Is He The One

How Can I Be Sure He Is The One?

We all ask(ed) it at some point: *“But God, how can I be sure he’s the one?”

God’s answer is seldom a name, face or voice. It is a standard. The right man won’t just love you. He will reflect God to you.

What standards should you look out for?

1. Steadfast, sacrificial love
He will love you as Jesus Christ love the church after the order in Ephesians 5:25.

2. Cherishes your heart
He will cherish the person within not just your appearance after the order in 1 Peter 3:4.

3. Leads with integrity against temptation
He will stand firm against worldly temptations after the order in 1 Corinthians 16:13

4. Guides you toward God, away from chaos
After the order in Proverbs 4:25-27, his eyes will look straight ahead to make level paths for his feet.

5. Patience that seeks to understand
This is the issue I had with my fiance, hasty conclusion. The one after God's heart must take the time to truly understand you after the order in 1 Peter 3:7 which ask us to be considerate as we live with wives or wives to be.

6. Honors your worth as partner and individual
He will recognise your worth and honour you as commanded after the order in 1 Peter 3:7 which says we are heirs with God of the gracious gift of life.

7. Accountable when tempted
He will choose to hold himself accountable after the order in Proverbs 28:13 which counsel thay those who conceals their sin will not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.

8. Pursues growth for both of you
He will grow for the betterment of himself, you and those around him after the order in 2 Peter 3:18 that ask us to grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord.

9. Gentle, nurturing love
His love for you will be gentle and nurturing, wrapping you in kindness after the order in Ephesians 5:29

10. Builds a future of faith in love
The one will intentionally create without rigidity, a future established on and filled with love, respect, and faith after the order in Proverbs 24:3-4.

11. Reflects God and walks with believers
He will reflect the heart of God by walking, standing, sitting in the company of believers after the order in Psalm 1:1-3.

12. Intimacy with the Holy Spirit
The Spirit of Truth, the Holy Spirit will dwell with him and shall be in him, not as visitor or guest but as teacher guide, comforter, and friend after the order in John 14:17

13. Voice for the voiceless
He will speak out for voiceless, defend the weak and support the poor after the order in Proverbs 31:8-9

14. Prosperous in righteousness
As he continues in the assembly of the righteous, he will prosper with incorruptible fruits after the order on Psalm 1:3

15. The Flip Side – His Standard and Yours Too
If he is stumbling or stalling in any of the ways shared above, and you have established that He is God's will for your journey, you will stand strong with and by him in faith and faithfulness after the order in Ecclesiastes 4:9 which states that two are better than one, because they have a good return and I daresay reward for their labour.

In Conclusion

This is NOT just what you should expect from him, it is what God expects from you too.

Romans 8:17
NOW if we are children, then we are heirs: heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ.

In Excel Leadership Academy where we train and retrain people in the art of listening, excellence and Asking, we stand on Romans 12:2 that ask us NOT to be conformed to the pattern we see in this world but to be transformed by the renewing of our minds so that, we may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God

The man God desires for you won’t chase shadows or worldly patterns. He will stand firm, lead with integrity and guide you closer to God.

This is the difference between a man who reflects culture versus a man who reflects Christ.

This is a no doubt a long list and I can compress it into just one which is He must be God's will, know God's word and walk in God's way.

You are not looking for Mr. Perfect, you are in search of direction. A man planted by the water of God’s Word will grow, even if he’s not fully grown yet.

I urge you to focus on the standard, not sensation.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

African Children, Heirs of Purpose

AFRICA'S CHILDREN, GOD'S PROJECT:
FROM ORPHANS OF CIRCUMSTANCE TO HEIRS OF PURPOSE

Day of the African Child Message

Text: Psalm 127:3-5; Galatians 4:6-7; 1 Samuel 3:1-10

The African Child is NOT a statistic of poverty, war, or broken systems. In God’s eyes, every African child is a “heritage” and an “arrow”, loaded, aimed, and waiting to be shot into destiny. Our commemoration today must move past pity to partnership with God’s project.

