Embracing Vulnerability

I would love to share a story about a time when someone cared for me in a profound way. 

I remember the time after a surgery. I had been so looking forward to a quick recovery, but things took a turn for the worse when I developed surgical site infection. I was forced to confront my own vulnerability, and it was challenging. 

As a caregiver, I am used to being the one who is strong and capable. Suddenly, I found myself in a position where I needed help just to get by. And it was hard, letting people in. I mean, really letting them in – into my space, into my dugnitym hprivacy, into my weakness. 

But that's when my community stepped up in a way that made life meaningful. Friends, family, even some former colleagues, rallied round to support me. A friend brought meals. I recollect my sister installing a call bell and warning her house staff that she risk losing her job if my call goes unanswered. One friend in particular, who had experienced something similar, would come over and just sit with me, no judgment, no expectations. She would listen, pray, share God's Word and encourage me. 

What I learned about caring in that experience was that it s not about grand gestures; it is about the small, everyday acts of kindness. It is about showing up, being present and willingness to support. It is about understanding that sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is simply be there. 

This experience made me see Psslm 27:10 in a new light. Those who are close to you may be u available but God will always take care of His own. 

The experience taught me how to care for myself better so much so I was known for being an self care advocate during my chaplain residency. 

I have learned to recognize my own limits, to ask for help when I need it, and to prioritize my own well-being. I have learned that self-care or self first is NOT selfish; it's essential. After all Matthew 22:39b says - Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. 

I have learned to create space for others to care for me, to let them in, and to trust that they are doing it beyond obligation, but out of love. 

We often think that caring for others makes us strong, but sometimes, it is letting others care for us that makes us stronger. 

I hope this story conveys the importance of caring and how it can shape our understanding of ourselves and others.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.