Japa Syndrome

Japa Syndrome: Breaking Homes and Hearts

I counselled and kept 10 in prayers after finding out they are married but living single. To God's glory 5 are united. 

Genesis 2:24 was for the purpose of man starting a family with woman. Abraham received instruction to leave land, he went with his wife. Lot's wife merely looked back during forced relocation; she received instant judgement. 

It breaks my heart to see the evil done by folks japaing... We now have married-singles looking lost. Yet, many unmarried ones now make marrying someone abroad part of the spec. If you marry someone overseas, it is not enough that you can travel to inject pregnancy only to leave her to suffer through that critical season alone. This is the root of homosexuality. 

A family is a man and woman with or without children. While you are away, who is the priest in your home. Know that no drug can cure the abscess from absence. 

If you cannot sort out travel papers soon after wedding, it is a deal breaker. Some may not be able to travel for wedding due to complicated immigration status; if they succeed in bringing you in, you may live separately until they get out of bondage. 

We know a case that ended in divorce about 25 years after. His brother stood in for him during traditional wedding; whenever he argued with his wife, he would taunt her that he never made vows to her! 

A woman waited 14 years for her man. He never returned, he remarried abroad. She went against church policy and is now married to a widower; only a miracle can make pregnancy happen. 

To survive abroad, though pastors, a couple ended up lying to work. Down the line they overstayed with no plan to return. For daring to lodge them, I lost a home. Sadly, she is now dead. Uriah died untimely because he left his new wife to pursue gallantry. The Bible standard was to live together for one year after marital ceremony. 

You are God's Ark of Covenant, where God locates you and yours there are resources. The Adeyokunnu-Adeboye couple hatched success locally to shine the gospel light to the world. 

Yes, there are amenities abroad but it is on your tax dollars or pounds. You can create London or Paris where God locates you. If you are married, your first kingdom assignment is your spouse. 

Sex, kiss, embrace cannot be mailed. Stop putting spouses in bondage in the name of "I am doing this for us." No you are NOT! You are doing it so you can buga about in the abroad life. 

Please let us stop this madness! Go abroad only IF God is leading you there but make adequate plan. If unmarried, marry in your nation and/or make plans to promptly join your spouse. You can both decide who should move. 

I served in 6 hospitals in Kentucky as chaplain; majority who chose death did because they had no committed partner. When racism, crisis or inclement weather hits, having spouse or family cushions the effect. 

I have cases of divorce at hand due to infidelity caused by japa syndrome. Dakun avoid becoming part of that unfortunate statistics. 

God will guide us to act righteously. 

Rev. Dr. Omolola Omoteso

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Genotype Match

There are many evils in our world today.

The apparent ones are called out here and there especially in religious circles but there are some that ruin family and future.

I am led to speak up against 5...

1. You have sex with a woman or man and down the line you claim or confess you were forced or manipulated and so you will NOT care for the offspring. You have only one choice, give up your parental right on the child to someone who can because the fruit of that incidence has life that must be nurtured. And please don't return later to claim parental right; the person who laboured is the parent for that child/ren, heaven knows, recognise and upholds adoption, with or without legal documents.

2. You do "live in love" with someone for years, separate from the person and claim we were never married. Yes you were. Adam and Eve were married. The law is NOT what joins two people together, the law earns income from you by affixing a stupid stamp on paper that means the government can control your resources when you decide to end the agreement, written or unwritten. Know that decisions about dissolution will be swayed by power, not only economic but spiritual (ire le ni owo, ki tohun ni ija tabi ogun abenugongo), physical, social, emotional, be kind in your severance power and package.

"Stop stripping people of livelihood, because of divorce or death. It is evil... one that returns to haunt generations unborn." ~ Dr. Omolola Omoteso

3. You celebrate the living together or marital union of two people but when one dies you demonically begin a journey in calumny, for any reason at all, you have become a satanic weapon. If someone killed the deceased, God and justice will take full course; it is NOT in your place to arise to steal inheritance.

4. You marry a man or woman legally, traditionally or religiously, wake up one day to say you are done, for whatever reason - valid or invalid, you head to community or court and you believe that because of your reason, the person should have nothing from the fruits of the union or believe the person deserve to be shamed home and abroad, you are evil.

Beyond contract, there is covenant. ~ Dr. Omolola Omoteso Beyond legality, there is humanity. ~ Dr. Omolola Omoteso

5. Rather than call out rape, abuse or manipulation, you endure and continue to enjoy the benefit of or from the union, awon family Monica Lewinsky, but silently post-date the punishment you or the law can inflict and afflict the person with, you are on errand for satan. If fear is why you are silent, sever the bond NOW. Don't go to school on abusers fund or raise children through abuser only to wake up one day to cash out; you are transacting business with and for satan and could become collateral damage!

Many claim to to be Christians or Muslims but participate in one or all the above, what did we bring to this world? NOTHING

The heart and mind from where evil starts was given to you by God, it is time to wisely use both.

Spousal death and divorce are the two hardest heartbreak catalysts here on earth. Add disinheritance and disenfranchisement, they become legal tools for evil.