3 Points:

1. They Are Heritage, Not Headache

Psalm 127:3, Children are a heritage from the Lord. Many see them as load or burden but God sees them as legacy. When the church treats children as ministry future, not ministry distraction, nations shift.

2. Their Cry Has a Name: Abba

Galatian 4:6-7. Many African children cry from abuse, illiteracy, homelessness, drug, trafficking. But the Spirit teaches them to cry “Abba, Father”. Ministry to children is beyond food and school fees. It is introducing them to their true Father before the world names them “lost cause”.

3. God Still Calls Out to Children in the Noise

1 Samuel 3:1-10. Eli’s generation was corrupt, but God called Samuel, a child, in the dark. Africa’s systems may be noisy and failing, but God is still calling children to be prophets, builders, healers. Our job: like Eli, say “Speak Lord, your servant is listening” on their behalf.

Today, as we commemorate the Day of the African Child, we remember not only the struggles many African children face but also the courage, resilience, and destiny that God has deposited within them.

The Day of the African Child was born from the sacrifice of children who demanded access to education and a better future. While the world often defines the African child by poverty, conflict, displacement, or broken systems, God defines every child as His heritage, His workmanship, and His arrow prepared for destiny.

The African child is not a project to be managed but a purpose to be nurtured. Every child carries divine potential waiting for godly guidance, protection, and opportunity.

Our commemoration today must move beyond sympathy to stewardship, beyond charity to discipleship, and beyond celebration to intentional investment in God's project for Africa.

Five Prayer Points

• Father, preserve the lives and destinies of Africa's children from every form of violence, abuse, trafficking, exploitation, and premature death. Isaiah 54:13

• Lord, raise Samuels from among Africa's children—children who will hear Your voice and transform nations. 1 Samuel 3:10

• Father, restore every child who has been robbed of education, opportunity, identity, and hope. Let their future be recovered. Joel 2:25

• Lord, strengthen parents, guardians, churches, schools, and governments to nurture children according to Your purpose. Proverbs 22:6

• Father, make the children of Africa arrows in Your hand, launching them into leadership, innovation, righteousness, and kingdom impact across the nations. Psalm 127:4

Altar Call + Charge to Church

What kind of generation will we leave behind?

Will we be spectators while children struggle, or stewards who shape destiny?

Will we be like Eli who accommodates corruption, tolerated decline, or like Eli who finally pointed Samuel toward God's voice?

Day of the African Child is our reminder: invest now, or bury potential later.

The Day of the African Child asks every believer a question:

The future of Africa is sitting in our homes, classrooms, churches, streets, and communities today.

Let us commit ourselves to raising children who know God, hear His voice, discover their purpose, and impact the world for His glory.

For every African child is not merely a survivor of circumstance but an heir of purpose, a heritage from the Lord, and an arrow in His hand. Amen.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

10 Signs You Are Overthinking

 

 

10 Signs You Are Overthinking Instead of Trusting God

5 ways to move from over thinking to trusting God

The following will help you know if you are overthinking issues yet claim to trust God:

1. Lack of Understanding of God's Sovereignty:

You may not fully comprehend God's control and goodness, leading to worry and overthinking.

2. Fear and anxiety:

Deep-seated fears and anxieties can cause you to overthink, even if you trust God.

3. Human nature:

Humans have a natural tendency to analyse and control situations, analysis paralysis, which can lead to overthinking.

4. Past experiences:

Traumatic or negative experiences can lead to overthinking as a coping mechanism.

5. Misconceptions about trust:

You may believe that trusting God means having all the answers or outcomes, rather than surrendering control.

6. Lack of faith development:

You may wrongly believe that trusting God is a muscle that needs to be exercised; if that muscle appears not to be developed, overthinking can prevail

7. Satanic influence:

Spiritual forces can tempt individuals to doubt and overthink, undermining you trust in God.

8. Perfectionism:

Some individuals may feel the need to control or analyse situations to ensure perfect outcomes.

