Sunday, 20 March 2011

Divine Connection


Have you ever been so desperate to reach a friend and the network provider says out of reach or route busy or temporarily out of service or switched off or worse still the number you are calling is not on the network. At that moment, the phone becomes of no value to say the least. God must feel that way when He tries to reach us and we are preoccupied, when he delivers our answers and we are just not there to receive. You may have experienced a similar situation in different facets of life.

For years I thought of studying abroad and laid it before God a couple of times though I did not make it a by fire by force situation. I never visited the embassy to make enquiries, never searched online for schools or requirement; I probably filled a Ford or Fulbright application once but may not even have submitted the most valuable material - transcript.

After 5 years of holding a first degree, I decided that study abroad may just not happen so I started making rounds to few universities in Nigeria to check out courses in the hope of pursuing a post graduate degree but something always crops up - deadline over, take qualifying exams, use a year to study basic courses etc. However, none of these had a turnaround effect like strike. In Ogun State University I had the unfortunate privilege of participating in two 5 months strike but for some strange reasons I believed that post grads were over and beyond strikes. So when I heard that with all the Naira I will have to cough out I am as eligible for this daylight thief as my undergraduate counterparts I said, mba, no, not I.




One fateful evening, a friend called to ask if I was interested in traveling for a conference in Brazil. Having attended a previous one in Greece my name was in the database of prospective invitees but someone needed to do the leg work and I just didn’t have the time. She offered to do it for a fee and I consented. After the conference invitation pulled through, I needed a minimum of N350k (about $3, 000) to make the trip. Though I didn't have even half of that, I knew God kept nudging me. I grumbled, complained, lamented but none solved the problem. One day as I sat still, the Holy Spirit said “Speak to grandma”. My first reaction was - chuckle, chuckle, grandma ke! She has not worked for years and she has become our responsibility. I was going to wave it aside but thank God I did not because surprisingly grandma had pensions which were mostly unspent because her children and grand children had taken up the responsibility as tradition demands. I got a fair loan from grandma!

There were so many hurdles like Mr. Visa, Ms. Ticket, Master Hotel and Mrs. Conference Fees. I got an additional loan from my friend, solved the issues that could not wait and made it to the airport. Having overbooked, the airline cunningly retrieved my ticket and wrote STB on it. Not until I started pleading to be allowed to go on the plane did I realise STB means ‘standby’. What nonsense! They offered Euros but while others scrambled, I held back knowing what God told me. As I continued pleading and the officials and customers kept shouting me down, the Holy Spirit whispered "GO!" It was so soft but so clear that I told my sister and mum, won o so pe kin lo o but e ka lo (they did not ask me to go but let’s go).

On that information, I acted. They carried my travel bag and we made for the point of entry. As if an angel was on guard; God cleared the way up to the plane. He surmounted every obstacle in my way. From the plane and through the trip, I met with such amazing miracles that made me realise that when God says “Go!” He never leaves you to go alone.  In the plane, I met a mentor who offered hotel lodging with breakfast FOC, at the conference my full fee - $1000 - was waived and I paid $100. When I decided to stay extra days to tour Corcovado where the statue of Christ the Redeemer is placed above all else in Rio de Janeiro, I met with a Brazilian woman who offered me lodging. To crown it all, at the conference, I met a woman who told me about a university in the United States of America. Though the woman backed down on assisting, I gained admission to the university about sixteen months after. The miracle did not end there; as tough as the visa interview seem it was drama free when compared to what others experience. On landing in the US, God prepared an American family that drove me directly from the airport to my school. When I say God prepared, I mean I had never met or spoken to them it was purely God’s intervention and this story has been shared as a newspaper article and as a background to the Community Ties Initiative in Athens, Ohio. The Millers have remained a family that has stuck as close as my own blood family.



Ten years after my first degree, I got my post graduate degree, a year later I got another master degree from the same institution and not a penny owed since bulk of the fund was waived by the school. You may not understand but what I am trying to say is I did not have to use a credit card and I left an American University with two masters degree fully paid for. While at school I witnessed a lot of people even Americans complain about lack of funding, interest on credit cards and killing weight of loans yet my Jesus paid it all! The school President is not my uncle neither is the Program Director my cousin but my Dear Daddy God holds the hearts of kings and princes in his hands!

