Meet My Jesus

MEET MY JESUS

Let me introduce you to My Wholesome Awesome God, Someone Special you need to meet.

Not the man made flesh you heard about in a storybook. Not the man of war on a poster on the wall. My Own Jesus. The One I have walked with, worshipped, cried to, prayed to, loved intentionally and watched move again and again in my life and the lives around me

His name is Jesus Christ. I guarantee that if you meet Him, your life will never be the same. Taste and see that my Jesus is very good.

1. HE IS THE JESUS WHO SAVES BEFORE YOU CAN EVEN CALL

In 1974, before I turned one, I swallowed a coin.

Life was already draining out of me. I was dying.

But God sent the woman who became my spiritual mentor, MAMI - my mother my angel. She knew two things others never knew: I could talk, and I could walk at auxh a tender age. So she asked me on arrival from work, and I reportedly said, "wan yaya wa l'ofun mi." Baby talk in Yoruba for I have 1 Naira coin in my throat

She didn't waste time asking me to repeat; she whisked me to the emergency unit, and the coin was surgically removed.

That is my Jesus. He saved my voice before I even knew how to use it. And 53 years after, my voice still talks, still sings, still prophesies, to the glory of God. The devil tried to silence me in my first year. Jesus said, no, this voice will speak for Me.

2. HE IS THE JESUS WHO HEALS WHAT DOCTORS CANNOT

At around 8 or 9 years old, a doctor predicted deafness for me. A medical report said I would no longer hear. But I prayed to God for healing, and deafness was cancelled.

Today, I do not just hear with my natural ears. I hear the inaudible. I hear the gossip of people and the whisper of the Holy Spirit. I hear what heaven is saying. My Jesus does not just fix ears. He opens them to His voice.

3. HE IS THE JESUS WHO DRIVES WHEN YOU CANNOT

I woke up one day from a dream that felt like I was dancing in the sand. I chuckled, but I prayed.

Then on January 6, 2024, while on a 13-hour drive to Louisville, Kentucky, I was talking to someone on the phone when I heard the Holy Spirit say clearly, "Switch to praise." The person wanted to complete a sentence, but I obeyed. I switched to praise.

In that moment, my vehicle began to skid. The 2-year-old vehicle I had driven for about 5 hours no longer heard my skill or responded to me. There was a ditch to the right and a culvert to the left, with cars in front and behind.

I was exasperated but there was no iota of panic when I realised I was no longer in control of the wheels. I removed my hands and closed my eyes and said, "Holy Spirit, drive this car."

The Spirit of Precision took over. The vehicle was aligned by the Holy Spirit. I was saved from death.

To complete the journey I chose to focus on God and God alone, not enemies who tried to snuff out my life in my prime. I returned to complete chaplaincy meritoriously.

I invite you to meet my Jesus; when you can no longer drive, my Jesus can.

4. HE IS THE JESUS YOU CAN TRUST IN THE OPERATING ROOM

I went in to remove 3 tumors, but 83 were removed.

83. Let that number sink in. It is not a number I was randomly told, it was number of tumors removed and brought to me and I counted.

Through it all, thr first surgery that took about 6 hours and the next that took about 4 hours and about 10 pubts of blood in a nation where screening is questionable, I have learned to trust in Jesus.

When the report is bigger than what you expected, He is still bigger than the report. He carried me through. He brought me out. And I am still here, still standing, still testifying.

5. HE IS THE JESUS WHO PROVIDES AND TRANSFORMS

In 25 years of ministry, God has answered my prayers. We have recorded blessings and miracles. One of the things we do are programmes and projects to impart the lives of widows, orphans and children on the streets and mature singles. For every idea, every outreach, we have received supernatural supply.

After realising the children on the streets had no concept of line up or wait, I went to God, and the Holy Spirit directed that we add new things to gifts we share to show the love of Jesus.

We adopted the children under the bridge in Arepo, and we visit them as God blesses us. As we began to give new sandals, new towels, new toiletries, new bags, even new Naira notes, we began to see unprecedented transformation in the children.

