Is He The One

How Can I Be Sure He Is The One?

We all ask(ed) it at some point: *“But God, how can I be sure he’s the one?”

God’s answer is seldom a name, face or voice. It is a standard. The right man won’t just love you. He will reflect God to you.

What standards should you look out for?

1. Steadfast, sacrificial love
He will love you as Jesus Christ love the church after the order in Ephesians 5:25.

2. Cherishes your heart
He will cherish the person within not just your appearance after the order in 1 Peter 3:4.

3. Leads with integrity against temptation
He will stand firm against worldly temptations after the order in 1 Corinthians 16:13

4. Guides you toward God, away from chaos
After the order in Proverbs 4:25-27, his eyes will look straight ahead to make level paths for his feet.

5. Patience that seeks to understand
This is the issue I had with my fiance, hasty conclusion. The one after God's heart must take the time to truly understand you after the order in 1 Peter 3:7 which ask us to be considerate as we live with wives or wives to be.

6. Honors your worth as partner and individual
He will recognise your worth and honour you as commanded after the order in 1 Peter 3:7 which says we are heirs with God of the gracious gift of life.

7. Accountable when tempted
He will choose to hold himself accountable after the order in Proverbs 28:13 which counsel thay those who conceals their sin will not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.

8. Pursues growth for both of you
He will grow for the betterment of himself, you and those around him after the order in 2 Peter 3:18 that ask us to grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord.

9. Gentle, nurturing love
His love for you will be gentle and nurturing, wrapping you in kindness after the order in Ephesians 5:29

10. Builds a future of faith in love
The one will intentionally create without rigidity, a future established on and filled with love, respect, and faith after the order in Proverbs 24:3-4.

11. Reflects God and walks with believers
He will reflect the heart of God by walking, standing, sitting in the company of believers after the order in Psalm 1:1-3.

12. Intimacy with the Holy Spirit
The Spirit of Truth, the Holy Spirit will dwell with him and shall be in him, not as visitor or guest but as teacher guide, comforter, and friend after the order in John 14:17

13. Voice for the voiceless
He will speak out for voiceless, defend the weak and support the poor after the order in Proverbs 31:8-9

14. Prosperous in righteousness
As he continues in the assembly of the righteous, he will prosper with incorruptible fruits after the order on Psalm 1:3

15. The Flip Side – His Standard and Yours Too
If he is stumbling or stalling in any of the ways shared above, and you have established that He is God's will for your journey, you will stand strong with and by him in faith and faithfulness after the order in Ecclesiastes 4:9 which states that two are better than one, because they have a good return and I daresay reward for their labour.

In Conclusion

This is NOT just what you should expect from him, it is what God expects from you too.

Romans 8:17
NOW if we are children, then we are heirs: heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ.

In Excel Leadership Academy where we train and retrain people in the art of listening, excellence and Asking, we stand on Romans 12:2 that ask us NOT to be conformed to the pattern we see in this world but to be transformed by the renewing of our minds so that, we may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God

The man God desires for you won’t chase shadows or worldly patterns. He will stand firm, lead with integrity and guide you closer to God.

This is the difference between a man who reflects culture versus a man who reflects Christ.

This is a no doubt a long list and I can compress it into just one which is He must be God's will, know God's word and walk in God's way.

You are not looking for Mr. Perfect, you are in search of direction. A man planted by the water of God’s Word will grow, even if he’s not fully grown yet.

I urge you to focus on the standard, not sensation.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.