The Perfected Rest

Day 2: Winning Daily

The Perfected Rest
Genesis 8:4

Divine Settlement

How to Enter Into Divine Settlement

1. Surrender the fight

Psalm 37:5 Commit your way to the Lord
Stop forcing doors or controlling the timeline. 

2. Obey the last instruction

Deuteronomy 28:1-2 God settles the obedient.
There is progressive revelation. Last year He may have said "wait." If He says "go" this year, go gallantly. 
  

3. Stay in His Presence

Psalm 132:14 here will I dwell
Settlement is in His habitation.  We read an expanded version yesterday. Psalm 132:12-14
God is not taking you in circles. He is leading you to your Zion. A place where your voice, gifts, and family will rest and multiply. The Lord encouraged Abraham with His presence and friendship. Yahweh appeared to Abraham “in the heat of the day.” Abraham responded: _“My lord, if now I have found favor in your sight, please do not pass your servant by,”_ *Genesis 18:3*. He was eager to encounter God.

4. Encounter God

Abraham served in worship — for divine settlement you must be personally involved. Abraham sought God, developed intimacy, and God revealed Himself. Supplicate — ask humbly or earnestly, and that is why we are praying.

5. It Comes After Process, Not Before

God won’t settle an unsettled character. He first perfects, establishes, strengthens, and settles_ you on the inside, 1 Peter 5:10, before He does it on the outside. Otherwise the blessing would destroy you.

Key:
Settlement is not the end of warfare. It’s the end of being a wanderer.

Quick Check:
Are you asking God for location or for settlement?

He can move you to a new place in a day. I told you how God blessed me with 17 shoes in one day. But settlement is when He makes _you_ new, so the place, the location, condition or position can hold you.

Know The God of Divine Settlement

Rewarder Hebrews 11:6
He is a rewarder of them that diligently seek Him.

Restorer Joel 2:25
I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten.

Redeemer Joshua 1:8
Meditate on the Word day and night, and you shall have good success. (John 3:16, Proverbs 18:10)

Recoverer 1 Samuel 30:8
Pursue: for thou shalt surely overtake them, and without fail recover all.

Refuge Proverbs 18:10
The name of the Lord is a strong tower: the righteous runneth into it, and is safe.

Rebuilder Isaiah 61:4
They shall build the old wastes… and repair the waste cities.

God will settle us in Jesus name

Declaration

Isaiah 50:7
Help me, O Lord, let me not be put to shame.

Job 14:7-9
There is HOPE. Say it out loud: there is hope for me.

You labour to enter His rest, Hebrews 4:11.

Prayer Points

1. Holy Ghost, perfect all that concerns me and restore me completely. 

2. Almighty God, settle me in my Rehoboth and restore all that is lost. 

3. Holy Spirit, strengthen and establish Your anointing upon my life for the benefit of the church, community and generations. 

4. Great Jehovah, anoint me with fresh oil and settle me into a new beginning. 

5. Lord Jesus, uproot every stronghold of contention and confusion. From today, I destroy the covenant of failure and fruitlessness.

Pastor: Motunrayo Akinola

Intercessor: Omolola Omoteso

Mrs. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Is He The One

How Can I Be Sure He Is The One?

We all ask(ed) it at some point: *“But God, how can I be sure he’s the one?”

God’s answer is seldom a name, face or voice. It is a standard. The right man won’t just love you. He will reflect God to you.

What standards should you look out for?

1. Steadfast, sacrificial love
He will love you as Jesus Christ love the church after the order in Ephesians 5:25.

2. Cherishes your heart
He will cherish the person within not just your appearance after the order in 1 Peter 3:4.

3. Leads with integrity against temptation
He will stand firm against worldly temptations after the order in 1 Corinthians 16:13

4. Guides you toward God, away from chaos
After the order in Proverbs 4:25-27, his eyes will look straight ahead to make level paths for his feet.

5. Patience that seeks to understand
This is the issue I had with my fiance, hasty conclusion. The one after God's heart must take the time to truly understand you after the order in 1 Peter 3:7 which ask us to be considerate as we live with wives or wives to be.

6. Honors your worth as partner and individual
He will recognise your worth and honour you as commanded after the order in 1 Peter 3:7 which says we are heirs with God of the gracious gift of life.

7. Accountable when tempted
He will choose to hold himself accountable after the order in Proverbs 28:13 which counsel thay those who conceals their sin will not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.

