Become Your Own Wellness Expert

Become Your Own Wellness Expert by Dr. Omolola Omoteso

Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers. 3 John 1:2

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

John did not pray for health alone. He prayed for health as the soul prospers. That means God cares about the whole person. He cares about your body and He cares about your soul. One should not be healthy while the other is suffering.

Paul tells us why. Your body is not your own. It is a temple. A temple is a place where God dwells. A temple is a place of worship. That is why what you eat matters. That is why rest matters. That is why water matters. That is why movement matters.

Many of us have treated the body as if it does not matter, as if only the spirit matters. But God put your spirit inside a body. If the body breaks down, the work suffers. If the body is tired, prayer becomes hard. If the body is sick, worship becomes heavy.

Wellness is not vanity. Wellness is stewardship. You are taking care of what God gave you to use for Him.

As you enter your 50s, your body starts talking louder. The same things you used to enjoy may no longer agree with you.

You need to learn what works for your body and what does not. Study how your body responds well or reacts angrily to whatever goes into your mouth. Even a small change, from 3 cubes to 5 cubes, can have a huge impact on your wellbeing.

Of course the quality of ingredients matter. If you choose to save money, be mindful of the source.

Here are 11 things to watch as led by the Holy Spirit:

1. Knee and ankle aches

Check your shoes. Is your body now saying no to heels?

2. Waking up tired

Check your bed. Is your old, sinking mattress now in need of change?

3. Having inexplicable headaches

Are you reacting to foods you previously ate infrequently, e.g. cheese? Let me tarry here a bit - The tyramine content in aged cheese can trigger tension headaches and migraines in some people. Aged cheese like aged cheddar, parmesan, blue cheese, brie is high in tyramine and can cause blood vessels to tighten and then relax, and for sensitive people that can bring on a migraine or tension-type headache. It is worse for people who get migraines, have high blood pressure, or take certain medicines like MAOIs

4. Regularly bloating with gas (fart), stomach cramps or gurgling

Check whether you have become intolerant to lactose.

5. Unexplained or secondary fertility issues

Could your thyroid be having issues, or your pituitary enlarged and affecting your hormones? This is something to check especially if you have missed or invisible menstrual cycles; you feel your periods but you don't bleed.

6. Minor heart issues with hip pain or ache

Have your feet checked. It could be from pes planus; flat feet syndrome.

7.  Effect of advanced glycation end-products
You may be experiencing the effect of the salts and fats in the skin of chicken and fish if you went from removing it to eating it.

8. Increase in nuts

Eating nuts in moderation may have no visible effect but you could be experiencing rashes or irritation when you do.

9. No sugar to over-processed pastries

You can experience blurry eyes from blood sugar spikes.

10. Fresh to frozen meals for convenience

Understand that how you store and thaw it matters to ensure wellness.

11. Coffee feels different on slow days

On busy days, the energy from coffee gets used up. On slow days with less to do, that same cup can leave you feeling jittery, shaky, and restless. Eat first, take a smaller cup, and take a short praise walk after.

12. Rest is worship

Many pastors preach about spending the entire night praying, that is their work and calling; they may very well spend the day sleeping or catch up on rest while others plan programmes for them. Your body needs adequate rest and water to heal your spirit, soul, mind and body.

Small changes matter; do not ignore a small increase or decrease if your body complains. What was fine in a small amount may not be fine in a larger amount. Many warn against high salt but no salt is also bad. Also, a bad thing your body has come to adapt to will lead to withdrawal syndrome on the shirt run but better health in the long run.

Please ensure exercise and encouragement becomes part of your routine. Praise walk helps me; it gives my body the movement it needs and my mind the worship God needs that brings me peace.  

I am a doctor of books, not a medical doctor, and the decision you take is your responsibility.

I am sharing this because I hit 3 discoveries myself. When it says rest, rest. When it says stop, stop. When it says this food does not agree with me, listen. That is not weakness. That is wisdom.

Rest is worship. Eating well is worship. Drinking water is worship. Sleeping well is worship. When you take care of the temple, you honour the God who lives inside it.

I pray you prosper in all things. I pray you enjoy good health; as your soul prospers.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Birth the Book

Birth the Book by Dr. Omolola Omoteso

Break away from I will... deadline was yesterday, last month, last year. Do it now! Birth that book TODAY. 

