Meet My Jesus

MEET MY JESUS

Let me introduce you to My Wholesome Awesome God, Someone Special you need to meet.

Not the man made flesh you heard about in a storybook. Not the man of war on a poster on the wall. My Own Jesus. The One I have walked with, worshipped, cried to, prayed to, loved intentionally and watched move again and again in my life and the lives around me

His name is Jesus Christ. I guarantee that if you meet Him, your life will never be the same. Taste and see that my Jesus is very good.

1. HE IS THE JESUS WHO SAVES BEFORE YOU CAN EVEN CALL

In 1974, before I turned one, I swallowed a coin.

Life was already draining out of me. I was dying.

But God sent the woman who became my spiritual mentor, MAMI - my mother my angel. She knew two things others never knew: I could talk, and I could walk at auxh a tender age. So she asked me on arrival from work, and I reportedly said, "wan yaya wa l'ofun mi." Baby talk in Yoruba for I have 1 Naira coin in my throat

She didn't waste time asking me to repeat; she whisked me to the emergency unit, and the coin was surgically removed.

That is my Jesus. He saved my voice before I even knew how to use it. And 53 years after, my voice still talks, still sings, still prophesies, to the glory of God. The devil tried to silence me in my first year. Jesus said, no, this voice will speak for Me.

2. HE IS THE JESUS WHO HEALS WHAT DOCTORS CANNOT

At around 8 or 9 years old, a doctor predicted deafness for me. A medical report said I would no longer hear. But I prayed to God for healing, and deafness was cancelled.

Today, I do not just hear with my natural ears. I hear the inaudible. I hear the gossip of people and the whisper of the Holy Spirit. I hear what heaven is saying. My Jesus does not just fix ears. He opens them to His voice.

3. HE IS THE JESUS WHO DRIVES WHEN YOU CANNOT

I woke up one day from a dream that felt like I was dancing in the sand. I chuckled, but I prayed.

Then on January 6, 2024, while on a 13-hour drive to Louisville, Kentucky, I was talking to someone on the phone when I heard the Holy Spirit say clearly, "Switch to praise." The person wanted to complete a sentence, but I obeyed. I switched to praise.

In that moment, my vehicle began to skid. The 2-year-old vehicle I had driven for about 5 hours no longer heard my skill or responded to me. There was a ditch to the right and a culvert to the left, with cars in front and behind.

I was exasperated but there was no iota of panic when I realised I was no longer in control of the wheels. I removed my hands and closed my eyes and said, "Holy Spirit, drive this car."

The Spirit of Precision took over. The vehicle was aligned by the Holy Spirit. I was saved from death.

To complete the journey I chose to focus on God and God alone, not enemies who tried to snuff out my life in my prime. I returned to complete chaplaincy meritoriously.

I invite you to meet my Jesus; when you can no longer drive, my Jesus can.

4. HE IS THE JESUS YOU CAN TRUST IN THE OPERATING ROOM

I went in to remove 3 tumors, but 83 were removed.

83. Let that number sink in. It is not a number I was randomly told, it was number of tumors removed and brought to me and I counted.

Through it all, thr first surgery that took about 6 hours and the next that took about 4 hours and about 10 pubts of blood in a nation where screening is questionable, I have learned to trust in Jesus.

When the report is bigger than what you expected, He is still bigger than the report. He carried me through. He brought me out. And I am still here, still standing, still testifying.

5. HE IS THE JESUS WHO PROVIDES AND TRANSFORMS

In 25 years of ministry, God has answered my prayers. We have recorded blessings and miracles. One of the things we do are programmes and projects to impart the lives of widows, orphans and children on the streets and mature singles. For every idea, every outreach, we have received supernatural supply.

After realising the children on the streets had no concept of line up or wait, I went to God, and the Holy Spirit directed that we add new things to gifts we share to show the love of Jesus.

We adopted the children under the bridge in Arepo, and we visit them as God blesses us. As we began to give new sandals, new towels, new toiletries, new bags, even new Naira notes, we began to see unprecedented transformation in the children.

One miracle is that any child that tarries with me like Mary did with Jesus gets a scholarship within days of our visit. It happened again last December. Aisha is now in school on a 3-year scholarship.

That is my Jesus. Christ The King who does not just bless me. He blesses through me.

So now I ask you: Have you met Him?

Before you get anything else, get the Bible. Read it. Taste and see that my Jesus is very good.

And you should get the book, Living Proof Jesus Lives; on Amazon or KDP. It is a compendium of miracles God wrought through me. Not to make me look great, but to show you that Jesus is alive.

My Jesus saved me as a baby. He healed me as a child. He drove for me when I could not drive. He carried me through surgery. He provides for the fatherless and opens doors for the forgotten.

He did it for me. He will do it for you.

I present to you Master Jesus, My Special Saviour and Friend.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Salvation and Singleness

Salvation and Singleness by Dr. Omolola Omoteso

I assume you know what each means but how do they interact or intersect?