I am lifting up anyone and everyone who has been a victim of these evils in prayer for peace and ease in Jesus name.

Please take care of you, the mind that pumps blood can only take so much. Remember wisdom, in the Bible, when a loved one foresake you, beginning with but not limited to father and mother, God will arise to take you up; defend you.

I was stripped of all we owned, but God preserved my life. Joined hand in hand the enemies that did it are facing the full wrath of God but justice is already taking place because beyond their diabolic attacks, fraud and manipulation, I live and I am standing strong. Proverbs 11:21

I need no sympathy, empathy or commendation. Pick out what is yours in this message and change your ways or encourage someone you locate in the message, to change.

Do NOT help anyone to harbour evil. Reach out to help anyone who is living inside abuse, for economic reason. Living in bitterness does damage to the heart and earth. Their wailing rise to God and God will judge all who look the other way.

Ojogbon Omolola lo ko iwe yi lati ilu oke

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Divine Connection Centre and Photo Policy

Why do people ask for photo of person they are to be introduced, referred or connected to. And why do some within 24 hours of beingintroduced, want to see photo and get so hung up on it?

Do you want to befriend a person or a photo? Can someone tell me what I don't know.

My take is that it is to JUDGE. BUT marriage is NOT about your judgement or your will but God's will. The more we understand that simple fact, the more we will quit spending a life time looking for who is fine.

We had a beauty in my high school. Females called her beautiful. One day, she had an accident on her way to school that left probably two family members dead and herself severely scarred on the face. I saw her in 2022 and I said to myself, no one would imagine today how beautiful she was then FACIALLY. As that thought crossed my mind another did, as she smiled and joked with her set members; her real beauty was never scarred, just her face; she remains a reflection of God.

I met Cobhams Asuquo some years ago while I was managing a gospel music band made up of 5 guys - 6team. Pleasant and skilled man who excelled as a music producer. He married across tribal lines to Ojuolape, a beauty in every sense. When she discovered after 4 months that her son was born visually impaired like her husband, her world may have sank but she joined her loving husband to embrace the challenge. She is living her best life and graduated in 2022 from MBA at the University of Southern California. Her marriage is a lever NOT limitation to destiny fulfilment.

When I met Cobhams Asuquo, he was not popular then but he had an aura of celebrity around him, I was in awe of his skills... He was head of Audio Productions at Questionmark Entertainment and I went to discuss recording for the band I managed. In 2005, Asuquo was signed on with Sony ATV London as a songwriter. He set up his own recording facility in 2006.

What am I saying? He is fulfilling destiny beyond the limits of blindness. His being born blind cannot be traced to anything and now he has a son who is blind. If a woman in his life is to fight anything, it is to prayerfully discover the root of the blindness and stop it from continuing while remaining eyes to her husband and son. Her second son has no visual impairment.

Many today can see with their physical eyes but their spiritual eyes are dead. This is why you would reject someone who has a glorious destiny because of what the world call disability.

In DC, as part of our policies, we do NOT share image when we are introducing, referring or connecting. In fact we used to share more information than we do now. Now we give you a code with 2 alphabets, gender and mention circumstance - never married, divorced, widowed and we add with or without child/ren; we never tell you whether the children are biological or adopted; omo babies tabi aibi kii se aarun - having or not having child is NOT a disease or disability. That someone had before does not mean the person will have with you, not having before is not a gate to having now. Trust God with your needs.

If you have gone to pray ahead of choosing one of the options we send you, 2-3, please do NOT close the friendship in 7 days. Do NOT lie that you prayed and when you see photo or hear this and that you say it is no longer God. That is dishonest.

Know that IF you are NOT a member who received counsel, whoever we are referring or introducing you to is for FRIENDSHIP. For those who have received counsel, your connection (step higher than referral or introduction) is for relationship but you still need to be friends and work your way in or up. The friendship or relationship can evolve with your commitment and consistent involvement.

When you develop likeness for a woman or man, you will look beyond photo into the possibilities of the union.

I was never sent my husband's photo before we met in person... When I saw his image online, his eyeballs immediately told me there is a medical issue. Having being Health Captain in high school, I learned a lot by working in the dispensary. When I met him, he was in a state of depression; his yellow tshirt was worn out and frayed at the neck. If I was told then, I would not have believed that he owned the house we met in, in the USA. Instead of seeing problems, I saw POSSIBILITIES.

When I discovered he had a rare blood condition and I wanted to end the relationship because neither him nor the 'connector' told me, God said but I who asked you to go ahead knew. I stepped in and God stepped up to help me.

That a man or woman is fine on display photo does not mean that level of fine is the now level or even a level acceptable to you. If I take an image at an alumni or wedding dinner, don't expect that image when you run into me in danfo bus!

I was severely put off by a man who spent weeks telling me I am God's will for him but when he set eyes on me, he immediately began to complain about my reduced weight. He said I am NOT the woman he saw in an image he likes. This simply means I am your desire NOT God's design for you! So why spend weeks convincing me God said you are my wife. Unknown to him, I lost weight while battling injury inflicted on me in a love relationship.