Atinuke was encouraged to publish an online magazine titled healing in his wings after God healed her of cancer. She kept procrastinating. She was told to do it as a blog, as a story, as a script. She never did. One day she was hospitalised and never returned home alive. Now she is dead and never will birth the book. Her name is fast being forgotten, her story is fast being eroded by time. But, I continue to share what she said to me, Sister, if anyone tells you I died of cancer, tell them it is not do, God healed me and out me back on my feet. Doctors said I will never walk again, I stood, I walked, I even ran. Cancer did not kill me it is the man I married that didn't give me peace of mind." Publishing that could raise objection from some quarters YES she authorised me but I can be sued. If she had penned or typed it or said it publicly, it would have been easier to reprint or reproduce as a warning to multitudes. 

The Bible says write down the vision and also that beautiful are the feet that publishes, not just write, the gospel. We overcame by words, words of our testimonies. 

One quote I have birthed to bless the world and continue to say to clients: "What if the Bible was not written?" Just imagine that for a moment. I said to a client recently and she almost fell off her chair, her response was "Ka ma ri!" Meaning literally Never! Such must never be seen! 

God opened a woman's eyes to see that the decision to write a book is synonymous with God giving her a bread and asking her to break and give to others YET she has waited for years. 

Ngozi's first co-authored work was done about 21 years ago and she has waited for years to make it available electronically. She has waited 3 years to publish a new book that will pull people out of darkness into God's light. 

What has Ngozi been doing? She has been trying to ensure things are perfect, so she is going from pillar to post, paying consultants and counsellors which has served her well yet she us pulling back from the one thing she needs to do, birth the book. 

Her problem is not that she does not know what to do. She knows. In her own words, some of the consultants have merely reminded her of what she already knows. In my opinion, God gave her bread to break and give to others so she has the break and knows what to do. She is inspired but her challenge is she keeps saying I will, perhaps when it is perfect, I will, perhaps when the consultants tell me more, I will, perhaps, when the content is perfect. 

Many may have said negative things to you as an author in waiting, life may have tugged at you so your decision is to come out with a bang, but until you birth the book, you have not birthed and may never be called an author. You may have travelled to gain more insight that would add value to the work, but receiving insight that translates to foresight does not auto translate to birth. 

One message Holy Spirit led me to give to a client months ago, no pregnant woman says at nine months, the baby is not fully formed yet. At 9 months the baby pushes through whether the mother feels ready or not, whether the father is present or not. Ngozi have carried this book for years. That is not pregnancy anymore. That is overdue. 

You may be in the same shoes as Ngozi, I have come today to tell you that the job of carrying the pregnancy is over. The season to do the work and birth the book for the salvation, healing and deliverance of humanity is now. 

Proverbs 3:28

Do not say to your neighbour, Go, and come again, tomorrow I will give it, when you have it with you. 

This is the I will verse. Stop pushing to tomorrow. You have the script, break away from I will share, your neighbour, humanity, needs it NOW. 

Hebrews 3:15

Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts.

Deadline was yesterday or day before. Today is the day to birth, you have done enough in the labour room; not next week or next month or next year. You have heard God's voice, birth the book. 

James 4:13-14

You do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. 

I will tomorrow assumes you own tomorrow. You do not. Tomorrow is promised but today is present. 

Ephesians 5:15-16

Be very careful how you live, not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity. 

KJV puts it succinctly: 

See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil. 

Do it now means redeem the time you already wasted. The evil days need eternal words that will translate to warmth or warfare. 

Ecclesiastes 9:10

Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, because there is no work where you are going. 

If you are standing on the part that says do it with your might, know that it establishes the spirit of perfectionism. Putting in power is not the same as doing it now. 

Do it with all your might sounds like try harder, be more perfect, put more power in. That is exactly the trap. You have been putting in purpose, power and might for years with consultants, counsellors, going from pillar to post, and still no birth. 

Doing it now is not the same as doing it perfectly. Doing it now is just letting it come out. Birth the book. Look at the end of that passage, "...because there is no work where you are going." 

As God lays it in your heart, He laid it in the heart of others too to break the bread or birth the book. If you keep delaying, they will push through and then you will say that is the book I am writing, if I publish mine now people will say I copied them but you have had years. What will then happen as you wait for the breaking news or news of other similar works to settle, delay starts afresh, desolation sets in, depression comes. Do it now. Birth the book. 

Genesis 38:27-30 has a story about assumed and actual... the Bible records: 

When the time came for her to give birth, there were twin boys in her womb. As she was giving birth, one of them put out his hand; so the midwife took a scarlet thread and tied it on his wrist and said, This one came out first. But when he drew back his hand, his brother came out, and she said, So this is how you have broken out. And he was named Perez. Then his brother, who had the scarlet thread on his wrist, came out. And he was named Zerah. 

That is the whole story. Tamar's twins, Judah's daughter-in-law. 