This is one of the deep things we teach during Divine Connection Biblical Counselling Sessions. If you have NOT signed up, do so soon.

Delaying to marry does NOT affect salvation.

Salvation is not by marriage. It is not by being a husband or wife or by being settled or single. It is by grace through faith in Jesus Christ alone.

Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV records, "For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast."

You do not get saved by marrying on time. You do not lose salvation by marrying late or by never marrying. Sqlvation is offered free but paid for my thr blood of Jesus Christ. Paul was single. He even called singleness a gift in 1 Corinthians 7:7 - I would that all men were even as I myself.

Salvation is being rescued by God. It is God saving you from sin, from separation from Him, and from eternal death, through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. When we receive Him, we are forgiven, made a child of God, and given new life. It is not only about going to heaven one day but being made whole, starting when you said YES LORD.

Sanctification is the process of being made holy. Salvation. Sanctification is God separating you from sin, and shaping you to look more like Jesus Christ in our thoughts, desires, character, your choices. It is beyond forgiveness; it is to be transformed.

So where does the connection come in?

1. Marriage is about sanctification, not salvation.
Salvation is what God does for me and you; debt free. Sanctification is what God does in us over a lifetime.

Delay, loneliness, sexual temptation, pressure from family, fear of commitment, financial struggle, past wounds — those do not unsave us. They reveal where we still need to grow, heal, and be disciplined.

2. The danger is not being single. The danger is what singleness exposes. For many bachelors, the real issues are not the wedding date or dance. They are:

- Lust managed in secret instead of confessed

- Comfort becoming idolatry; "I will serve God fully when I marry"

- Fear disguised as "waiting on God"

- Using "God has not provided" to avoid taking responsibility

- Loneliness turning into bitterness, isolation or reason to court pornography

Those things doesn't mean you are not saved. They mean you are not yet surrendered in that area. And unrepentant sin left alone will choke your walk, your joy, and your witness, even if it does not cancel The Cross.

3. God uses singleness to show you what you worship.
If you believe "I will be whole when I marry," then marriage has become your saviour. That is the issue. When we thibj this way, marriage may never come.

My husband's slogan was, I can't marry without a job so whenever he found a good woman he would lose his job and when he has a good job, there would be no good woman ready to commit to marriage. He did that dance until he canceled our wedding date.

God led me to see the issue, I counseled him and we focused in the God who makes all things beautiful in His own time. We came to a point where we decided, with or without job, we will marry. We received the miracle of good jobs the same day because we turned our focus away from crisis to Christ. Our wedding and marriage was beautified by God.

A bachelor who is saved learns this:

Christ is enough to make me whole now and can meet all my needs. Marriage, if it comes, will not complete me. It will reveal me and stretch me.

That is why Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:32-35, the single man can care for the things of the Lord without distraction. Singleness is not a waiting room for real life. It is real life, with real purpose.

So to say it clearly:

Your salvation is settled by Christ.
Your singleness is shaping your character.
Your delay is not a disqualification.

If it is a curse, the Bible already said the causeless curse shall not come.

As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come." — Proverbs 26:2 KJV

That means a curse without a cause has no landing place. It cannot settle on you. If there is no door you opened, no covenant you entered, no sin you are holding on to, then that fear has no legal ground.

And even if there was a legal ground or cause, Christ became a curse for us, that the blessing of Abraham might come upon us.

Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the law, being made a curse for us. — Galatians 3:13 KJV

So you do not fight delay by fearing a curse. You fight it by standing in the finished work of Jesus Christ.

No causeless curse can hold a son or daughter of God who is already blessed and highly favoured.

Don't ask, "Am I still saved because I am still single?" Ask, "Am I using this season to become the man God is calling me to be — purposeful, disciplined, pure, steady, and content in Christ — whether marriage comes now, later, or never?"

How then do we relate the SWOT analysis to delay to marry and journey focused on marital breakthrough and marital bliss?

This is where it gets practical. Salvation is settled. Sanctification is the work. And SWOT shows you where the work is.

Delay is not just spiritual. It is also personal, emotional, financial, and relational. If you do not name it honestly, you will keep praying for breakthrough while protecting the very things blocking you from getting married.

Here is the SWOT for a bachelor on the journey to marital breakthrough and marital bliss:

1. STRENGTHS - What God has already given you.

These are internal. You already carry them.

Time and focus:
You can seek God, build, serve, travel and grow without divided attention. Paul calls this an advantage. 1 Corinthians 7:32

Knowledge:
Years of singleness have taught you what you want, what tickles or triggers you, what you will not tolerate again.

Independence:
You have learned to survive, provide, pray, play and stand alone. That is big.

Spiritual sensitivity:
Many delayed bachelors are more prayerful, more discerning, more serious about God than they were at 22, 32 or 42.

Here is a breakthrough question you need to ask?

Are you using your strengths to prepare, or just to endure? Strength unused becomes fear or frustration. Strength used translates to purpose or preparation.