9. Lack of prayer and surrender:

Failing to surrender all including social anxiety, pride and fear and bring concerns to God in prayer can lead to overthinking.

10. Intellectualism:

Overemphasising intellect and reason can lead to overthinking, rather than relying on faith and trust.

Remember, trust is a journey, and it is normal to struggle with overthinking.

My encouragement for you is to:

1. Seek God’s wisdom, James 1:5

Seek God's wisdom. Ask Him to guide your thoughts and decisions.

2. Surrender in prayer, 1 Peter 5:7

Practice this by handing over what you can’t control instead of carrying it alone.

3. Remember who God is,

Numbers 23:19
Focus on His character, promises, and past faithfulness.

4. Let your faith grow through practice, Proverbs 3:5-6

Acknowledge God and develop faith. Trust is built by small acts of surrender.

5. Lean on your community, Hebrews 10:24-25

Seek support from fellowship and mentors. Let other believers encourage and remind you of the truth.

Overthinking feels heavy because you were never meant to carry it alone. Trusting God doesn’t mean your mind goes quiet overnight — it means you keep bringing the noise back to Him.

Trust in God is a journey, and struggling with overthinking doesn’t mean your faith is fake. The goal isn’t to have zero doubts, but to bring those doubts back to Him.

God is not waiting for you to have it all figured out. He wants you to bring the overthinking, the fear, and the questions to Him and let Him carry them.

God desires to help individuals overcome overthinking and grow in trust.

Surrender and let God help you.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Gray Divorce

Undeestanding and Mitigating Gray Divorce

Divorce in 60s is called “gray divorce,” and it has been rising for decades. The reasons are different from what breaks up younger marriages.

1. People live longer and re-evaluate
In 1960, life expectancy at 60 was ∼18 more years. Now it’s ∼23-25 more years. Couples realize they’re looking at another 20+ years with someone they’ve drifted from, and decide they don’t want that. “Staying for the children” is no longer a factor.

2. The “empty nest” reveals the gap
When children leave the home, the shared project that held the marriage together disappears. If the couple did not maintain friendship and intimacy, they are left as roommates with little in common.

3. Retirement changes the dynamic
Retirement forces what could be 24/7 proximity after decades of separate routines. Resentments that were manageable when you only saw each other in the evenings or weekends come to the surface. Some couples discover they dislike spending much time together.

4. Women have more financial and social independence
More women in their 60s now have their own pensions, savings, and social networks. They are less likely to stay in an unhappy or disrespectful marriage for economic survival, which was common for their mothers’ generation.

5. Longer-term unaddressed issues surface
Infidelity, addiction, emotional neglect, mismatched values, or controlling behaviour often existed for years. People tolerated it while raising children or building a career. In later life, they choose peace over endurance.

6. Different visions for “retirement”
One spouse wants to travel and be active. The other wants to stay home and garden. One wants to relocate near children or even go and live with them. The other prefers to remain home with a spouse at beck and call. If they cannot reconcile preferences, some split to live the life they want in the time they have left.

7. It is less stigmatised
Divorce at 60 isn’t the social taboo it was 40 years ago. People see peers do it and realise it is possible without total social stigma.

The counterpoint:

Most marriages that make it to 60 don’t end. The divorce rate for people 65+ is still lower than for people 25-49. It is just that the rate has roughly doubled since 1990 while younger divorce rates have fallen.

Our sister who asked the question during Divine Connection Channel did because someone she knows is going through this, the main pattern is that it is rarely impulsive.

Gray Divorce happens as a result of years of disconnection that both people finally stop ignoring.

Gray divorce is rising. In South Korea, divorces after 30+ years of marriage outpaced early-marriage divorces for the first time in 2025. In the U.S., the divorce rate for adults 65+ nearly tripled from 1990 to 2022, and Allianz’s 2025 study notes it is still increasing even as overall divorce rates dip.