Perez means breach, breakthrough, bursting forth, breaking through. It is from the word paratz, to break out, to break through a wall, to burst open. That is why the midwife said, what a breakthrough you have made for yourself. 

Zerah means rising, dawning, to shine forth, brightness. He is the one with the scarlet thread on his wrist. Scarlet is the colour of rising sun. He looked like he would come first, he looked like the dawn, he looked like the rising star or shinning sun everyone would see first. But Zerah pulled his hand back while Perez pushed through and was born first. 

The midwife saw another twin and called it first but Perez pushed through to win; not the baby with the scarlet hand but Perez. 

Zerah was the hand everyone saw first. The hand with the scarlet thread. The polished one. The perfect one. The one the midwife marked. Perez was the one who pushed through and won, even though he was not expected. 

You are not Zerah. You are not the show off, approved, first born or first book that many are waiting for. You are Perez, the one who pushed through in spite of others. The book does not need to be perfect to be born. It needs you to push. In Nigeria we understand the concept of PUSH - pray until something happens. Push till you see the baby, push to birth the book. The hands of the midwife is waiting to receive it; perfect or imperfect. They will wash off the blood and whitish things that comes with. The midwives are trained to wash off the blood and the vernix caseosa, the thick, white, creamy, cheese-like coating that covers a newborn baby's skin in the womb. It is made up of skin cells, oil from the baby's skin glands, and lanugo - the fine hair on the baby. God put it there for a reason. It is not dirt. The imperfections you see or others will see is not dirt, it is raw and tells us becoming does not end at birth. The baby is not born clean and polished. The baby is born with blood and vernix. 

Perez was not born perfect and clean. He was born covered. But he was still born. He was still counted. He still took the first born birthright. 

Your book does not have to come out clean and polished, birth it with the vernix on it. The midwife can only clean it after you push it through. The scarlet hand was seen first, but Perez is the one who took the birthright. 

Perez and Zerah are in the line of Jesus, but every writing and documents note Perez first. Matthew 1:3 says Judah was the father of Perez and Zerah, whose mother was Tamar. 

Quit being Zerah. It is time to quit showing people you have something yet you are refusing to break the bread and share, or perhaps you have broken it, chapterised the book, added the conclusion yet you keep hoarding it. 

You are being Zerah. Zerah put his hand out. Everyone saw it. The midwife even tied a scarlet thread on it, marked it, celebrated it. Look, this one is coming. This one has something. This one is first. Then he drew his hand back. 

Is that you, putting your hands upon the plough and looking back. You keep putting your hand out; you tell your pastors and parents, tell consultants and counsellors, it feels good to attend another seminar, another session to tell the story of the bread God has given you and how great it is and how delicious it will taste but you let the voice of imperfection drown your insight and foresight and by implication testimonies; not just yours but others. Everyone sees the hand. Everyone says, oh yes, you have something. And then it is pulled back into the womb of endless waiting. 

You are not hiding, you are showing yet withdrawing. That is worse than hiding, because hearts see it and their expectation is bruised when the willingness to birth disappears again. 

You keep swimming in the water of the womb that has completed its assignment, refusing to break away to be birthed as a blessing while hearts bruise and yearn for what Jehovah has gifted you. 

The water of the womb has completed its assignment. At 9 months the water is no longer protecting the baby, it is drowning the baby. Staying in is no longer safe. Staying in it is now the danger. 

You may feel safe swimming but this is no longer refreshing it is repose. Quit swimming in delay. While you swim people outside are hungry, bruised, yearning for what Jehovah has already put in your hands. 

Name what it is and bring it into subjection today. 

We are NOT perfect, we are becoming. A child that is not born cannot grow or break boundaries. 

You are waiting to be perfect before you birth it. But you cannot become perfect while you are still holding it in. Every delivery is messy... But soon after the world calls the baby beautiful but it was God who first called humans good... Yet no one is born clean and polished. So, push; birth it imperfect, and let it grow. Birth it now, and let it break boundaries. Today, not tomorrow. 

Perez could not become Perez until he pushed through. While he was still inside, he could not grow, he could not breach, he could not win. He had to be born imperfect to become. 

Zerah showed his hand but pulled back. In pulling back he lost the first born destiny Divinity gifted him. Perez broke through and was born. You keep showing us your hand, but you will not be born. Stop showing us the hand. Come out. Break the bread. Let yourself be birthed as a blessing. The water has done its work. It is time to break away. 

You are holding the bread, neither breaking nor taking the courage to give. 

You are not empty-handed. You are not without bread. You are holding your bread. 