2. WEAKNESSES - What is delaying you from inside

Yours may have spiritual dimension, it may include complexities, financial burden, work fatigue, apathy, psychological conditioning, also finding the right woman... You may have toiled all night like Peter or have anthropology of challenges like the man by the pool of Bethesda but all these issues are internal. Sadly, this is where most men lie to themselves.

Fear of commitment:
Not fear of marriage but fear of being exposed as poor or pained, fear of failing or losing freedom.

Unhealed wounds:
Past heartbreak, wounds from parents, siblings or friends, church hurt, rejection from those you may have reached out to for marriage or money.

Sexual compromise:
The Bible records that it is better to marry than to burn but when you choose to marry but there is no wife and you decide that burning publicly will bring shame you turn to masturbation, pornography, emotional affairs, "just talking" and gleaning warmth from women you have no intention of marrying. This kills confidence and clarity.

Financial indiscipline:
You can blame it on enemies of progress but no savings, no plan, no stability is on you and wanting a wife who has it all becomes a tool for manipulation which couod make an intending spouse wonder if you can be trusted with the future.

Perfectionism:
Waiting for the perfect woman, perfect job, perfect timing. Perfectionism is fear covered up either by agbada or suit.

Passivity:
You stay in the mantra, "God will bring her" forgetting God said "He who finds..." not he who accepts. That mantra keeps you warm while you court the pain and refiae to heal, build or position yourself.

- Ego and pride
Yes a man who is passive will soon reveal arrogance. When you confront his passivity, ego and pride show up to defend it.

Passivity says, "I will not move."
Ego says, "I don't need to move."
Pride says, "How dare you tell me to move."

That is why many men stay stuck. It is not that they don't know what to do. It is that pride will not let them admit they have not been doing it or lethargy has set in. After Passivity comes ego. Ego is passivity dressed up as strength.

I will say more on ego and pride in my next message or post.

3. OPPORTUNITIES - What God has placed around you

These are external. Outside you, but available to you.

Godly community:
A church, men's group, mentors, older married couples who can speak truth and model bliss, not just wedding photos.

Growth resources:
Counselling, deliverance, financial coaching, books, conferences. Help is not a sign of weakness.

Healthy exposure:
Meeting women in purposeful environments, not just DMs and chance encounters.
Purpose before partner:
Building a vision, a business, a ministry, a stable life. A woman is drawn to direction, not desperation. Now that you have a woman

Healing season:
This delay can be your preparation room, not your punishment room.

Divine Connection:
Being introduce to a woman you may never have met because someone mentioned your name in Europe!

Breakthrough question:
Are you positioned to translate friendship or relationship to courtship or marriage? Or are you hidden, isolated, and hoping?

Ruth did not stay in Moab waiting. She positioned herself in Bethlehem, in the field, working. She elected NOT to serve a rich fool but positioned herself with a thriving kinsman as led by her mother in law turned mentor and midwife

4. THREATS - What can destroy the journey, if you ignore it

These are also external, but they attack from inside when you let them.

Comparison:
Watching friends, siblings or even children you raised marry, have children, post bliss, while you feel behind. Comparison turns delay into shame. Interestingly no one compares himself to dead colleagues or struggling peers. If we do, we would turn comparison to songs of praise a la mo dupe temi! 😆

Family pressure:
"When will you marry?" "Are you the problem?" Within one week of my husband dying one or two were already saying to me, you will marry again o! You are so young. You pressured me into this one that just ended; when will you play pause! Pressure can push you to marry the wrong person fast.

Cultural lies:
"If you marry late, you have failed." "A real man marries by 30." "Enjoy your freedom now that you are single." All extremes are traps.

The enemy's accusations:
"God has forgotten you." "You are too broken." "You will die single." That is not conviction. That is condemnation. And thr Bible says, there is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus!

Settling:
Marrying out of loneliness, age panic, or sexual pressure. Settling leads to a wedding without bliss and a marriage devoid of peace.

Bliss warning:
Breakthrough is not just getting married. Bliss is staying married in love, truth, and peace. If you marry to escape threats, you will carry the threats into the marriage and they will sink you if you escape being sued!

Enough said! Look out for my next messages:

Ego and Pride: Two Thieves on the Love Cross

Moving From SWOT To Breakthrough To Bliss

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is an ordained minister who is passionate about sharing God's word, for the healing of others.

WHY MARRIAGES FAIL

WHY MARRIAGES FAIL - The 5 D's

1. DISOBEDIENCE - to God.

Genesis 2:24 says leave and cleave. When we don't obey - parents still controlling, refusing to forgive, refusing to love as Christ loved - the foundation cracks. This is not just disobeying your spouse, it is disobeying God's design. God said leave, cleave, become one flesh, love as Christ, submit as unto the Lord, forgive 70x7. When we choose culture over scripture, family idol over spouse, ego over instruction, we build on sand. Every disobedience opens a door. Example: A man who will not leave his mother's control cannot cleave to his wife. A wife who will not forgive keeps a record that becomes bitterness.