One miracle is that any child that tarries with me like Mary did with Jesus gets a scholarship within days of our visit. It happened again last December. Aisha is now in school on a 3-year scholarship.

That is my Jesus. Christ The King who does not just bless me. He blesses through me.

So now I ask you: Have you met Him?

Before you get anything else, get the Bible. Read it. Taste and see that my Jesus is very good.

And you should get the book, Living Proof Jesus Lives; on Amazon or KDP. It is a compendium of miracles God wrought through me. Not to make me look great, but to show you that Jesus is alive.

My Jesus saved me as a baby. He healed me as a child. He drove for me when I could not drive. He carried me through surgery. He provides for the fatherless and opens doors for the forgotten.

He did it for me. He will do it for you.

I present to you Master Jesus, My Special Saviour and Friend.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Salvation and Singleness

Salvation and Singleness by Dr. Omolola Omoteso

I assume you know what each means but how do they interact or intersect?

This is one of the deep things we teach during Divine Connection Biblical Counselling Sessions. If you have NOT signed up, do so soon.

Delaying to marry does NOT affect salvation.

Salvation is not by marriage. It is not by being a husband or wife or by being settled or single. It is by grace through faith in Jesus Christ alone.

Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV records, "For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast."

You do not get saved by marrying on time. You do not lose salvation by marrying late or by never marrying. Sqlvation is offered free but paid for my thr blood of Jesus Christ. Paul was single. He even called singleness a gift in 1 Corinthians 7:7 - I would that all men were even as I myself.

Salvation is being rescued by God. It is God saving you from sin, from separation from Him, and from eternal death, through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. When we receive Him, we are forgiven, made a child of God, and given new life. It is not only about going to heaven one day but being made whole, starting when you said YES LORD.

Sanctification is the process of being made holy. Salvation. Sanctification is God separating you from sin, and shaping you to look more like Jesus Christ in our thoughts, desires, character, your choices. It is beyond forgiveness; it is to be transformed.

So where does the connection come in?

1. Marriage is about sanctification, not salvation.
Salvation is what God does for me and you; debt free. Sanctification is what God does in us over a lifetime.

Delay, loneliness, sexual temptation, pressure from family, fear of commitment, financial struggle, past wounds — those do not unsave us. They reveal where we still need to grow, heal, and be disciplined.

2. The danger is not being single. The danger is what singleness exposes. For many bachelors, the real issues are not the wedding date or dance. They are:

- Lust managed in secret instead of confessed

- Comfort becoming idolatry; "I will serve God fully when I marry"

- Fear disguised as "waiting on God"

- Using "God has not provided" to avoid taking responsibility

- Loneliness turning into bitterness, isolation or reason to court pornography

Those things doesn't mean you are not saved. They mean you are not yet surrendered in that area. And unrepentant sin left alone will choke your walk, your joy, and your witness, even if it does not cancel The Cross.

3. God uses singleness to show you what you worship.
If you believe "I will be whole when I marry," then marriage has become your saviour. That is the issue. When we thibj this way, marriage may never come.

My husband's slogan was, I can't marry without a job so whenever he found a good woman he would lose his job and when he has a good job, there would be no good woman ready to commit to marriage. He did that dance until he canceled our wedding date.

God led me to see the issue, I counseled him and we focused in the God who makes all things beautiful in His own time. We came to a point where we decided, with or without job, we will marry. We received the miracle of good jobs the same day because we turned our focus away from crisis to Christ. Our wedding and marriage was beautified by God.

A bachelor who is saved learns this:

Christ is enough to make me whole now and can meet all my needs. Marriage, if it comes, will not complete me. It will reveal me and stretch me.

That is why Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:32-35, the single man can care for the things of the Lord without distraction. Singleness is not a waiting room for real life. It is real life, with real purpose.

So to say it clearly:

Your salvation is settled by Christ.
Your singleness is shaping your character.
Your delay is not a disqualification.

If it is a curse, the Bible already said the causeless curse shall not come.

As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come." — Proverbs 26:2 KJV

That means a curse without a cause has no landing place. It cannot settle on you. If there is no door you opened, no covenant you entered, no sin you are holding on to, then that fear has no legal ground.