Holding may appear safe. Holding may look spiritual. Holding may look like waiting on God. But holding feeds no one. 

Holding could make your hand sweat, sweat will make the bread stale and then it becomes inedible. 

You are saying tomorrow I will break it. God is saying break it today and give it out. Stop romanticizing about the bread. 

You have been going from pillar to post paying people to tell you what you already know and more things to prepare you but God already told you you are ready, she is ready when He gave you the will and the bread. Now just has break it and give. No broken bread is perfect. 

Many pastors now buy communion that are well chiseled but every time I receive such I break and I tell God to break me so I can fully pour out not from pride but from brokenness. 

The woman broke the jar of alabaster and it was only after breaking she was able to put out. 

You have waited 3 years for perfect, may be longer. Perfect is Zerah. Breakthrough is Perez. Birth the book. 

Bread only feeds when it is broken. And broken feels like loss. It feels like it will not be perfect anymore once you break it. It feels like you will lose control of it. 

Jesus did not hold the bread. Matthew 14:19 says He took it, He blessed it, He broke it, and He gave it. 

The cycle was completed in Matthew 14:19. Take. Bless. Break. Give. Are you stuck between take and bless? You have taken it, you have blessed it for 3 years, you have prayed over it, paid for it, polished it. It is time to break it. 

You are not being punished for holding it. You are being called to break it. The bread in your hands was never meant to stay whole. It was meant to be broken so others can eat. You do not need more courage to make it perfect. You need courage to break what is already in your hands. 

The Bible says cast your bread upon the waters. Let it go so you can find it in many days or find YOU. Unlock greater potentials as you bless lives with your story. 

If you have to publish chapter by chapter or as a whole or as a song or as a podcast, people are waiting for that which you need to break. 

It is through God's broken body that we receive deliverance and redemption. 

A whole loaf feeds no one. A broken loaf feeds multitudes. 

Break it means do a podcast, share excerpts, share quotes, share your testimonies, hand over the manuscript do the book is printed. If it is not perfect other editions can be done. 

Perez had to break through. You have to break the bread. Choose just one of the 5 ways to break this bread, to birth this book and share it today. 

Katherine Khulman achieved a lot for God's kingdom but authored just one book... Katherine Kuhlman carried miracles for 30 years. She authored only one book herself. The rest had to be pulled out of her sermons and transcribed by Jamie Buckingham. Thankfully he did, and that gave the world her bread. But what if there had been no Buckingham? What if no one had been there to transcribe her? Her bread would have died with her voice. 

Do not wait for a Buckingham to rescue your bread. Break it yourself. Birth it yourself. Today. 

Daughter of Destiny was authorized by her and published after she died. 

That book was published in 1976, the year she died. She died February 20, 1976. 

In her lifetime: Buckingham helped her birth 8 books. Thankfully, we have them. 

At her death: Buckingham published the biography she had authorized. Thankfully, we have that too. 

But what if she had waited for the biography to tell the story? We would have only her biography, not her own bread. 

You still have time to do what Kuhlman did in her lifetime, let someone help you break the bread, not wait until someone has to write your story in their own words later. 

Khulmam did not sit down with a pen and author them the way you are authoring yours. The books carry her name, and they carry her voice, her sermons, her radio teachings, but the labour of turning voice into print was done by Buckingham. 

He said himself he wrote eight of her nine books. And even that ninth one was not her sitting alone writing chapters. It was her voice, captured and shaped into a book. 

So technically, she authored nothing with her own hand in her lifetime. She released everything, and the world is blessed. 

If the fear is from the need to be perfect, you do not have to be the publisher or writer to give the world your bread. You just have to let someone break it for you... complete it for you. Buckingham transcribe Khulman. She let him publish her while she was still alive. Thankfully, we are still eating from that bread today. Kuhlman authored nothing with her own pen, yet we are still eating her bread today, because she let it be broken in her lifetime. 

CGN Books can interview you, receive your quotes or unfinished works or words, transcribe your messages or testimonies. Allow someone to publish your own story. We are book midwives, let us help you birth the book.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Meet My Jesus

MEET MY JESUS

Let me introduce you to My Wholesome Awesome God, Someone Special you need to meet.

Not the man made flesh you heard about in a storybook. Not the man of war on a poster on the wall. My Own Jesus. The One I have walked with, worshipped, cried to, prayed to, loved intentionally and watched move again and again in my life and the lives around me

His name is Jesus Christ. I guarantee that if you meet Him, your life will never be the same. Taste and see that my Jesus is very good.

1. HE IS THE JESUS WHO SAVES BEFORE YOU CAN EVEN CALL

In 1974, before I turned one, I swallowed a coin.