8. Pursues growth for both of you
He will grow for the betterment of himself, you and those around him after the order in 2 Peter 3:18 that ask us to grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord.

9. Gentle, nurturing love
His love for you will be gentle and nurturing, wrapping you in kindness after the order in Ephesians 5:29

10. Builds a future of faith in love
The one will intentionally create without rigidity, a future established on and filled with love, respect, and faith after the order in Proverbs 24:3-4.

11. Reflects God and walks with believers
He will reflect the heart of God by walking, standing, sitting in the company of believers after the order in Psalm 1:1-3.

12. Intimacy with the Holy Spirit
The Spirit of Truth, the Holy Spirit will dwell with him and shall be in him, not as visitor or guest but as teacher guide, comforter, and friend after the order in John 14:17

13. Voice for the voiceless
He will speak out for voiceless, defend the weak and support the poor after the order in Proverbs 31:8-9

14. Prosperous in righteousness
As he continues in the assembly of the righteous, he will prosper with incorruptible fruits after the order on Psalm 1:3

15. The Flip Side – His Standard and Yours Too
If he is stumbling or stalling in any of the ways shared above, and you have established that He is God's will for your journey, you will stand strong with and by him in faith and faithfulness after the order in Ecclesiastes 4:9 which states that two are better than one, because they have a good return and I daresay reward for their labour.

In Conclusion

This is NOT just what you should expect from him, it is what God expects from you too.

Romans 8:17
NOW if we are children, then we are heirs: heirs of God and joint heirs with Christ.

In Excel Leadership Academy where we train and retrain people in the art of listening, excellence and Asking, we stand on Romans 12:2 that ask us NOT to be conformed to the pattern we see in this world but to be transformed by the renewing of our minds so that, we may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God

The man God desires for you won’t chase shadows or worldly patterns. He will stand firm, lead with integrity and guide you closer to God.

This is the difference between a man who reflects culture versus a man who reflects Christ.

This is a no doubt a long list and I can compress it into just one which is He must be God's will, know God's word and walk in God's way.

You are not looking for Mr. Perfect, you are in search of direction. A man planted by the water of God’s Word will grow, even if he’s not fully grown yet.

I urge you to focus on the standard, not sensation.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

African Children, Heirs of Purpose

AFRICA'S CHILDREN, GOD'S PROJECT:
FROM ORPHANS OF CIRCUMSTANCE TO HEIRS OF PURPOSE

Day of the African Child Message

Text: Psalm 127:3-5; Galatians 4:6-7; 1 Samuel 3:1-10

The African Child is NOT a statistic of poverty, war, or broken systems. In God’s eyes, every African child is a “heritage” and an “arrow”, loaded, aimed, and waiting to be shot into destiny. Our commemoration today must move past pity to partnership with God’s project.

3 Points:

1. They Are Heritage, Not Headache

Psalm 127:3, Children are a heritage from the Lord. Many see them as load or burden but God sees them as legacy. When the church treats children as ministry future, not ministry distraction, nations shift.

2. Their Cry Has a Name: Abba

Galatian 4:6-7. Many African children cry from abuse, illiteracy, homelessness, drug, trafficking. But the Spirit teaches them to cry “Abba, Father”. Ministry to children is beyond food and school fees. It is introducing them to their true Father before the world names them “lost cause”.

3. God Still Calls Out to Children in the Noise

1 Samuel 3:1-10. Eli’s generation was corrupt, but God called Samuel, a child, in the dark. Africa’s systems may be noisy and failing, but God is still calling children to be prophets, builders, healers. Our job: like Eli, say “Speak Lord, your servant is listening” on their behalf.

Today, as we commemorate the Day of the African Child, we remember not only the struggles many African children face but also the courage, resilience, and destiny that God has deposited within them.

The Day of the African Child was born from the sacrifice of children who demanded access to education and a better future. While the world often defines the African child by poverty, conflict, displacement, or broken systems, God defines every child as His heritage, His workmanship, and His arrow prepared for destiny.

The African child is not a project to be managed but a purpose to be nurtured. Every child carries divine potential waiting for godly guidance, protection, and opportunity.

Our commemoration today must move beyond sympathy to stewardship, beyond charity to discipleship, and beyond celebration to intentional investment in God's project for Africa.

