Wired for Success in Relationship

I was invited to speak at the RCCG Lagos Province 19 Annual Built to Last Conference on Saturday 28^th of November 2015 and it dawned on me that despite the drive for positive change in the national sphere, our relationships have continued to experience negative change.

Whether we believe it or not, a dearth of strong relationships, will ultimately affect our national drive for change. So how can we achieve change or success in our relationships - love, work, ministry etc.?

Consider this as you audit the year and plan for the year ahead...

HATE and LOVE are the key words. HATE leads to failure and LOVE leads to success.

Tips that can lead to failed relationship

H - Hurt; you need to heal from past hurts to position you to love again or love genuinely. If you were hurt at your last job, except you have a new mindset you may very well be hurt again at your new job because something has wired pain in you!

A - Anger; you must stop being angry with yourself, others, your situation, your parent, partner, boss etc. Fix what needs to be fixed and move up.

T - Temptations or trials; contentment the Bible say is great gain. Don't let the trials of life or lust of the eyes kill you. Coveting your boss' wife/husband or seat may be your undoing.

E - Envy or enemies; being envious of the person you are in a relationship with could lead to enmity and ultimately destroy the union. Learn to complement the person not compete with the person

Tips that can lead to successful relationship

L - Live; don't merely exist. Be yourself and bend genuinely where need be. If you prefer no make up and he prefers heavy make up, settle for something moderate and have his understanding. If she prefers corporate dressing and you prefer slacks settle for business casual.

O - Outstanding; the man/woman you are interested in has other suitors likewise the seat you have just been promoted to, so stand out. You can stand out with one shirt or one talent. Ask God to help you. David stood out amongst his brothers by being the nurturer and carer.

V - Vision; know your vision and share it. Money is not everything; many women would pick a man with a vision before the one that has a television. Vision will grow television would need a newer model soon!

E – Empathy i.e. the ability to understand and share the feelings of the other person would go a long way to cement the relationship or love between you. Be a friend not a fiend!

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Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's Word for the healing of souls.