Life was already draining out of me. I was dying.

But God sent the woman who became my spiritual mentor, MAMI - my mother my angel. She knew two things others never knew: I could talk, and I could walk at auxh a tender age. So she asked me on arrival from work, and I reportedly said, "wan yaya wa l'ofun mi." Baby talk in Yoruba for I have 1 Naira coin in my throat

She didn't waste time asking me to repeat; she whisked me to the emergency unit, and the coin was surgically removed.

That is my Jesus. He saved my voice before I even knew how to use it. And 53 years after, my voice still talks, still sings, still prophesies, to the glory of God. The devil tried to silence me in my first year. Jesus said, no, this voice will speak for Me.

2. HE IS THE JESUS WHO HEALS WHAT DOCTORS CANNOT

At around 8 or 9 years old, a doctor predicted deafness for me. A medical report said I would no longer hear. But I prayed to God for healing, and deafness was cancelled.

Today, I do not just hear with my natural ears. I hear the inaudible. I hear the gossip of people and the whisper of the Holy Spirit. I hear what heaven is saying. My Jesus does not just fix ears. He opens them to His voice.

3. HE IS THE JESUS WHO DRIVES WHEN YOU CANNOT

I woke up one day from a dream that felt like I was dancing in the sand. I chuckled, but I prayed.

Then on January 6, 2024, while on a 13-hour drive to Louisville, Kentucky, I was talking to someone on the phone when I heard the Holy Spirit say clearly, "Switch to praise." The person wanted to complete a sentence, but I obeyed. I switched to praise.

In that moment, my vehicle began to skid. The 2-year-old vehicle I had driven for about 5 hours no longer heard my skill or responded to me. There was a ditch to the right and a culvert to the left, with cars in front and behind.

I was exasperated but there was no iota of panic when I realised I was no longer in control of the wheels. I removed my hands and closed my eyes and said, "Holy Spirit, drive this car."

The Spirit of Precision took over. The vehicle was aligned by the Holy Spirit. I was saved from death.

To complete the journey I chose to focus on God and God alone, not enemies who tried to snuff out my life in my prime. I returned to complete chaplaincy meritoriously.

I invite you to meet my Jesus; when you can no longer drive, my Jesus can.

4. HE IS THE JESUS YOU CAN TRUST IN THE OPERATING ROOM

I went in to remove 3 tumors, but 83 were removed.

83. Let that number sink in. It is not a number I was randomly told, it was number of tumors removed and brought to me and I counted.

Through it all, thr first surgery that took about 6 hours and the next that took about 4 hours and about 10 pubts of blood in a nation where screening is questionable, I have learned to trust in Jesus.

When the report is bigger than what you expected, He is still bigger than the report. He carried me through. He brought me out. And I am still here, still standing, still testifying.

5. HE IS THE JESUS WHO PROVIDES AND TRANSFORMS

In 25 years of ministry, God has answered my prayers. We have recorded blessings and miracles. One of the things we do are programmes and projects to impart the lives of widows, orphans and children on the streets and mature singles. For every idea, every outreach, we have received supernatural supply.

After realising the children on the streets had no concept of line up or wait, I went to God, and the Holy Spirit directed that we add new things to gifts we share to show the love of Jesus.

We adopted the children under the bridge in Arepo, and we visit them as God blesses us. As we began to give new sandals, new towels, new toiletries, new bags, even new Naira notes, we began to see unprecedented transformation in the children.

One miracle is that any child that tarries with me like Mary did with Jesus gets a scholarship within days of our visit. It happened again last December. Aisha is now in school on a 3-year scholarship.

That is my Jesus. Christ The King who does not just bless me. He blesses through me.

So now I ask you: Have you met Him?

Before you get anything else, get the Bible. Read it. Taste and see that my Jesus is very good.

And you should get the book, Living Proof Jesus Lives; on Amazon or KDP. It is a compendium of miracles God wrought through me. Not to make me look great, but to show you that Jesus is alive.

My Jesus saved me as a baby. He healed me as a child. He drove for me when I could not drive. He carried me through surgery. He provides for the fatherless and opens doors for the forgotten.

He did it for me. He will do it for you.

I present to you Master Jesus, My Special Saviour and Friend.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Salvation and Singleness

Salvation and Singleness by Dr. Omolola Omoteso

I assume you know what each means but how do they interact or intersect?

This is one of the deep things we teach during Divine Connection Biblical Counselling Sessions. If you have NOT signed up, do so soon.

Delaying to marry does NOT affect salvation.