2. DECEPTION - to each other.

Lies, hidden money, hidden phone, half-truths. Marriage cannot survive where truth is not safe, Colossians 3:9..Marriage thrives on truth. Deception is not only big lies like adultery. It is small hidden things - hidden debt, hidden phone password, hidden resentment, pretending to be fine. Once one lie is covered, you need another to cover it. The intimacy dies because intimacy requires to be fully known. Where there is deception, there is suspicion. And suspicion is the death of rest.

3. DISRESPECT - for the covenant.

Husband stops loving sacrificially, wife stops respecting. When Ephesians 5:33 breaks, contempt enters. Ephesians 5:33 gives the two charges - husband love, wife respect. When a husband uses harsh words, neglects, does not provide or protect, he dishonours his own body. When a wife uses contempt, public shaming, comparison, silent treatment, she dishonours her own head. Dishonour makes the home unsafe. People don't stay where they are not honoured. Contempt is the highest predictor of divorce - eye-rolling, mockery, "you are useless."

4. DEFILEMENT - of the bed.

Adultery, porn, lust. Once purity is broken, trust is broken.

Hebrews 13:4 - Marriage is honourable... but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Defilement is bringing a third party into a covenant of two. It can be a person through adultery, or an image through porn, or fantasy through emotional affairs. Once the bed is defiled, trust is shattered. The mind that should be pure towards one becomes divided. Defilement also invites spirits - lust, guilt, lying - that further destroy. Many marriages are physically together but sexually defiled in private

5. DISCONNECTION - from one another.

No more talking, praying, intimacy. No big blow-up, just slow drift - until you become roommates instead of soulmates. This is the silent killer. No fight, no affair, just drift. You stop talking beyond logistics - "have you paid school fees?" You stop praying together. You stop touching non-sexually. You stop laughing. Two people living parallel lives, scrolling separate phones in the same bed. The marriage does not explode, it starves to death. Disconnection is why many say "we just fell out of love." Love did not fall, you stopped feeding it.

Disobedience starts it, Deception feeds it, Disrespect normalises it, Defilement breaks it, Disconnection buries it. Disobedience removes the foundation, Deception removes the truth, Disrespect removes the safety, Defilement removes the purity, Disconnection removes the life.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

FIFI GBIGBO SE ALAIGBO

THEME: FIFI GBIGBO SE ALAIGBO - When Hearing Falls Short of Harkening

"Be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves." - James 1:22

Beloved Brethren,

I have noticed something in our midst with love, not judgment. When it is a birthday or a new birth, many respond. Why? 

One person greets, another follows, the line becomes easy to join. 

But when it is about the work of the group - breaking into chapters, instructions for growth, assignments, request for feedback or follow through - only one or two respond. Even some chapter leaders come privately to ask what was already written. It shows a quiet struggle.

The Holy Spirit opened my eyes: The issue is not rebellion. The issue is many are NOT reading.  The truth is many who respond following a post about birthday or birth never read the original post; they just joined those celebrating.

The crisis is this, when we do not read directly, we cannot heed diligently.

1. The Difference Between Gbo (To Hear) and Gba (To Receive)

In Yoruba, we say ma fi gbigbo se alaigbo - never hear but silence or ignore what is heard, never pretend you never heard because us you do, there is no action. But heaven counts hearing only when it produces heeding, Divinity counts listening when it produces learning.

Jesus said in Luke 8:18 - "Take heed therefore how ye hear."

There are three levels:

Gbo - to hear
Gba - to receive and understand
Se - to do

Many stop at Gbo. God waits for Se.

2. Low Reading Produces Low Response, and Low Response Produces Low Growth

If we do not read the message or instruction, we cannot respond to it appropriately. If we do not respond, the house cannot be built well together.

It is not that people do not love the house. It is that the habit of reading has become small. And when reading is small, participation is small, and discernment becomes small.

The Israelites heard Moses, but Psalm 95:8 says "Harden not your heart." Why? Because hearing without doing hardens the heart slowly.

3. Silent Disobedience - The Quiet Disconnect

This is not loud rebellion. It is silent resistance.

Instructions are posted. We see the notification. We scroll past. We intend to read later. Later never comes. The leader ask again, but we already missed the moment of obedience.

Jesus called this out in Matthew 13:15 - "For this people's heart is waxed gross, and their ears are dull of hearing." Not deaf, just dull. Hearing but not hearkening.

Silent disobedience does not shout "I will not do." It just does nothing.

4. How This Affects Our Discernment and Walk with the Holy Spirit

This is the most important part.

The Holy Spirit speaks in a still small voice - 1 Kings 19:12. If we train ourselves to ignore clear written instructions from human that we can see, how will we catch the small whisper of the Holy Spirit whom we cannot see?

Jesus said in John 14:26 - "The Holy Ghost... shall bring all things to your remembrance." He can only bring to remembrance what we first took time to read and receive.