It was not like I had a smooth ride. But looking back I can tell that no man or woman can prevail by strength and praying and trusting is definitely easier than worrying. While others had a fun-filled tour, I toured a little at Corcovado then went to tap into the pull current of that mountain by praying. I couldn’t even afford to pay for the picture I took on the mountain. I returned to Nigeria broke having saved up the conference money to repay part of the loan. All I had was the business card from the woman I met and held tightly to it as my divine connection. Pride almost cost me the visa interview and surviving the rigours of two masters, three jobs and giving back to the Athens, Ohio community was not in the least easy yet God was there every step of the way. He even buttered my bread by making my dream of assisting at least one person to gain admission to the institution a reality. My prayers for those who God worked through has been answered in God’s own way – my grandma enjoyed good health till she went to Jesus, my friend got transferred abroad, Nancy Miller became the first female vice president of her company and the Brazilian woman was recently promoted to a school principal.

The question I have never stopped asking is, what if I did not respond to the still small whisper "GO!” What if I had doubted? What if I had spent time querying? What if my financial situation had made me consider gaining the Euros? I probably would have added study abroad to the list of unanswered prayers when in fact God answered and made provision. How many times have God dropped our blessings but our hands were just not in an out-stretched position to receive. How many times have we been divinely connected and we are just not at the other end of the line. Whenever I want to write off a request, I remember this beautiful story and ask God for a second chance peradventure His Grace will call forth a second GO.

Feel free to send me your comments or share your story (annecares@hotmail.com). I pray God does a call back for every opportunity we have missed.
The above story appeared in the first edition of Divine Connection Newsletter. Should you wissh to receive hard or e-copies, or support the initiative, email annecares@hotmail.com.

Monday, 10 January 2011

Divinely Connecting You!

DC was inaugurated in Nigeria in February 2010 in an atmosphere of love. Already we have our basket full of fruitiful harvests. Congratulations to 6 of our members that tied the knot in 2010 and we hope that the 6 that started a meaningful relationship will invite us soon.
Thanks for your interest in Divine Connection. In addition to our monthly events, we offer counselling and consultations especially to unmarried people and young couples. We have a Facebook Group page – Divine Connection (DC). Membership of Facebook Group is free. All members can link up with each other directly on Facebook and can be part of discussions on Facebook through which they get free counseling. Please exercise caution when meeting with Facebook members directly.
 Our events are subsidised at N2, 000. For those who wish to become full-fledged members with the benefit of profiling, counseling, consultation and link up, we have a onetime charge of N5, 000. To pay for registration, our account detail is Willows Magazine – Ecobank – 0130040149356101. Kindly text 0704.191.5222 to confirm payment. Alternatively, you can be part of any of our services by paying per service. Our price range is from N2, 000 – N10, 000.
We organise bi-monthly programmes through which mature singles meet and interact. Our next programme is to take place on February 12, 2011. It is a Lunch Date with the theme "Love Lifted Me". You can get details on our Facebook Group Event Page. Please join the DC Facebook Group and email your full name, age, profession and email address to annecares@hotmail.com. 
We have a publication for mature singles and we encourage you to buy (N100) for yourself and other singles around you. We also have a book “What is wrong with us? Nuggets about mature singles.” It is on sale for N2000 electronically and N5000 hard copy. Order a copy by emailing annecares@hotmail.com.
Kindly let us know what the situation is with your past relationships and the kind of woman or man you seek... Meanwhile pray always, live happily and connect purposefully; you deserve the best!

Saturday, 1 January 2011

PROPHECIES BY PASTOR E. O. ADEBOYE FOR 2011


INDIVIDUAL: 
PARTICULARLY FOR THOSE WHO WILL LIVE A LIFE OF HOLINESS
1.THIS YEAR WILL BE A YEAR OF MIGHTY TESTIMONIES.
2.THERE WILL BE BIG CELEBRATION IN MANY HOMES.
3.THERE WILL BE MASSIVE RESTORATION OF LOSES OF THE PREVIOUS   YEARS.
4.YOU MUST PRAY AGAINST KILLER DISEASE PARTICULALRY AMONG CHILDREN.

NIGERIA:

1. PRAY FOR LONG LIFE FOR PROMINENT NIGERIANS.
2. THERE IS NO NEED FOR PANIC, ALL WILL BE WELL.

INTERNATIONAL:

1. PRAY SERIOUSLY FOR INTERNATIONAL SCENE, PRAY AGAINST MASSIVE STORM AND EXTREME TEMPERATURE.
2. PRAYAGAINST MAJOR DISASTERS ESPECIALLY BY FIRE.
3. PRAY THAT GOD WILL SPEAK TO CONVULSING EARTH.
4. PRAY AGAINST CIVIL WAR AND CIVIL UNREST.
5. THERE WILL BE MAJOR DISCOVERIES IN THE AUTOMOBILE AND AVIATION INDUSTRY.