Salvation is not by marriage. It is not by being a husband or wife or by being settled or single. It is by grace through faith in Jesus Christ alone.

Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV records, "For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast."

You do not get saved by marrying on time. You do not lose salvation by marrying late or by never marrying. Sqlvation is offered free but paid for my thr blood of Jesus Christ. Paul was single. He even called singleness a gift in 1 Corinthians 7:7 - I would that all men were even as I myself.

Salvation is being rescued by God. It is God saving you from sin, from separation from Him, and from eternal death, through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. When we receive Him, we are forgiven, made a child of God, and given new life. It is not only about going to heaven one day but being made whole, starting when you said YES LORD.

Sanctification is the process of being made holy. Salvation. Sanctification is God separating you from sin, and shaping you to look more like Jesus Christ in our thoughts, desires, character, your choices. It is beyond forgiveness; it is to be transformed.

So where does the connection come in?

1. Marriage is about sanctification, not salvation.
Salvation is what God does for me and you; debt free. Sanctification is what God does in us over a lifetime.

Delay, loneliness, sexual temptation, pressure from family, fear of commitment, financial struggle, past wounds — those do not unsave us. They reveal where we still need to grow, heal, and be disciplined.

2. The danger is not being single. The danger is what singleness exposes. For many bachelors, the real issues are not the wedding date or dance. They are:

- Lust managed in secret instead of confessed

- Comfort becoming idolatry; "I will serve God fully when I marry"

- Fear disguised as "waiting on God"

- Using "God has not provided" to avoid taking responsibility

- Loneliness turning into bitterness, isolation or reason to court pornography

Those things doesn't mean you are not saved. They mean you are not yet surrendered in that area. And unrepentant sin left alone will choke your walk, your joy, and your witness, even if it does not cancel The Cross.

3. God uses singleness to show you what you worship.
If you believe "I will be whole when I marry," then marriage has become your saviour. That is the issue. When we thibj this way, marriage may never come.

My husband's slogan was, I can't marry without a job so whenever he found a good woman he would lose his job and when he has a good job, there would be no good woman ready to commit to marriage. He did that dance until he canceled our wedding date.

God led me to see the issue, I counseled him and we focused in the God who makes all things beautiful in His own time. We came to a point where we decided, with or without job, we will marry. We received the miracle of good jobs the same day because we turned our focus away from crisis to Christ. Our wedding and marriage was beautified by God.

A bachelor who is saved learns this:

Christ is enough to make me whole now and can meet all my needs. Marriage, if it comes, will not complete me. It will reveal me and stretch me.

That is why Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:32-35, the single man can care for the things of the Lord without distraction. Singleness is not a waiting room for real life. It is real life, with real purpose.

So to say it clearly:

Your salvation is settled by Christ.
Your singleness is shaping your character.
Your delay is not a disqualification.

If it is a curse, the Bible already said the causeless curse shall not come.

As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come." — Proverbs 26:2 KJV

That means a curse without a cause has no landing place. It cannot settle on you. If there is no door you opened, no covenant you entered, no sin you are holding on to, then that fear has no legal ground.

And even if there was a legal ground or cause, Christ became a curse for us, that the blessing of Abraham might come upon us.

Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the law, being made a curse for us. — Galatians 3:13 KJV

So you do not fight delay by fearing a curse. You fight it by standing in the finished work of Jesus Christ.

No causeless curse can hold a son or daughter of God who is already blessed and highly favoured.

Don't ask, "Am I still saved because I am still single?" Ask, "Am I using this season to become the man God is calling me to be — purposeful, disciplined, pure, steady, and content in Christ — whether marriage comes now, later, or never?"

How then do we relate the SWOT analysis to delay to marry and journey focused on marital breakthrough and marital bliss?

This is where it gets practical. Salvation is settled. Sanctification is the work. And SWOT shows you where the work is.

Delay is not just spiritual. It is also personal, emotional, financial, and relational. If you do not name it honestly, you will keep praying for breakthrough while protecting the very things blocking you from getting married.

Here is the SWOT for a bachelor on the journey to marital breakthrough and marital bliss:

1. STRENGTHS - What God has already given you.

These are internal. You already carry them.

Time and focus:
You can seek God, build, serve, travel and grow without divided attention. Paul calls this an advantage. 1 Corinthians 7:32

Knowledge:
Years of singleness have taught you what you want, what tickles or triggers you, what you will not tolerate again.

Independence:
You have learned to survive, provide, pray, play and stand alone. That is big.

Spiritual sensitivity:
Many delayed bachelors are more prayerful, more discerning, more serious about God than they were at 22, 32 or 42.