And even if there was a legal ground or cause, Christ became a curse for us, that the blessing of Abraham might come upon us.

Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the law, being made a curse for us. — Galatians 3:13 KJV

So you do not fight delay by fearing a curse. You fight it by standing in the finished work of Jesus Christ.

No causeless curse can hold a son or daughter of God who is already blessed and highly favoured.

Don't ask, "Am I still saved because I am still single?" Ask, "Am I using this season to become the man God is calling me to be — purposeful, disciplined, pure, steady, and content in Christ — whether marriage comes now, later, or never?"

How then do we relate the SWOT analysis to delay to marry and journey focused on marital breakthrough and marital bliss?

This is where it gets practical. Salvation is settled. Sanctification is the work. And SWOT shows you where the work is.

Delay is not just spiritual. It is also personal, emotional, financial, and relational. If you do not name it honestly, you will keep praying for breakthrough while protecting the very things blocking you from getting married.

Here is the SWOT for a bachelor on the journey to marital breakthrough and marital bliss:

1. STRENGTHS - What God has already given you.

These are internal. You already carry them.

Time and focus:
You can seek God, build, serve, travel and grow without divided attention. Paul calls this an advantage. 1 Corinthians 7:32

Knowledge:
Years of singleness have taught you what you want, what tickles or triggers you, what you will not tolerate again.

Independence:
You have learned to survive, provide, pray, play and stand alone. That is big.

Spiritual sensitivity:
Many delayed bachelors are more prayerful, more discerning, more serious about God than they were at 22, 32 or 42.

Here is a breakthrough question you need to ask?

Are you using your strengths to prepare, or just to endure? Strength unused becomes fear or frustration. Strength used translates to purpose or preparation.

2. WEAKNESSES - What is delaying you from inside

Yours may have spiritual dimension, it may include complexities, financial burden, work fatigue, apathy, psychological conditioning, also finding the right woman... You may have toiled all night like Peter or have anthropology of challenges like the man by the pool of Bethesda but all these issues are internal. Sadly, this is where most men lie to themselves.

Fear of commitment:
Not fear of marriage but fear of being exposed as poor or pained, fear of failing or losing freedom.

Unhealed wounds:
Past heartbreak, wounds from parents, siblings or friends, church hurt, rejection from those you may have reached out to for marriage or money.

Sexual compromise:
The Bible records that it is better to marry than to burn but when you choose to marry but there is no wife and you decide that burning publicly will bring shame you turn to masturbation, pornography, emotional affairs, "just talking" and gleaning warmth from women you have no intention of marrying. This kills confidence and clarity.

Financial indiscipline:
You can blame it on enemies of progress but no savings, no plan, no stability is on you and wanting a wife who has it all becomes a tool for manipulation which couod make an intending spouse wonder if you can be trusted with the future.

Perfectionism:
Waiting for the perfect woman, perfect job, perfect timing. Perfectionism is fear covered up either by agbada or suit.

Passivity:
You stay in the mantra, "God will bring her" forgetting God said "He who finds..." not he who accepts. That mantra keeps you warm while you court the pain and refiae to heal, build or position yourself.

- Ego and pride
Yes a man who is passive will soon reveal arrogance. When you confront his passivity, ego and pride show up to defend it.

Passivity says, "I will not move."
Ego says, "I don't need to move."
Pride says, "How dare you tell me to move."

That is why many men stay stuck. It is not that they don't know what to do. It is that pride will not let them admit they have not been doing it or lethargy has set in. After Passivity comes ego. Ego is passivity dressed up as strength.

I will say more on ego and pride in my next message or post.

3. OPPORTUNITIES - What God has placed around you

These are external. Outside you, but available to you.

Godly community:
A church, men's group, mentors, older married couples who can speak truth and model bliss, not just wedding photos.

Growth resources:
Counselling, deliverance, financial coaching, books, conferences. Help is not a sign of weakness.

Healthy exposure:
Meeting women in purposeful environments, not just DMs and chance encounters.
Purpose before partner:
Building a vision, a business, a ministry, a stable life. A woman is drawn to direction, not desperation. Now that you have a woman

Healing season:
This delay can be your preparation room, not your punishment room.