The drivers are different than for younger couples as already noted; longer life expectancy, children leaving home, women’s financial independence, and reevaluating “is this all there is?”.

Here are 5 biblical principles that directly counter those pressures and can help us plan to mitigate gray divorce rather than live in fear of experiencing this:

1. Covenant Over Contract:

Bible References - Matthew 19:6, Malachi 2:14 

Marriage is a covenant before God, not just a contract between two people. Gray divorce often happens when couples treat marriage as a conditional arrangement - “I’ll stay if you make me happy.” A covenant mindset shifts it to “We made a vow before God, so we have a responsibility to work through this.” It creates a foundation stronger than feelings or empty-nest boredom.

I encourage those anticipating gray divorce to revisit wedding vows. What did you actually promise each other? That reframes problems from “deal-breakers” to “things we vowed to face together.”

2. Forgiveness and Forbearing With One Another

Bible References - Colossians 3:13, Ephesians 4:32

After 30+ years, resentment piles up. Small hurts from 1995 still sting in 2026. Unforgiveness is a top reason older couples drift apart.

Gray divorce drops when couples practice regular, specific forgiveness and stop weaponising the past. It is not about pretending it didn’t happen, but refusing to let it run the marriage now.

3. Renewing Love Through Intentional Intimacy

Bible References - 1 Peter 3:7, Song of Solomon 7:10-11

Love here is agape- active, sacrificial, chosen daily. Many gray divorces happen because couples become roommates after children leave. Biblical love is intentional, not just what is left after everything else or when there is nothing else.

Go out again. Court again. Remember what you saw in each other that led to a YES. Pray together. Talk about dreams for the next 20 years, not just the past 30. Rebuilding friendship and romance directly counters “we’ve grown apart.”

4. Contentment and Guarding Against Idols

Bible References - 1 Timothy 6:6, Psalm 73:25-26

Some gray divorces are driven by “I want to be happy before I die” - a search for a new identity, relationship or lifestyle. Scripture calls that idolatry of self-fulfillment.

Ask: “What am I looking for outside this marriage that I believe will finally make me whole?” Bringing that to God diffuses the urge to start over.

5. Community and Accountability

Biblical References - Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, Hebrews 10:24-25

Isolation kills marriages. Older couples often pull back from church or community after retirement. Without outside voices, small problems become divorce.
Practical angle: Build networks nd grow interest outside marriage because love is never enough. Stay plugged into family friends, marriage-small group, older couple mentors, or a pastor. External perspective and prayer support make it harder to make a 50-year decision in a week of frustration.

Whether you are young or older, my prayer is that God will sustain you and keep union that extends the borders of your joy stronger. And if marriage brought you pain, my prayer is that you will enter into a season of deep healing where you will learn to live freely and love again.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

God’s Masterpiece : Living and Walking in Divine Design by Rev. Omolola Omoteso

God’s Masterpiece:

Living and Walking in Divine Design 

Dr. Omolola Omoteso

Bible Text: Ephesians 2:10 (NKJV)

For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them. 

Praise

We are heirs of the Father

We are joint heirs with the Son

We are children of His Kingdom

We are family, we are one

Opening Prayer: 

Heavenly Father, we thank you for your immense grace that fashioned us in your image. We appreciate the grace upon us all through life, bringing us to this point and place. We ask that you open our eyes to see the beauty you have deposited into our lives. Let the light of your word illuminate our hearts, so that we may walk and live worthy of the calling upon our lives, in Jesus mighty name we pray with thanksgiving, AMEN. 

Today, we will look at a verse filled with nuggets that points to the fact that we are God's special design; His Masterpiece. 

Ephesians 2:10 reads:

For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them. 

Let's bring out 5 key points from the verse and the chapter. 

1. You Are Graced (v. 1‑3)

We were born in sin and dead in trespasses which leads the enemy to keep whispering, "You are not enough!" But God, who is rich in mercy, loved us regardless and paid the capital price to offer us salvation in Christ Jesus, even before we were born. This is pure grace; He made us worthy. 