Five Prayer Points

• Father, preserve the lives and destinies of Africa's children from every form of violence, abuse, trafficking, exploitation, and premature death. Isaiah 54:13

• Lord, raise Samuels from among Africa's children—children who will hear Your voice and transform nations. 1 Samuel 3:10

• Father, restore every child who has been robbed of education, opportunity, identity, and hope. Let their future be recovered. Joel 2:25

• Lord, strengthen parents, guardians, churches, schools, and governments to nurture children according to Your purpose. Proverbs 22:6

• Father, make the children of Africa arrows in Your hand, launching them into leadership, innovation, righteousness, and kingdom impact across the nations. Psalm 127:4

Altar Call + Charge to Church

What kind of generation will we leave behind?

Will we be spectators while children struggle, or stewards who shape destiny?

Will we be like Eli who accommodates corruption, tolerated decline, or like Eli who finally pointed Samuel toward God's voice?

Day of the African Child is our reminder: invest now, or bury potential later.

The Day of the African Child asks every believer a question:

The future of Africa is sitting in our homes, classrooms, churches, streets, and communities today.

Let us commit ourselves to raising children who know God, hear His voice, discover their purpose, and impact the world for His glory.

For every African child is not merely a survivor of circumstance but an heir of purpose, a heritage from the Lord, and an arrow in His hand. Amen.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

10 Signs You Are Overthinking

 

 

10 Signs You Are Overthinking Instead of Trusting God

5 ways to move from over thinking to trusting God

The following will help you know if you are overthinking issues yet claim to trust God:

1. Lack of Understanding of God's Sovereignty:

You may not fully comprehend God's control and goodness, leading to worry and overthinking.

2. Fear and anxiety:

Deep-seated fears and anxieties can cause you to overthink, even if you trust God.

3. Human nature:

Humans have a natural tendency to analyse and control situations, analysis paralysis, which can lead to overthinking.

4. Past experiences:

Traumatic or negative experiences can lead to overthinking as a coping mechanism.

5. Misconceptions about trust:

You may believe that trusting God means having all the answers or outcomes, rather than surrendering control.

6. Lack of faith development:

You may wrongly believe that trusting God is a muscle that needs to be exercised; if that muscle appears not to be developed, overthinking can prevail

7. Satanic influence:

Spiritual forces can tempt individuals to doubt and overthink, undermining you trust in God.

8. Perfectionism:

Some individuals may feel the need to control or analyse situations to ensure perfect outcomes.

9. Lack of prayer and surrender:

Failing to surrender all including social anxiety, pride and fear and bring concerns to God in prayer can lead to overthinking.

10. Intellectualism:

Overemphasising intellect and reason can lead to overthinking, rather than relying on faith and trust.

Remember, trust is a journey, and it is normal to struggle with overthinking.

My encouragement for you is to:

1. Seek God’s wisdom, James 1:5

Seek God's wisdom. Ask Him to guide your thoughts and decisions.

2. Surrender in prayer, 1 Peter 5:7

Practice this by handing over what you can’t control instead of carrying it alone.

3. Remember who God is,

Numbers 23:19
Focus on His character, promises, and past faithfulness.

4. Let your faith grow through practice, Proverbs 3:5-6

Acknowledge God and develop faith. Trust is built by small acts of surrender.

5. Lean on your community, Hebrews 10:24-25

Seek support from fellowship and mentors. Let other believers encourage and remind you of the truth.

Overthinking feels heavy because you were never meant to carry it alone. Trusting God doesn’t mean your mind goes quiet overnight — it means you keep bringing the noise back to Him.

Trust in God is a journey, and struggling with overthinking doesn’t mean your faith is fake. The goal isn’t to have zero doubts, but to bring those doubts back to Him.

God is not waiting for you to have it all figured out. He wants you to bring the overthinking, the fear, and the questions to Him and let Him carry them.

God desires to help individuals overcome overthinking and grow in trust.

Surrender and let God help you.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Gray Divorce

Undeestanding and Mitigating Gray Divorce

Divorce in 60s is called “gray divorce,” and it has been rising for decades. The reasons are different from what breaks up younger marriages.

1. People live longer and re-evaluate
In 1960, life expectancy at 60 was ∼18 more years. Now it’s ∼23-25 more years. Couples realize they’re looking at another 20+ years with someone they’ve drifted from, and decide they don’t want that. “Staying for the children” is no longer a factor.

2. The “empty nest” reveals the gap
When children leave the home, the shared project that held the marriage together disappears. If the couple did not maintain friendship and intimacy, they are left as roommates with little in common.

