a number of the guy meet gal episodes are mostly unplanned. If a man stumbles over his words, that is not the time to crush his ego and if a woman does the asking, it doesn't mean she is cheap. I particularly liked the lady who offered to pay for cab; just do it if it makes you happy and/or would move the relationship forward.
In business partnerships as in relationships, often one person get's the big picture and would have to work to ignite the same passion in the other person.
I decided to give you a taste of the third edition of our newsletter. The newsletter is a prelude to our magazine for mature singles. We are prayerfully considering a name for the magazine; kindly send us your suggestion if you did not do so at the event. The newsletter sells for N50 per copy. If you were inspired by the two editions you received at the event, kindly sponsor copies for colleagues, church members, community and family folks etc. Together we can create enduring relationships.
If you found the event worthwhile tell others. If we fell short, tell us. We have taken your feedback to heart and we promise to grow to your delight. Our next event would take place in May. Those who were sponsored to KISS would be allowed to bring a friend for a full fee while those who sponsored themselves would be allowed to participate at half fee just as a way of giving back. We hope you'll find time to attend and encourage others to do so. Comments about how much fun you had can be sent to be included in the next newsletter.
I appreciate you and pray that your vision will find wings to soar as you connect to purpose.
1. Fewer men than women. A number of guys who signed up to attend the event developed cold feet! We didn't envisage this. On on our part we’d have to do more to draw them in. We can all help by inviting guys around us. You may not fancy those you invite but you will be giving them an opportunity to connect with or to someone.
The truth that this drives home is that women have to be ready to do the asking; so he comes around you and wouldn't talk or invite you for a date so what should you do? Go ahead and invite him to a date! Hopefully he'll relax and do what a man should do.
2. Low level of interaction. Guests gravitated towards their friends or gender but we can solve this by consciously deciding to mingle with others regardless of gender, age or status. You may have felt like na man I wan meet but these females, younger folks etc have brothers, cousins, friends who may be or provide the link you require.
Gentlemen and ladies, we need to interact more. Don't hide in your shell interact!
3. Conventional conditioning. The scripts given to participants never said use the head tie to make a head gear or knot the tie. The script said, be innovative but all the participants did the same thing! The conventional thing. Also the script did not say don't ask for help but most of the participants did not ask their partners for help. What am I saying?
We need to take a walk away from tradition to melt the heart of those we hook up with. We also need to ask for help. A woman knows better how to use head tie and a man knows better how to knot a tie; should you not be sure how to make your partner happy, ask him/her.
4. Comparing. Those who participated measured what they were doing by the standard of others on the stage. We do that in our relationships forgetting personalities differ. Only one participant tried to match the colour of the tie she chose with the colour of the shirt worn by partner.
In life we may not always get to choose, at times choice is thrust at us. If one participant had used the material to tie a bow or as a wrapper, I bet another would have followed suit. Let’s blaze our own trail and make it something worth copying.
5. Unpreparedness. Those who participated in "Between U & I" were unprepared. Let's face it; a number of the guy meet gal episodes are mostly unplanned. If a man stumbles over his words, that is not the time to crush his ego and if a woman does the asking, it doesn't mean she is cheap. I particularly liked the lady who offered to pay for cab; just do it if it makes you happy and/or would move the relationship forward.
In business partnerships as in relationships, often one person get's the big picture and would have to work to ignite the same passion in the other person.
I decided to give you a taste of the third edition of our newsletter. The newsletter is a prelude to our magazine for mature singles. We are prayerfully considering a name for the magazine; kindly send us your suggestion if you did not do so at the event. The newsletter sells for N50 per copy. If you were inspired by the two editions you received at the event, kindly sponsor copies for colleagues, church members, community and family folks etc. Together we can create enduring relationships.
If you found the event worthwhile tell others. If we fell short, tell us. We have taken your feedback to heart and we promise to grow to your delight. Our next event would take place in May. Those who were sponsored to KISS would be allowed to bring a friend for a full fee while those who sponsored themselves would be allowed to participate at half fee just as a way of giving back. We hope you'll find time to attend and encourage others to do so. Comments about how much fun you had can be sent to be included in the next newsletter.
I appreciate you and pray that your vision will find wings to soar as you connect to purpose.
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