2. You Are Glorified (v. 4‑7)

His love poured out to us renewed our hearts and made us His workmanship and by implication His masterpiece. The Greek word ποίημα (poiēma) is the same root word used for a work of art and a sculpture. God did NOT repair us; He re‑created us in Christ Jesus, seated us with Him in the heavenly places, to display His glory. We are glorified! 

3. You Are Good Works (v. 10)

When God created all things, He called them good. With your identity hidden in Christ Jesus, verse 10 affirms that we are created for good works and this is where purpose flows from. The commendation we get for being excellent is from God's input in us. That we are able to love, seek justice, show compassion stems from our DNA as believer. Your "good works" is evidence of your divine design and appointment. 

4. You Are Gods (Psalm 82:6)

Since we are created as God's Masterpiece, in His divine image, we have inbuilt authority and power so much so that we are called "gods" (Hebrew: elohim). This means that though we remain mortal, we wield delegated power from God. 

5. You Are Grounded 

We are firmly rooted in God so much so that our fruits make us worthy. Of ourselves we can do nothing but we trust the Master Creator who already finished the masterpiece. When we stay connected to The Vine (John 15:5), listen for His leading each day and step out in faith, we show forth the praises of God who called us out of darkness into His glorious light! 

Brethren, just as a celebrated painter never hides his canvas, God displays us in the world to showcase His grace and glory. People will see Jesus and we will fulfil destiny when we live and walk in His divine design. 

In conclusion, it is important to accept, believe and confess God who made you masterpiece and walk worthy daily in His divine design. Are you tapping into His grace by showing forth His good works and professing daily your covenant of salvation by renewing your mind and confessing the sins of omission and commission. Are you declaring daily that, "I am God’s masterpiece; I am rooted in Christ Jesus". Remember that you are NOT expected to be perfect, just faithful as He continues to nurture you to become more like Him. 

Altar Call 

All I have been talking about is for believers and those who accepted salvation or rededicated their lives to Jesus Christ. 

If you are NOT born again, it means you have scorned the grace, you have mocked the glory, you have shamed the good works, denied God in you and cut off from being grounded and rooted in Jesus Christ. 

Beloved, all other ground is sinking sand so I offer to you Jesus Christ. If you will want to welcome Him into your heart as the Author and Finisher of your faith, the Alpha and Omega in your life, please rise where you are. The Word of God says if you are ashamed of Jesus, He will deny you in eternity. To escape damnation, say Yes to Him and your life will never be the same. 

If you are yet to surrender your life to Jesus, the Good News is that you can join the family of God this minute. Here are 3 steps.

1. Accept the love of God offered through John 3:16: For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

2. Believe that Jesus Christ is the son of God and He died for your sins, and that He made propitiation for you.

3. Confess your sins to God and determine to work and walk towards the perfection into which we are called. Give up your old life and take up the new life that points you out as righteous.

For those who are making that decision today, to become God's children, please indicate or send direct message. Thank you for choosing Jesus, let us pray. 

Prayer

Lord Jesus, I thank you for the capital price you paid. I accept salvation. I believe in Jesus Christ. I confess my old ways. Help me to be a believer indeed. Amen.

[Pray the sinner's prayer and congratulate them for choosing to live righteously. If there are counsellors to follow them up, direct them accordingly and/or ask them to reach you or find a Bible believing church and decide never to return to life of sin.] 

Appreciation 

I appreciate everyone who received today's kingdom message. The reward of being believers will never elude you in Jesus name. 

Closing Prayer: 

Lord Jesus, thank You for making us your masterpiece. We ask that you help us to live and walk worthy of your grace as good vessels you created us to be, doing good works. Let our eyes see, ears hear and feet move according to your will. You have woven us intricately and designed us uniquely to show forth your glory, by your divine grace we will never disappoint you. Let us be reasons others to know you as Savior and let us reign with you in glory, in Jesus name we pray.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate 

about sharing God's words for the healing of others.