3. Retirement changes the dynamic
Retirement forces what could be 24/7 proximity after decades of separate routines. Resentments that were manageable when you only saw each other in the evenings or weekends come to the surface. Some couples discover they dislike spending much time together.

4. Women have more financial and social independence
More women in their 60s now have their own pensions, savings, and social networks. They are less likely to stay in an unhappy or disrespectful marriage for economic survival, which was common for their mothers’ generation.

5. Longer-term unaddressed issues surface
Infidelity, addiction, emotional neglect, mismatched values, or controlling behaviour often existed for years. People tolerated it while raising children or building a career. In later life, they choose peace over endurance.

6. Different visions for “retirement”
One spouse wants to travel and be active. The other wants to stay home and garden. One wants to relocate near children or even go and live with them. The other prefers to remain home with a spouse at beck and call. If they cannot reconcile preferences, some split to live the life they want in the time they have left.

7. It is less stigmatised
Divorce at 60 isn’t the social taboo it was 40 years ago. People see peers do it and realise it is possible without total social stigma.

The counterpoint:

Most marriages that make it to 60 don’t end. The divorce rate for people 65+ is still lower than for people 25-49. It is just that the rate has roughly doubled since 1990 while younger divorce rates have fallen.

Our sister who asked the question during Divine Connection Channel did because someone she knows is going through this, the main pattern is that it is rarely impulsive.

Gray Divorce happens as a result of years of disconnection that both people finally stop ignoring.

Gray divorce is rising. In South Korea, divorces after 30+ years of marriage outpaced early-marriage divorces for the first time in 2025. In the U.S., the divorce rate for adults 65+ nearly tripled from 1990 to 2022, and Allianz’s 2025 study notes it is still increasing even as overall divorce rates dip.

The drivers are different than for younger couples as already noted; longer life expectancy, children leaving home, women’s financial independence, and reevaluating “is this all there is?”.

Here are 5 biblical principles that directly counter those pressures and can help us plan to mitigate gray divorce rather than live in fear of experiencing this:

1. Covenant Over Contract:

Bible References - Matthew 19:6, Malachi 2:14 

Marriage is a covenant before God, not just a contract between two people. Gray divorce often happens when couples treat marriage as a conditional arrangement - “I’ll stay if you make me happy.” A covenant mindset shifts it to “We made a vow before God, so we have a responsibility to work through this.” It creates a foundation stronger than feelings or empty-nest boredom.

I encourage those anticipating gray divorce to revisit wedding vows. What did you actually promise each other? That reframes problems from “deal-breakers” to “things we vowed to face together.”

2. Forgiveness and Forbearing With One Another

Bible References - Colossians 3:13, Ephesians 4:32

After 30+ years, resentment piles up. Small hurts from 1995 still sting in 2026. Unforgiveness is a top reason older couples drift apart.

Gray divorce drops when couples practice regular, specific forgiveness and stop weaponising the past. It is not about pretending it didn’t happen, but refusing to let it run the marriage now.

3. Renewing Love Through Intentional Intimacy

Bible References - 1 Peter 3:7, Song of Solomon 7:10-11

Love here is agape- active, sacrificial, chosen daily. Many gray divorces happen because couples become roommates after children leave. Biblical love is intentional, not just what is left after everything else or when there is nothing else.

Go out again. Court again. Remember what you saw in each other that led to a YES. Pray together. Talk about dreams for the next 20 years, not just the past 30. Rebuilding friendship and romance directly counters “we’ve grown apart.”

4. Contentment and Guarding Against Idols

Bible References - 1 Timothy 6:6, Psalm 73:25-26

Some gray divorces are driven by “I want to be happy before I die” - a search for a new identity, relationship or lifestyle. Scripture calls that idolatry of self-fulfillment.

Ask: “What am I looking for outside this marriage that I believe will finally make me whole?” Bringing that to God diffuses the urge to start over.

5. Community and Accountability

Biblical References - Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, Hebrews 10:24-25

Isolation kills marriages. Older couples often pull back from church or community after retirement. Without outside voices, small problems become divorce.
Practical angle: Build networks nd grow interest outside marriage because love is never enough. Stay plugged into family friends, marriage-small group, older couple mentors, or a pastor. External perspective and prayer support make it harder to make a 50-year decision in a week of frustration.

Whether you are young or older, my prayer is that God will sustain you and keep union that extends the borders of your joy stronger. And if marriage brought you pain, my prayer is that you will enter into a season of deep healing where you will learn to live freely and love again.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.