An image could be a turn off depending on mood or outside influence because some will promptly send such image to pastor or family friends who will begin to judge. Some will even take such image or photo to "altars" or give to parents or others to take to altars in the name of inquiring. I remember a sister getting excited about a suitor's image and giving her blessings without taking time to check through the Holy Spirit whether this man is for right or not. I take that blame as well because I leaned into God's permissive will, NOT his perfect will.

Many today, even those who may be out of shape or pot bellied want fine folks or fall in love with the idea of marrying FINE but the right person can create the right personality for self or you. When my Dad used to buy my glasses, it was as if the capacity to see is doubled by size! Once I could buy them myself, I went for small and simple. When I could afford designers, I used D&G - stylish and trendy.

Was Mrs. Stella Obasanjo NOT beautiful? A roadside hairdresser in Egbaland, elevated by marriage to the status of First Lady of the most populous and most powerful country in Africa. When she started secret affair with him she never imagined this rugged soldier would impact her life positively. Her 60th was approaching and she decided to go abroad to do tummy tuck. She never returned alive!

Please trust God with your journey to marital ease, peace and bliss. The person we introduce could become your destiny mate, lead you to your destiny mate or be a life long buffer.

Embrace Possibilities!

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words 

for the healing of others.

Need for Deliverance in Delay to Marry

We thank DC Coordinator Pastor Adenike Abidoye for an illuminating session on The Need for Deliverance in Healing. This was during our second DC Special Whatsapp Group Meeting

Anyone who recorded or noted down the prayer points should send to me via direct message or email.

Summary of message in my own words:

Deliverance is required when you need a mind shift from marrying the worldly way to marrying the WORD or Holy Spirit led way. Things to consider as you seek deliverance from the root of delay

1. Learn to appreciate you. Know that you are wonderfully made. This is when deliverance will be easy.

2. Find out or research about generational curse within your family

3. Be mindful of self inflicted reasons... the 'I cannot' and 'I will not' in your life.

4. Be sure you are not operating under the shackles of your parents marriage or pop (popular) culture.

5. Renounce your old ways. I add to this, have you renounced covenants or contracts. These could delay or derail you. We touched on this in our first meeting. It is one thing to legally divorce, it is another to spiritually renounce, mentally divorce and physically let go

6. Is fear factor at work. "My parents marriage did not work, may be mine will not work", such statement is satanically induced. I add that the Bible has 366 fear not with provision for the leap year!

7. The one that blew me away in how it was captured, DOCTRINE OF THE WORLD! One big one she mentioned is thise who insist, "I cannot marry a divorcee". Let me add this: The Bible condemn divorce but there is therefore no condemnation for anyone who is in Christ Jesus! The time of ignorance God overlooked.

During the Q and A session, a sister asked a question that led me to add the following while nothing that the root of delay under self is inexhaustible.

I asked those at the first meeting to individually seek God's face to know the root of your own delay.

I shared in our 16.03.2024 meeting that there are 3 major roots of delay that all others causes can come under

1. God

2. Curse

3. Self. To help men and women with self is why DC exist.

Pastor Abidoye's message extended the borders of the root of delay. In light of this, let me share my response to the question asked:

1. Be reminded that God can delay you. Ruth's delay led her to be positioned in Jesus' lineage. God can delay you for destiny fulfilment or because of disobedience. God asked Abraham to separate himself from Lot and Abraham did as he wanted. How many years did God refuse to speak to him after

2. Grief. Some have not healed from loss. Loss of a loved one, of a promising relationship, of job or property, even loss of location etc. This grief could be visible in your moodiness or irrational mood swing. This could make someone attracted to you worried.

3. Complacency and belief that marriage will happen when it will happen. In being hopeful and expectant, the unmarried is to commit to making marriage a priority.

In prioritising marriage, I shared the dangerous prayers I prayed and warned for us to be mindful of what we pray for.

Let me add other delay factors

4. Disobedience. Yes I put it under God but it can stand alone. God showed you your man or woman but you said no I don't want him or her.

5. Lack of the culture of giving. The woman who connected my husband and I did because we were givers. She met us individually and our culture of giving led her to be awakened to our similarities

6. Lack of virtues. See the lessons in Genesis 17 - Unholiness, unfaithfulness, hopelessness, filthy essay, ingratitude, sadness and disobedience must be uprooted from you life. The world is moody; sadness is rife; joy is attractive.

7. Lack of purpose. Everyone who was connected in the Bible was on the journey called purpose. It was in running with my calling and purpose that my man became connected to me. I remanded the purpose and vision for 9-10 years. I didn't realise that I merely delayed myself.

8. Pride is a big root of delay under self. I reached a sister about connecting her and her mind pridefully shut down so much so she didn't remember to greet. Rather than say thank you, let God's will be done, satan sent her into demotive lamentation, "So my condition has now reached for me to be offered divorcee and widower!" This is pride. No matter who God leads you to, your prayer should be let me be, Lord let your will be done in my life and let me through this friendship be able to fulfil purpose and find peace and bliss.

Please feel free to share your comments and concerns.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others. Pastor Adenike Abidoye is a Public Health Concern who is passionate about deliverance.