PASTOR E. A. ADEBOYE is the General Overseer of The Redeemed Christian Church of God
The prohetic proclamations were made during the Crossover Service at Redemption Camp, January 1st 2011

Sunday, 12 December 2010

DC KISS 2011


Come 12th of February, we would get together for another edition of DC KISS (Keep Interaction Simple & Short). To open up the event to everyone who has shown interest, we have decided to have three levels of fees:

Partners: Those who believe in what we are doing and wish to support may do so by paying N10, 000. Our partners will receive e or hard copies of our book, "What is wrong with us: Nuggets about mature singles".
Sponsors: Some benefitted from the sponsorship we received from friends last year, so it is your turn to give N5, 000 to enable us extend the event to someone else. You may choose to bring a friend or keep it open so we invite someone on your behalf.
Friends: We invite our friends and guests to be part of this event by paying a discount fee of N2, 500.

Payment can be made to the following banks:
1. Ecobank//Willows Magazine//013-004-01493561-01
2. GTBank//Anne Famuyiwa//202-267990-1-59-0 


We have also decided that instead of a lot of fun fair, we would be listening to real life experiences of people who are "Single Again" and how love lifted them from the abyss of depression to purposeful living filled with hope and elation.


Reserve your seat by calling or texting 0704.191.5222 with your name and that of guest(s) you may be attending with. If you have made bank payment, kindly include slip number.
 


Please click the following links to read more about DC:
                  www.facebook.com/#!/group.php?gid=220352000917 
                  www.facebook.com/#!/event.php?eid=152256034826537
                  http://www.dckiss.blogspot.com/
                 
           We look forward to inspiring and entertaining you.

Thursday, 16 September 2010

ASK ME WHY I

The Youth & Singles Fellowship of RCCG Throne of Grace, Obalende invited Ms. Omolola Anne Famuyiwa, a media specialist, relationship coach and the host of Divine Connection, to minister on the theme: ASK ME WHY. Before her ministration there was a drama and a debate.

The drama was about a sister who dilly dallied with God’s will in reference to a brother she was in a relationship with. She broke off the relationship when a challenge – loss of job by the brother – reared its head. She went after a guy who was seemingly in money but later got arrested for fraud. She retraced her steps to God’s will; unfortunately he had found another rib. Many issues can be decoded from the drama whose narration was done by a “wise old man”.

1. Was the relationship actually based on God’s will?
2. Did the pastor who counseled them seek God’s face or based his approval of the courtship on confirmation by the man/woman that it is God's will?
3. Was the break up motivated by self or by God?
4. If indeed the relationship was God’s will, why did the brother not pray and wait for a reversal of the lady’s decision to break up?
5. Was it right for the brother to sign into another relationship?
6. Can the second relationship be regarded as God’s will?
7. Whose heart was broken by the break up in the initial relationship?

While I leave you to sincerely seek answers to these questions, let’s look at the debate that followed the drama:

Who are the initiators of heartbreaks? Is it the guys or the ladies?

For the debate, we had a vibrant sister and brother who represented their sexes and tried to argue out that, males or females are the initiators of heartbreaks. The woman’s points were clear:

1. Men are heartbreakers
2. Women are fashioned to support the heart so they cannot break the heart
3. If women are weaker vessels how then can they break the stronger vessels’ hearts
4. The man was present in Eden yet he broke the heart of God by letting the woman act alone.

Of course the men did not mince words in making their points clear:

1. Women are heartbreakers
2. Women have used their being fashioned close to the heart as reasons to dent the heart
3. Women in their selfishness usurped man’s role in Eden and broke God and man’s heart
4. If women could break the heart of God then they can definitely break men’s hearts

Interesting! Surprisingly, men fought their way into getting a supporting speaker but the ladies got none. But really who are the initiators of heartbreaks?

After the debate, the minister was invited to the podium and she started off after praying and introduction by asking few questions. Thereafter, she administered a questionnaire; first to the males then the females. An interesting questionnaire that generated has and hos and laughter and scream from the audience. She then shared the thoughts below before continuing with questions that led participants to share their experiences.