Divine Connection:
Being introduce to a woman you may never have met because someone mentioned your name in Europe!

Breakthrough question:
Are you positioned to translate friendship or relationship to courtship or marriage? Or are you hidden, isolated, and hoping?

Ruth did not stay in Moab waiting. She positioned herself in Bethlehem, in the field, working. She elected NOT to serve a rich fool but positioned herself with a thriving kinsman as led by her mother in law turned mentor and midwife

4. THREATS - What can destroy the journey, if you ignore it

These are also external, but they attack from inside when you let them.

Comparison:
Watching friends, siblings or even children you raised marry, have children, post bliss, while you feel behind. Comparison turns delay into shame. Interestingly no one compares himself to dead colleagues or struggling peers. If we do, we would turn comparison to songs of praise a la mo dupe temi! 😆

Family pressure:
"When will you marry?" "Are you the problem?" Within one week of my husband dying one or two were already saying to me, you will marry again o! You are so young. You pressured me into this one that just ended; when will you play pause! Pressure can push you to marry the wrong person fast.

Cultural lies:
"If you marry late, you have failed." "A real man marries by 30." "Enjoy your freedom now that you are single." All extremes are traps.

The enemy's accusations:
"God has forgotten you." "You are too broken." "You will die single." That is not conviction. That is condemnation. And thr Bible says, there is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus!

Settling:
Marrying out of loneliness, age panic, or sexual pressure. Settling leads to a wedding without bliss and a marriage devoid of peace.

Bliss warning:
Breakthrough is not just getting married. Bliss is staying married in love, truth, and peace. If you marry to escape threats, you will carry the threats into the marriage and they will sink you if you escape being sued!

Enough said! Look out for my next messages:

Ego and Pride: Two Thieves on the Love Cross

Moving From SWOT To Breakthrough To Bliss

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is an ordained minister who is passionate about sharing God's word, for the healing of others.

Eyes On Jesus

KEEP YOUR EYES ON JESUS by Rev. Dr. Omolola Omoteso

One maxim God gave me is suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I have flyers and messages that says just that.

A man recorded his own suicide message recently before taking himself out of life and living. He had an estate; he had material wealth but satan got a hold of his mind and soon his body took the trip. His wife will be called the wife of the man who killed himself. The children and others would be labelled...

A young man in America tried to kill himself by slashing his own throat! That is the same America some want to kill themselves to come to or stay in. Thankfully someone saw him and called for help. He didn't die but he will now be put on watch list and may be drugged and labelled for the rest of his life. His parents will be queried; their model of parenting and loving will be scrutinised... Someone discerning could have seen and helped before it got to that point.

But today is NOT about them but about US/ME/YOU.

1. The feeling of dejection, desolation or disillusionment may be real, but it is never final.

I have no idea what you are feeling right now but negative feelings from husbandlessness, childlessness, purposelessness etc can invade our heads with overwhelming gloom BUT this is not the truth about your whole life. Pain can lie and tell you there is no way out. There is. Jesus is the way, the truth and the life. Dead people will never receive the miracle of being married, birthing child, discovering or achieving purpose. We must trust God with our today and tomorrow.

2. Please don't stay alone with negative thought.

One may be so overwhelmed that negative ideas like drive off the road, take many pills etc can come to you, know that the enemy isolates before he attacks. Please talk to someone TODAY; a pastor, family member, friend... someone who will NOT judge you but point you to The Healer and help.

And if you can't find the right words and want to overthink using the word suicide, say these words: "I am having thoughts of harming myself and I need help."

3. Your life has purpose.

The natural oxygen you woke up with today is a sign God loves you and He is still working through you to project the purpose for your life. The same God who is El Roi - who sees you in joyful moments also sees you in dark episodes. Let El Rohi, shepherd you out of it. Your story will end in praise IF you live.

This counsel can be shared with all those around you. Don't wait till you see signs of suicide or suicidal thoughts; let your loved ones know they are valued beyond their marital, career or achievement quocient.