If reading is low:
Discernment becomes weak, because we missed the practice of paying attention.
Relationship becomes distant, because relationship is built on listening and responding.
Instructions from heaven begin to look like just another message to scroll past.

Intimacy with the Holy Spirit becomes strained because it is built on obedience.

Our Gentle Counsel Moving Forward - No Guilt, Just Growth

1. Read before you react. 

Let us make a covenant: when an official message is posted, pause and read fully before any other chat. Proverbs 18:13 says to answer before hearing is folly.

2. From hearing to hearkening. 

After reading, ask: "What is required of me? Which chapter? What date? What action?" Write it down.

3. Respond as a form of honour. 

A simple "Seen, I will join Group 1" is not for me, it is honour for the body. It helps your chapter leader not to labour twice.

4. Leaders, let us model. 

If we as leaders read and respond quickly, the house will follow. Let us not be the ones asking privately for what was already written publicly.

5. If you prefer NOT to read.

If you choose bot to read or have read and need clarity, reach a fellow member or minister first. This leads the person first to go and read, if yet to read. Please honour those who took time to write and post in detail by not asking them to re-explain what is already written. Let us help one another to catch up.

Brethren, I love you. This is not to shame anyone. The Holy Spirit is not condemning us - Romans 8:1 says there is now no condemnation. He is inviting us to a deeper attention and by implication deeper affection and intimacy.

May we not be hearers who behave as if we did not hear. May we be those of whom God says in Luke 11:28 - "Blessed are they that hear the word of God, and keep it."

Let our hearing become hearkening, and our hearkening become heeding.

Amen.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Who Are You. What Do You See.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso

Who Are You. What Do You See.

Let us pray:
Ancient of Days, we thank You for life, for loving, for love, for leverage and for laughter.

Psalm 119:130 records that the entrance of Thy words giveth light; it giveth understanding unto the simple.

We come in simplicity; let Your Word lighten our paths and brighten our minds. Let Your enlightenment and encouragement flow in as darkness and discouragement dissipate.

Thank You for all who are gathered at this assembly. Let them know who they are in You and help them to see You and all You want them to see clearly, in Jesus' name.

As hinted before now, I bring you the message titled, "Who Are You and What Do You See?"

I already ministered extensively on who you are in this assembly, but what do you see is a fresh word from the Holy Spirit to me and you.

Have you ever felt like God was asking you two questions at the same time:

1. Who are you?
2. What do you see?

That is exactly what He asked two different people in Scripture. And when they answered, everything changed.

Things will change for you as you respond through the leading of the Holy Spirit.

Let us unpack each, but first I need 3-5 people to respond. But let me clarify:

Who are you beyond your titles?

Beyond the title of sister, wife, daughter, friend, pastor, deaconess, nurse, mother, teacher, coach, consultant, entrepreneur - who are you? If you are stripped of all titles, who are you?

I pray we will never be stripped, but let us answer: before or beyond the titles, who are you?

We have done this before and we narrowed it down to the fact that we are who God says we are - winners, not worriers; royal, not wretched; successful, not suppressed.

Responses received:

Minister Taiwo Ojo responded that she is God's daughter, sent to be a blessing in different ways.

I let her know what was missing in the identity description. As she is sent to give, she must also position herself to receive so as to avoid burnout.

When we see ourselves as worthy of giving only, we may miss the opportunity to be refreshed, and burnout may be inevitable.

I need another 5 to respond to this...

What do you see when you walk the streets, visit the hospital or work there, take your children to school, go to the market, sit in traffic?

Sis. Kemi Aborisade:
I see the wonders and mercies of God upon His creatures and the privilege of being His child and enjoying being under His shield for protection.

Sis. Bukonla Awokoya:
I see the faithfulness of God. He still answers prayers.

But one member I called, Sis. Yemi Ajayi, who may have spoken for the first time, gave the answer I was looking for:

She shared a description of her visit to the hospital where some are fed, bathed, and even helped with toileting and hygiene. She ended by acknowledging God's grace upon her and her family.

Many thanks for the responses received.

Let me push forward the question - Do you see just crowds and problems, or do you see what God sees?

Let me share what I saw.

I was in a hospital hall recently and I saw a woman who used to be the life of her family. Her food tray lay on her bedside table a short distance from her while she sat on the twin bed, staring into oblivion.

The food was within reach, but blindness prevented her from reaching it. The person responsible for feeding her avoided her room because she displayed psychosis every now and then and had been known to hit, scratch, or push. I did NOT see a sick woman as others did. I saw a woman created by God, whom life has happened to.

I walked in calmly and said a word of prayer as I moved closer. I avoided walking stealthily because training made me know that just happening upon her could make her react aggressively. I walked quietly but in a way that made her aware of my presence. I am sure she felt more than presence... she felt power from the anointing that some may be blinded to.