Here is a breakthrough question you need to ask?

Are you using your strengths to prepare, or just to endure? Strength unused becomes fear or frustration. Strength used translates to purpose or preparation.

2. WEAKNESSES - What is delaying you from inside

Yours may have spiritual dimension, it may include complexities, financial burden, work fatigue, apathy, psychological conditioning, also finding the right woman... You may have toiled all night like Peter or have anthropology of challenges like the man by the pool of Bethesda but all these issues are internal. Sadly, this is where most men lie to themselves.

Fear of commitment:
Not fear of marriage but fear of being exposed as poor or pained, fear of failing or losing freedom.

Unhealed wounds:
Past heartbreak, wounds from parents, siblings or friends, church hurt, rejection from those you may have reached out to for marriage or money.

Sexual compromise:
The Bible records that it is better to marry than to burn but when you choose to marry but there is no wife and you decide that burning publicly will bring shame you turn to masturbation, pornography, emotional affairs, "just talking" and gleaning warmth from women you have no intention of marrying. This kills confidence and clarity.

Financial indiscipline:
You can blame it on enemies of progress but no savings, no plan, no stability is on you and wanting a wife who has it all becomes a tool for manipulation which couod make an intending spouse wonder if you can be trusted with the future.

Perfectionism:
Waiting for the perfect woman, perfect job, perfect timing. Perfectionism is fear covered up either by agbada or suit.

Passivity:
You stay in the mantra, "God will bring her" forgetting God said "He who finds..." not he who accepts. That mantra keeps you warm while you court the pain and refiae to heal, build or position yourself.

- Ego and pride
Yes a man who is passive will soon reveal arrogance. When you confront his passivity, ego and pride show up to defend it.

Passivity says, "I will not move."
Ego says, "I don't need to move."
Pride says, "How dare you tell me to move."

That is why many men stay stuck. It is not that they don't know what to do. It is that pride will not let them admit they have not been doing it or lethargy has set in. After Passivity comes ego. Ego is passivity dressed up as strength.

I will say more on ego and pride in my next message or post.

3. OPPORTUNITIES - What God has placed around you

These are external. Outside you, but available to you.

Godly community:
A church, men's group, mentors, older married couples who can speak truth and model bliss, not just wedding photos.

Growth resources:
Counselling, deliverance, financial coaching, books, conferences. Help is not a sign of weakness.

Healthy exposure:
Meeting women in purposeful environments, not just DMs and chance encounters.
Purpose before partner:
Building a vision, a business, a ministry, a stable life. A woman is drawn to direction, not desperation. Now that you have a woman

Healing season:
This delay can be your preparation room, not your punishment room.

Divine Connection:
Being introduce to a woman you may never have met because someone mentioned your name in Europe!

Breakthrough question:
Are you positioned to translate friendship or relationship to courtship or marriage? Or are you hidden, isolated, and hoping?

Ruth did not stay in Moab waiting. She positioned herself in Bethlehem, in the field, working. She elected NOT to serve a rich fool but positioned herself with a thriving kinsman as led by her mother in law turned mentor and midwife

4. THREATS - What can destroy the journey, if you ignore it

These are also external, but they attack from inside when you let them.

Comparison:
Watching friends, siblings or even children you raised marry, have children, post bliss, while you feel behind. Comparison turns delay into shame. Interestingly no one compares himself to dead colleagues or struggling peers. If we do, we would turn comparison to songs of praise a la mo dupe temi! 😆

Family pressure:
"When will you marry?" "Are you the problem?" Within one week of my husband dying one or two were already saying to me, you will marry again o! You are so young. You pressured me into this one that just ended; when will you play pause! Pressure can push you to marry the wrong person fast.

Cultural lies:
"If you marry late, you have failed." "A real man marries by 30." "Enjoy your freedom now that you are single." All extremes are traps.

The enemy's accusations:
"God has forgotten you." "You are too broken." "You will die single." That is not conviction. That is condemnation. And thr Bible says, there is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus!

Settling:
Marrying out of loneliness, age panic, or sexual pressure. Settling leads to a wedding without bliss and a marriage devoid of peace.

Bliss warning:
Breakthrough is not just getting married. Bliss is staying married in love, truth, and peace. If you marry to escape threats, you will carry the threats into the marriage and they will sink you if you escape being sued!

Enough said! Look out for my next messages:

Ego and Pride: Two Thieves on the Love Cross

Moving From SWOT To Breakthrough To Bliss

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is an ordained minister who is passionate about sharing God's word, for the healing of others.