4. Take a next small step:

Move away from anything you could use to harm yourself or call a friend. I once called a new member as led by the Holy Spirit and she said to me, THANK YOU. If you had not called, I doubt I would still have been here tomorrow. She was going to take her own life because she felt dejected about struggling with employment especially seeing those she went to school with in a higher level at her place of work.

Make decision to die is never the right decision. It transfers thr curse and challenge. Only those who live experience more success.

Please take action

Breathe - That is sign of life; intentionally take 5 seconds in, 5 hold, 5 out. Repeat.

Believe that this passing storm will never submerge you

5. GET HELP:

The living can be helped, the dead cannot be helped. In America attempted suicide gets you forced help, in Nigeria it gets you jail term. If suicidal thoughts have invaded your mind, you may need medical help. It may go on your record but you will receive the help you need.

If you know someone struggling, don't debate or judge them. Just sit with them, listen, and help them call for help.

Going Forward

In CGN's Graceful Women Ministry, we have created smaller groups to ensure everyone is seen and heard so we can share the love of God.

If you want, I can pray with you right now - just send "pray for me" via DM and I will reach you.

Know this TRUTH, you are important to me.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

WHY MARRIAGES FAIL

WHY MARRIAGES FAIL - The 5 D's

1. DISOBEDIENCE - to God.

Genesis 2:24 says leave and cleave. When we don't obey - parents still controlling, refusing to forgive, refusing to love as Christ loved - the foundation cracks. This is not just disobeying your spouse, it is disobeying God's design. God said leave, cleave, become one flesh, love as Christ, submit as unto the Lord, forgive 70x7. When we choose culture over scripture, family idol over spouse, ego over instruction, we build on sand. Every disobedience opens a door. Example: A man who will not leave his mother's control cannot cleave to his wife. A wife who will not forgive keeps a record that becomes bitterness.

2. DECEPTION - to each other.

Lies, hidden money, hidden phone, half-truths. Marriage cannot survive where truth is not safe, Colossians 3:9..Marriage thrives on truth. Deception is not only big lies like adultery. It is small hidden things - hidden debt, hidden phone password, hidden resentment, pretending to be fine. Once one lie is covered, you need another to cover it. The intimacy dies because intimacy requires to be fully known. Where there is deception, there is suspicion. And suspicion is the death of rest.

3. DISRESPECT - for the covenant.

Husband stops loving sacrificially, wife stops respecting. When Ephesians 5:33 breaks, contempt enters. Ephesians 5:33 gives the two charges - husband love, wife respect. When a husband uses harsh words, neglects, does not provide or protect, he dishonours his own body. When a wife uses contempt, public shaming, comparison, silent treatment, she dishonours her own head. Dishonour makes the home unsafe. People don't stay where they are not honoured. Contempt is the highest predictor of divorce - eye-rolling, mockery, "you are useless."

4. DEFILEMENT - of the bed.

Adultery, porn, lust. Once purity is broken, trust is broken.

Hebrews 13:4 - Marriage is honourable... but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Defilement is bringing a third party into a covenant of two. It can be a person through adultery, or an image through porn, or fantasy through emotional affairs. Once the bed is defiled, trust is shattered. The mind that should be pure towards one becomes divided. Defilement also invites spirits - lust, guilt, lying - that further destroy. Many marriages are physically together but sexually defiled in private

5. DISCONNECTION - from one another.

No more talking, praying, intimacy. No big blow-up, just slow drift - until you become roommates instead of soulmates. This is the silent killer. No fight, no affair, just drift. You stop talking beyond logistics - "have you paid school fees?" You stop praying together. You stop touching non-sexually. You stop laughing. Two people living parallel lives, scrolling separate phones in the same bed. The marriage does not explode, it starves to death. Disconnection is why many say "we just fell out of love." Love did not fall, you stopped feeding it.

Disobedience starts it, Deception feeds it, Disrespect normalises it, Defilement breaks it, Disconnection buries it. Disobedience removes the foundation, Deception removes the truth, Disrespect removes the safety, Defilement removes the purity, Disconnection removes the life.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

FIFI GBIGBO SE ALAIGBO

THEME: FIFI GBIGBO SE ALAIGBO - When Hearing Falls Short of Harkening

"Be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves." - James 1:22

Beloved Brethren,

I have noticed something in our midst with love, not judgment. When it is a birthday or a new birth, many respond. Why? 