When I got close, I greeted her, held and slightly rubbed the back of her hand, and I said, "Ma'am, your food is here; may I feed you?" She is known to feed herself, but the table could be messed up, and if she happens to be angry, she could push away the table, splashing food all around.

Already her room showed signs of disarray. I prayerfully began to feed her, concentrating only on the feeding. I sensed she was conscious of spills, so I handed her a napkin, granting her autonomy. The way she cleaned her mouth told me she was a woman of decorum and class.

She once had sight, success, people, and all that pertains to a good life, going by the photos around her, but life happened, I believe with the death of her husband. She snapped and entered into sickness. When we refuse to be comforted, grief can become a lifetime crisis.

She was emotionless at first, and gradually she began to smile as she ate more and more. I stopped short of feeding her all the food on the plate. She could not make a decision on when to stop receiving food or drink; I had to gauge that she was full.

This is not a sight we see often, but if we are mindful, such is around us daily. People who have lost the divine essence of who they are and who they ought to be.

But one thing is certain, even in her circumstance, God's love is still available for and to her; the question is, does she know it or does she feel it?

She definitely did in the way I treated her - with dignity, discipline, and decorum.

Her room was upside down, and I saw later that she was trying to move, but things she threw around in a previous state of psychosis prevented her from finding her wheelchair. I put her in her chair, ensured she was safe, and cleared up her room. It was while laying her bed that she spoke for the first time, a few hours after I fed her.

"Nurse, can you give me my jacket? I am cold." She never said a word from when I fed her till that point. But as she sensed she was safe and loved, she asked for help. I had no idea where her jacket was, so I covered her with a blanket and laid her bed. She said, "Thank you."

Divinity is with her. Humanity is in her, but who she has become informed what others see and affected how she is treated - as a recluse. I treated her with dignity, and both divinity and humanity were reactivated.

We will never lose what makes us who God says we are, in Jesus' name.

Do you truly know who you are?

Do you truly see the deep needs around you?

1. Who are you?
God defines you before the world does.

Abigail had wisdom and influence, but this was affected and afflicted in widowhood. Let us read 1 Samuel 25:41:

"She bowed down with her face to the ground and said, 'I am your servant and am ready to serve you and wash the feet of my lord's servants.'"

Some call this humility, but it was debasement.

This was a woman who had insight beyond vision and had prophesied to David in 1 Samuel 25:30 - "The Lord will appoint you ruler over Israel, and when He does, you will not have this heavy load on your mind..."

Who are you? You are who God says you are, NOT who the world defines based on your academic record or accomplishment.

The word of the Lord came to me, saying, "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations." Jeremiah 1:4-5.

Jeremiah's first problem was not his calling. It was his identity. He must have shouted in Jeremiah 1:6:

"Alas, Sovereign Lord, I said, I do not know how to speak; I am too young."

That should sound familiar - I am too young. I am too old. I am too broken. I am not qualified. I recollect saying about my husband - he is too old, and he also said she is too young, but God who connected us collapsed the 26-year gap when we yielded to His will.

We all have a version of "I am."

I am just a wife.
I am just a volunteer.
I am just trying to make it.
I am just a teacher!

That one annoys me. Being a teacher is noble and must never be belittled. I am a teacher; a shaper of purpose, a transformation strategist who marshals destinies!

We must never let the world use our titles, our roles, even our wounds to rename us. God already did in 1 Peter 2:9:

"But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of Him who hath called you..."

Back to Jeremiah, did you notice God does not argue with Jeremiah's insecurity? He goes deeper when Jeremiah tried to go backwards.

Before your parents met. Before your resume. Before your failures and your wins. God knew you. God set you apart. God appointed you.

Who are you?

I am happy to let you know that:

You are not your job title.
You are not your trauma.
You are not what people called you in high school.

In high school I was called oju igo, SBM - small but mighty, MT - Margaret Thatcher, flat arse because they believed my behind was shaped like the Britons!

To God, I am a Mighty Woman of Valour, Daughter of the Most High God. Even as a child, I had a relationship with the Holy Spirit who led me in the path of righteousness for the sake of His Holy Name.

You are who God said you were before you took your first breath. Picture the race that happened before the womb - the million sperm cells racing to one or two eggs, and you won!

The world will always try to rename you - angry, anxious, tired, behind, single, divorced, not enough - BUT glory to God who named you first.

Set apart.
Chosen.
Known.
Appointed.
Sent.

The Lord answered Jeremiah:

"Do not say, 'I am too young.' You must go to everyone I send you to and say whatever I command you. Do not be afraid of them, for I am with you and will rescue you, declares the Lord." Jeremiah 1:7-8.

Your identity is not something you build. It is something you receive. And once you receive it, fear loses its grip because you are not going in your own name. You are going in the name above all names - El Shaddai, Elohim.

When you know who you are in God, you stop performing for people and start walking in purpose.

2. What do you see?
God reframes what is in front of you.

God sees your future.

Let us see another story. Elisha and his servant were surrounded by an enemy army.