Not all heartbreak come from break up and not all break up lead to heartbreak. Heartbreak is present in one or both partners if the breakup is incidental, coincidental or accidental.

Take for instance a man and a woman who mutually consent to splitting because they are not willing to “faith” the issue of blood group.

Jacob may have ended up with a heart break if Rachael said no but Rachael’s life may have been saved and Jacob may have realised earlier that living a life of supplanting, a life of cheating others would not urgur well. Some heartbreak could become a life line.

Relationships are not the ultimate; what we seek is marriage. So if a relationship continues for ever and the question never comes or the lady never responds, the result is stagnancy. Except both parties have an understanding that this is a lifelong friendship which may not include tying the allegorical knot but tying the spiritual knot, a relationship is bound to break into pieces or break into new life.

An egg must crack, time, location, outcome may be different. An egg may break into new life birthing a chick. An egg may break and spill its content thereby ending its life abruptly with no benefit. An egg can break into a white life either as boiled of fried to give energy to the eater. But for an egg to fulfill its divine purpose, it must break!

Heartbreaks happen because we are flesh who may at times trust man more than we trust God. Jonah’s heart was unbroken despite all God did to compel him to go to Nineveh but his heart was broken when God removed his cover. A man or a woman could act out a heartbreak but God or Satan could be the initiator. How? Satan as we know is not interested in relationships especially those by Christians heading towards marriage. Satan sets out to break hearts because he knows that such unions are potential grounds for re-populating the Kingdom of God.

God on the other hand does not set out to break hearts only that our lack of understanding and our limited knowledge of the future make us see it as such. Take for instance a great Christian man who asked a great sister out, of course the sister wanted to say yes and was already looking forward to marraige but God said no. The sister’s heart was broken and so was the brother’s but in less than 2 years they saw why; the brother was called home. God of course knew the brother had a limited time on earth and did not want to sign the sister into a life of misery. If they had married, most people would have believed the marriage is God’s will because they were both spirit filled, ethical Christians but when the man dies soon after, more people would have blamed God for creating such sadness when in actual fact God warned against it. When a heartbreak is motivated by God, it is shortlived; only for a while. Of course Abraham’s heart was completely broken when God asked for his only child but in obeying, he witnessed one of the greatest miracles – an exchange of pain with gain.

Usually the heartbreaks motivated by Satan are as a result of lack of trust in God. So God sends you a helper or a friend but to you this man/woman has everything you want so you find a way to scheme yourself into a relationship; so what happens? God shows you His will but you look at him or her and what you see is an unbeliever and you re-quote God’s Word to Him, “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers”; you look at the physical like Prophet Samuel did and you say NO. Three months down the line the woman marries someone else and becomes a believer and then your heart is broken. God sends you a man and you know from all indication that this is God’s will, you look at him and tell God, "But he is Catholic, but he is separated" and you conclude, no this CANNOT be the will of God. So you compel the man to wait in the name of praying through for an answer you have already received. The man get’s tired and pulls back the proposal and then you return to God to cry. Guess what God will do, God will lovingly embrace you as He works things out for your good hoping that this time you’d trust and obey.

A man after seeking God’s face approached a woman and the woman said, go and pray again. He returned and said you are God’s will for me and she laughed and said you better go and pray again and stop deceiving yourself. He returned and said you are God’s will for me. The sister said, if you are very sure, go and tell the pastor; knowing full well that the pastor knows her health condition. The pastor had to ask the brother to go and pray again and approach the sister only if he is 100% sure. He did (some patient brother he is!) and returned to the sister. She broke down and told him, “I am HIV+, if you change your mind now I would understand.” The brother took a deep sigh and said, if God says you are my wife, I bet He knows your status. Hard but that is what God expects of us. Today they are happily married with children and living a blissful and fulfilled life.

Often times when we say we are waiting for God’s will, what we are actually saying is that we are waiting for a physical manifestation of God’s will – single-single, fine, comfortable, mannered, moral, tongue-talking, high self esteem, refined…. Because we cannot trust like Adam and Eve did, because we cannot blindly jump when it is God saying jump, because we cannot hang on to faith and fate, we sign up for a date then we find out too much and we become so scared of the journey ahead. We forget in our instance of fear that the Lord is leading and is able to make our marital journey blissful.

Romans 8:28: And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

For the concluding part see "ASK ME WHY II".

Thanks for reading.