One person greets, another follows, the line becomes easy to join. 

But when it is about the work of the group - breaking into chapters, instructions for growth, assignments, request for feedback or follow through - only one or two respond. Even some chapter leaders come privately to ask what was already written. It shows a quiet struggle.

The Holy Spirit opened my eyes: The issue is not rebellion. The issue is many are NOT reading.  The truth is many who respond following a post about birthday or birth never read the original post; they just joined those celebrating.

The crisis is this, when we do not read directly, we cannot heed diligently.

1. The Difference Between Gbo (To Hear) and Gba (To Receive)

In Yoruba, we say ma fi gbigbo se alaigbo - never hear but silence or ignore what is heard, never pretend you never heard because us you do, there is no action. But heaven counts hearing only when it produces heeding, Divinity counts listening when it produces learning.

Jesus said in Luke 8:18 - "Take heed therefore how ye hear."

There are three levels:

Gbo - to hear
Gba - to receive and understand
Se - to do

Many stop at Gbo. God waits for Se.

2. Low Reading Produces Low Response, and Low Response Produces Low Growth

If we do not read the message or instruction, we cannot respond to it appropriately. If we do not respond, the house cannot be built well together.

It is not that people do not love the house. It is that the habit of reading has become small. And when reading is small, participation is small, and discernment becomes small.

The Israelites heard Moses, but Psalm 95:8 says "Harden not your heart." Why? Because hearing without doing hardens the heart slowly.

3. Silent Disobedience - The Quiet Disconnect

This is not loud rebellion. It is silent resistance.

Instructions are posted. We see the notification. We scroll past. We intend to read later. Later never comes. The leader ask again, but we already missed the moment of obedience.

Jesus called this out in Matthew 13:15 - "For this people's heart is waxed gross, and their ears are dull of hearing." Not deaf, just dull. Hearing but not hearkening.

Silent disobedience does not shout "I will not do." It just does nothing.

4. How This Affects Our Discernment and Walk with the Holy Spirit

This is the most important part.

The Holy Spirit speaks in a still small voice - 1 Kings 19:12. If we train ourselves to ignore clear written instructions from human that we can see, how will we catch the small whisper of the Holy Spirit whom we cannot see?

Jesus said in John 14:26 - "The Holy Ghost... shall bring all things to your remembrance." He can only bring to remembrance what we first took time to read and receive.

If reading is low:
Discernment becomes weak, because we missed the practice of paying attention.
Relationship becomes distant, because relationship is built on listening and responding.
Instructions from heaven begin to look like just another message to scroll past.

Intimacy with the Holy Spirit becomes strained because it is built on obedience.

Our Gentle Counsel Moving Forward - No Guilt, Just Growth

1. Read before you react. 

Let us make a covenant: when an official message is posted, pause and read fully before any other chat. Proverbs 18:13 says to answer before hearing is folly.

2. From hearing to hearkening. 

After reading, ask: "What is required of me? Which chapter? What date? What action?" Write it down.

3. Respond as a form of honour. 

A simple "Seen, I will join Group 1" is not for me, it is honour for the body. It helps your chapter leader not to labour twice.

4. Leaders, let us model. 

If we as leaders read and respond quickly, the house will follow. Let us not be the ones asking privately for what was already written publicly.

5. If you prefer NOT to read.

If you choose bot to read or have read and need clarity, reach a fellow member or minister first. This leads the person first to go and read, if yet to read. Please honour those who took time to write and post in detail by not asking them to re-explain what is already written. Let us help one another to catch up.

Brethren, I love you. This is not to shame anyone. The Holy Spirit is not condemning us - Romans 8:1 says there is now no condemnation. He is inviting us to a deeper attention and by implication deeper affection and intimacy.

May we not be hearers who behave as if we did not hear. May we be those of whom God says in Luke 11:28 - "Blessed are they that hear the word of God, and keep it."

Let our hearing become hearkening, and our hearkening become heeding.

Amen.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.