I invite you to, in the eyes you use to visualise that Bible story, go to the streets. The hospital ward. The market.

The servant wakes up, sees horses and chariots, and panics:

"Oh no, my lord, what shall we do?" - 2 Kings 6:15.

He saw the problem. And it was real. The army was there. But Elisha, who has vision, saw much more, so he prayed, "O Lord, open his eyes so he may see."

"Then the Lord opened the servant's eyes, and he looked and saw the hills full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha." 2 Kings 6:17.

Same mountain. Same street. Two different sights. Do you need God to refresh, restore, and renew you?

The servant saw danger. The servant saw what was against them. The servant saw a mighty army coming to annihilate them.

Elisha saw God's army. Elisha saw what was for him. What do you see?

When you walk the streets, do you see strangers, or solutions for people Jesus died for?

When you are in the hospital, do you see charts, shifts, and sicknesses, or hurting people who need prayer?

When you go to the market, do you see prices and pressure, men and women struggling in various degrees and prices rising astronomically, or opportunities to show kindness and encouragement?

I used to go home happily after going to the market. Why? I would haggle and get what I considered a great bargain, until God opened my eyes to see that the happiness was one-sided! I may have cheated someone struggling out of gain or profit.

What do you see when you look at your family or friend - a mess to run from or a mission field to run towards?

What do you see when you look at your church - a failed system, manipulative pastors, politics, or people Jesus died for?

What do you see when you look at yourself in the mirror - your monthly flow, flaws, or God's workmanship? Can someone read Ephesians 2:10?

"For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them."

The problem was not that the servant was wrong. The army was real.

The problem was that he could not see anything else. His limited sight negatively impacted his spiritual vision.

Burnout, fear, and people-pleasing all start when we see only one layer of reality.
God's invitation is still - "Let Me open your eyes."

3. When identity and vision meet, obedience happens.

It was while in the woman's room that God ministered this message to me and the Holy Spirit spelled out why it is needed in this season when loss seems to be recurrent. Worse still is the loss of self, loss of our real image.

Over the last couple of months, I have heard of a pastor whose parents died within a week of each other. I have heard of a female pastor whose sister's death triggered the death of their mother, and also of a male pastor whose brother's death triggered the death of their father at 102.

Was it death that took them, or grief, or what will people say?

Who you are and what you see determines your level of resilience. If when life happens, all you say is "I cannot move on," you may be speaking death to your destiny.

Moshood Kasimawo Abiola got his middle name from being tagged a child who kept coming to inflict his parents with pain - Abiku. In spite of the expectation that even his own birth will end in death, his parents decided to celebrate his naming as they did other children. They borrowed money to buy a ram or goat, and when mockery humiliated them for celebrating in poverty, they named him Kasimawo - well, let us keep watching whether he will survive. He did and became successful. But when he stopped seeing God and grace, he died on his journey to becoming the first widely unanimously elected president in Nigeria.

When many women go to conferences, they plan to connect with the big names, but the Holy Spirit led me differently. Before I go, I say, "Lord, lead me, guide me, connect me, make me a blessing and send others to bless me..."

In Nigeria, I met a woman who said, "I will be coming to the USA." I immediately connected with her and continued to encourage her. She had a loss and I stood by her. I connected with her again during the Feast in Dallas. I was interested in her divine positioning and I honoured God in her. I saw a woman who carries grace. When she needed someone to minister at her big conference, she didn't look for a big known name; she immediately said, "You are coming as our Guest Minister." She added, "It will be in person and we will sponsor your participation, which includes hotel and air ticket." Someone just arriving in America, yet doing what many are unable to do.

God puts these two questions together on purpose - if you do not know who you are, you will see everything through fear rather than faith, through limitations the world points out to you rather than the love that led God to create us in His Divine Image. Rather than being anchored in church, anguish will trail the journey of life.

Who do people who see you see? Do they see a woman of God, the glory of God, the light shining in darkness? What do you see when you look at others?

If you do not know what to see, you will waste the identity and the calling God gave you. When I meet men called mad on the streets of Ibadan, I see husbands and leaders, so I begin to decree that their original destinies be restored. I cry out to God like I know their families.

A man was helped to the hospital by another man recently. Soon a woman joined them. While his pain was clearly visible, I saw a man who needed God's grace and a woman in his life. I immediately saw him as a husband to one of our sisters. Sadly, I didn't have the audacity to approach him. He was there for therapy, and I was concerned my words could have been misread. Those two were legally or occupationally assigned to him, and they were in the least concerned for his health but there to earn their pay. His aloneness and pain hit me, and I am still praying for his wellness.

Jeremiah accepted who he was once God gave him clarity; a prophet not just to his native city but to the nations.

So when he looked at corrupt kings and collapsing nations, he did not say, "Too big for me." He did not say, "God help you."
He said, "This is what I was set apart for."

"See, today I appoint you over nations and kingdoms to uproot and tear down, to build and to plant." Jeremiah 1:10.

