15 Relationship Questions by Christians

Is virginity still a virtue?

Yes. It also keeps you psychologically balanced and somewhat immune to hurt. But don't deceive yourself that you are waiting for anyone. The man would most likely not be a virgin. Waiting too long have negative effects.

Is female virginity over-rated?

Somewhat. A woman is told to keep her price for the man who most likely has many conquests in exchange.

Is masturbation or wet dreams a sin?

Masturbation is self pleasuring. Wet dream is secretion from sexual fantasies. Our bodies are wired to react to stimulation or fantasies. The part we may have to figure out individually is the issue of committing sexual sin in our minds especially because to masturbate, one draws up an image to fantasise about. The Bible condemns mental lust but both the married and unmarried are guilty. Also there may be damaging implications in marriage for those who become addicted to self pleasuring as singles.

Is polygamy wrong?

Rachael was Jacob's first love but she married into polygamy. Hannah married into polygamy. Mary may have married into polygamy. A bishop, pastor, deacon is not expected to marry more than one wife. David, a man after God's heart was polygamous so was Solomon. Isaac may have been the only patriarch who had one wife and lived with her till death. Nigerian Law recognises one wife but customary law permits more. Monogamy is the ideal as we saw in Eden but war, poverty, corruption have left the world with more marriage types. If all Christian men and all Christian women choose to get married today, the ratio if they must all be married will not be 1:1.

Should marriage be redefined?

Yes. More marriages are ending in divorce and many more or living separately. The slogan at the altar was, "For better, for worse... to live together till death do us part." The contract in my opinion is broken once the man or women decide to live apart (or abroad) where it is humanly possible for them to be together i.e. non war or non life threatening situation.

Why am I still single?

Because you haven't said yes to someone or asked someone into marriage. There is always someone who wants you as a wife or husband; it now depends on whether you feel that way.

Is there shortage of eligible men or women?

No. Eligibility is relative; as defined by you. Yet, someone that fits your profile is available somewhere, some place. You only need to find her/him somehow. I tried prayer and networking and I can confirm both works.

Are single mothers/fathers necessarily the product of earlier waywardness?

Becoming a single mother or father takes just one sexual experience. Some of them were raped and few become so bitter that it became their last sexual experience. The really wayward folks know about contraception and may have used the option of abortion.

Can career and marriage be successfully managed?

Yes. Examples abound even around you. It is a choice you must make but it helps to have the support of your spouse.

Do I have to give up my individuality in marriage?

Not really. Yet you have to be a team player. Amos 3:3

Is it wrong to ask a man out on a date?

In the African context it is regarded as wrong but Biblically it is not. Asking a man out on a date is merely an offer of friendship not a plea for marriage.

How can I cope with discrimination occasioned by singleness?

As long as people have different cultures, backgrounds and beliefs, there would be discrimination. Learn to be strong and learn to believe in you especially in the fact that being single does not make you less human or capable than the married.

How can I position myself for "opportunities:" (relationship, friendship...)

Just as you learn skills to get the right job, you need to learn some skills especially communication and relational skills. You must be personable and tolerant. The Bible says he that must be a friend must show himself friendly. You also need to be prayerful; God's will remain the best ingredient for a successful relationship.

Is it wrong to desire a rich mate?

Ask and you shall be given. Be sure that you desire a rich mate for the right reasons and don't miss out on the right person because your desire is closed ended. Someone may appear rich only for you to find out such a person is a prodigal son. Yet someone may start out plain yet have skills that will number him among the Bill Gates of this world.

What are the essential qualities for a Godly relationship

Godly Character, Effective Communication, Cultural Tolerance, Career and Commitment to making it work.

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