Shift Ends, Work Continues

Shift Ends, Work Continues by Rev. Dr. Omolola Omoteso

Yes! When the shift ends, the WORK remains

The title brings me to remember a dearly beloved woman of God - Ms. Willie May. We met at Fellowship Deaconry; she went to be with the Lord in 2023... She was a blessing indeed. Before we met she had visited Nigeria on a medical mission trip.

She always end every greeting and meeting with "We Continue". She has continued the race of lifeafter in the bosom of our Lord Jesus Christ.

We all have work not just a job.

A job is what they pay you to do and it shifts. Mother spent 29 years at her job, one day it ended but her work of touching lives with prophetic and pastoral calling continued  

Work is what Divinity gifted you to do on this earth and it stays.

Let me tell you the difference.

I know a woman who worked in a nursing home. On paper, her job was simple. Arrive. Answer. Bed. Bath. Check. Change... A. B. C. Clock in, clock out.

That was her job.

But that was never her work.

Her work was to care and heal. Sitting with people the world had forgotten. Holding a shaking hand when family did not come. Praying silently as she walked the hallway and over the patient laid on a pillow. Interceeding on her drive in and drive out. Upholsing dignity of sick patient even when they hurl insults at her. Quietly advocating and changing the mindset of those who have been manipulated into chores for which they never signed so owners can make more profit. Arriving to make an old woman laugh again when she had not laughed in weeks. Responding to thr complaints of an elderly man carrying for his unwell wife. Looking into the eyes of clients to project healing when the world has sealed dying.

She did not just change sheets. She changed atmospheres. She did not just alter the cause of damnation and diseases, she delivered destinies.

One day, the shift was suddenly silenced; the job ended, as jobs do. The contract was over. She solemnly bade farewell to the nursing home.

The employer was excited that the woman who interfered with their trade was gone but her work was not done.

Not because the people she touched will call her. Not because the families will remember her. Not because those she trained still carry her kindness or the old woman she sat with still said, That lady prayed for me but because the work of caring and healing continues beyond a place or space. Scrubs came off but scriptures continue.

The earth is the Lord's and the fullness thereof and our commission is beyond Samaria and Judea, to the uttermost parts of the earth.

The job ended. The work continued.

That is the difference.

A job ends when salary stops or they stop paying you. Your work continues because God never stopped sending you.

A job pays your bills.
Your work fulfills your calling.

A job can fire you here on earth.
Your work fired up in you, follows you even to heaven.

A job is what you do for a company or client.
Your work is what God trusted you to do for humanity.

A job is in a building.
Your work is in you.

A job can be taken.
Your work can only be abandoned - and even then, God will keep calling you back to it. His calling is without repentance.

So many of us are focused on the job and we have forgotten the work.

Many of us are busy with the job, and we have abandoned the work.

We clock in, we clock out, we complain, we survive - but we never ask: Lord, what did you actually give or gift ME to do?

We ask:
How much will they pay me?
What is my title?
What is my schedule?

We never ask:
Lord, what did you send or gift me to do in this place?
God, what did you send me to earth for?
Holy Spirit, who needs the anointing I carry?

If you don't know the work that Divinity gifted you, don't guess, don't copy somebody else, don't chase what is trending.

Pray the prayer of inquisition.

Not a cute prayer. Not a quick prayer. Inquire of the Lord... an inquisition prayer. A prayer that speaks to Divinity until you receive answers. We cannot query God but we can ask Him questions about why He sent us here.

Pray it like this:

Lord Jesus, what did you put in me before you sent me here? What is my work? Show me, Lord. Show me the path to purpose.

It was Jacob who said, I will not let you go until you bless me. Ask for the blessing of insight into your struggle over job so you can receive your mandate for work.

Pray it in the morning.
Pray it in the afternoon.
Pray it in the evening.
Pray it in the night.
Pray it at midnight.
Pray it until your heart yearns for one thing and you cannot rest until you do it.

Pray
Until
Something
Happens

Some of us have been faithful to a job that was never our work. And some of us have buried our work because our job is louder and the title made us popular.

It is time to see what we are called to do and never let earning a pay cheque derail destiny.

Understand that for every job there is Artemis and Diana... if you interfere with their trade they will rise up spirituallly or physically. Stay focused and pick your battles.

For lasting peace, focus more on your work, rather than your job. Your job will end one day. Your work will echo after you.

That woman in the nursing home?

She is no longer on the payroll but her work is still walking those hallways. In every person she loved. In every person she healed without a prescription. In every person who received the blessing of returning home.

Her God is still paying her bills and opening up more rooms to do the work Divinity gifted

What is your work?

Grace Always!

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.