God was not sending him to be popular. He was sending him to be faithful.
And faithfulness starts when we stop asking - Who do people think I am?
and start asking - Who does God say I am?

Deborah said audaciously in the Book of Judges 5:7 KJV:

"The inhabitants of the villages ceased, they ceased in Israel, until that I Deborah arose, that I arose a mother in Israel."

Many women run away from leadership. Are you running?

Many women turn a blind eye when they see children walking the path of rebellion, affliction, or addiction. Is that you?

It is time for us to stop pointing fingers but to start wielding our faith and ask God, "What would You have me do? What are You doing in the lives of my loved ones that I am yet to see? What are You doing in my marriage?" When we see the beautiful tomorrow of the lives around us, we start guiding and guarding towards that path.

Years before one of us here acknowledged my mentorship and leadership, God had led me to see a leader in her, and I prophesied that she is called to lead. She struggled but eventually submitted herself for training. As mentorship chiseled what God already deposited in her, her light shone. Your light will shine. My light will shine.

She was in a season when anger and anguish should have become more visible, but grace grew in her and she glowed.

Omolola is glowing. Omolola will shine.

This week, take these two questions with you to work, to market, to the hospital, to your home. Ask God who you are and what He wants you to see; commit to asking the Holy Spirit to see what God says you are.

Song:

I am who God says I am
I am a winner and not a loser
I am who God says I am

Who are you?

Beyond every title, you are God's. Ephesians 2:10 says you are His workmanship.

Write down the lies you have previously believed about yourself. Then write Jeremiah 1:5 over those lies:

Before I formed you I knew you. I set you apart. You are not an accident. You are an appointment. You have an assignment.

What do you see, beloved?

Name and list the enemy army in front of you right now. The bills. The diagnosis. The relationship. The long line before your turn. The dwindling expectation...

Now pray Elisha's prayer: "Lord God of Omolola, open my eyes."

Let us dig into two stories - Bartimaeus and the Israelites.

Do you know why Blind Bartimaeus' nickname never changed? Do you know why the Israelites remained poor and enslaved after being led out of poverty and slavery?

I will tell you why. Bartimaeus' physical blindness was healed but never his mental vision. He remained spiritually blind. The Israelites were taken out of slavery and poverty, but there was no knowledge transfer and mind surgery to take enslavement out of them. They only knew how to be slaves!

Until you learn, unlearn, and relearn, you will sit in the grief of "Help Me Lord!" No doubt it is sweet to sing and the prayer is apt. But we must learn to walk in the confidence that "Baba ti gba mi," God has helped us. We must walk in confidence, make decrees, and ask for time and season to work for us while still praying... "Jesu gba mi!" Help Me Lord!

I need you to ask God:

Where are the chariots of fire?

Where is God already at work that I have missed because I am staring at the problem?

You do not need new circumstances. You need new sight, insight, and inspiration.

You do not need a new identity. You need to believe the one you already have in Christ Jesus.

Not wounded but worthy
Not sad but saved
Not lonely but loved


The only time you need a new identity is if you are yet to accept Jesus as your Personal Lord and Saviour.

This is an opportunity for you to reach out. If God is calling you into the family of Jesus, reach out to any of our leaders to minister salvation to you.

I ask you again, not to pressure you, but to invite you into supernatural identity, divine humanity, and Christlike dignity.

Who are you, beyond your titles?

What do you see, when you look at yourself

What do you see when you walk through your day?

But what does Jesus see?

The woman at the well saw the age-old conflict between Samaritans and Jews, but Jesus saw a woman in need of the Living Water. Rather than judgment, He advocated for her. We must love beyond the walls.

What do you see?

What would you say to Jesus?

As we close, I pray that your answer would be, "Jesus, I am Your own."

I am your own, I am your own
Till the day you will come
Jesus, I am your own

I am your own, I am your own
Till the day you will come
Jesus, I am your own

I need you to bow your heads and talk to God about divinity, your identity, your humanity, your dignity, and your visibility as I continue to sing this song.

I am your own, I am your own
Till the day you will come
Jesus, I am your own

You are my everything
You are my standard
Till the day you will come again
Jesus, I am ylur own

I am your own, I am your own
Till the day you will come again
Jesus, I am your own

You are my melody
You are my song
Till the day Christ will come

"Speaking in Tongues"

I am your own, I am Your own
Till the day you will come again
Jesus, I am your own

Go ahead and speak in your heavenly language if you are able to, or in understanding if you are unable to speak in heavenly language.

When the woman at the will encountered Jesus,, she herself as Jesus saw her. Her real identity was revealed and she went away joyfully testifying.

God desires to hear you.

Declare after me
By the power of the Holy Spirit, I remain yours and see like you see, I see with your eyes in Jesus' majestic name! Amen.

Prayer Points

1.  Prayer for Identity
2.  Prayer for Vision
3.  Prayer for Dignity and Compassion
4.  Prayer for Resilience in Loss
5.  Prayer for Faithful Obedience

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.