Thursday 18 April 2024

Genotype Match

There are many evils in our world today.

The apparent ones are called out here and there especially in religious circles but there are some that ruin family and future.


I am led to speak up against 5...

1. You have sex with a woman or man and down the line you claim or confess you were forced or manipulated and so you will NOT care for the offspring. You have only one choice, give up your parental right on the child to someone who can because the fruit of that incidence has life that must be nurtured. And please don't return later to claim parental right; the person who laboured is the parent for that child/ren, heaven knows, recognise and upholds adoption, with or without legal documents.

2. You do "live in love" with someone for years, separate from the person and claim we were never married. Yes you were. Adam and Eve were married. The law is NOT what joins two people together, the law earns income from you by affixing a stupid stamp on paper that means the government can control your resources when you decide to end the agreement, written or unwritten. Know that decisions about dissolution will be swayed by power, not only economic but spiritual (ire le ni owo, ki tohun ni ija tabi ogun abenugongo), physical, social, emotional, be kind in your severance power and package.

"Stop stripping people of livelihood, because of divorce or death. It is evil... one that returns to haunt generations unborn." ~ Dr. Omolola Omoteso

3. You celebrate the living together or marital union of two people but when one dies you demonically begin a journey in calumny, for any reason at all, you have become a satanic weapon. If someone killed the deceased, God and justice will take full course; it is NOT in your place to arise to steal inheritance.

4. You marry a man or woman legally, traditionally or religiously, wake up one day to say you are done, for whatever reason - valid or invalid, you head to community or court and you believe that because of your reason, the person should have nothing from the fruits of the union or believe the person deserve to be shamed home and abroad, you are evil.

Beyond contract, there is covenant. ~ Dr. Omolola Omoteso Beyond legality, there is humanity. ~ Dr. Omolola Omoteso

5. Rather than call out rape, abuse or manipulation, you endure and continue to enjoy the benefit of or from the union, awon family Monica Lewinsky, but silently post-date the punishment you or the law can inflict and afflict the person with, you are on errand for satan. If fear is why you are silent, sever the bond NOW. Don't go to school on abusers fund or raise children through abuser only to wake up one day to cash out; you are transacting business with and for satan and could become collateral damage!

Many claim to to be Christians or Muslims but participate in one or all the above, what did we bring to this world? NOTHING

The heart and mind from where evil starts was given to you by God, it is time to wisely use both.

Spousal death and divorce are the two hardest heartbreak catalysts here on earth. Add disinheritance and disenfranchisement, they become legal tools for evil.

I am lifting up anyone and everyone who has been a victim of these evils in prayer for peace and ease in Jesus name.

Please take care of you, the mind that pumps blood can only take so much. Remember wisdom, in the Bible, when a loved one foresake you, beginning with but not limited to father and mother, God will arise to take you up; defend you.

I was stripped of all we owned, but God preserved my life. Joined hand in hand the enemies that did it are facing the full wrath of God but justice is already taking place because beyond their diabolic attacks, fraud and manipulation, I live and I am standing strong. Proverbs 11:21

I need no sympathy, empathy or commendation. Pick out what is yours in this message and change your ways or encourage someone you locate in the message, to change.

Do NOT help anyone to harbour evil. Reach out to help anyone who is living inside abuse, for economic reason. Living in bitterness does damage to the heart and earth. Their wailing rise to God and God will judge all who look the other way.

Ojogbon Omolola lo ko iwe yi lati ilu oke

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Sunday 24 March 2024

Divine Connection Centre and Photo Policy


Why do people ask for photo of person they are to be introduced, referred or connected to. And why do some within 24 hours of beingintroduced, want to see photo and get so hung up on it?

Do you want to befriend a person or a photo? Can someone tell me what I don't know.

My take is that it is to JUDGE. BUT marriage is NOT about your judgement or your will but God's will. The more we understand that simple fact, the more we will quit spending a life time looking for who is fine.

We had a beauty in my high school. Females called her beautiful. One day, she had an accident on her way to school that left probably two family members dead and herself severely scarred on the face. I saw her in 2022 and I said to myself, no one would imagine today how beautiful she was then FACIALLY. As that thought crossed my mind another did, as she smiled and joked with her set members; her real beauty was never scarred, just her face; she remains a reflection of God.

I met Cobhams Asuquo some years ago while I was managing a gospel music band made up of 5 guys - 6team. Pleasant and skilled man who excelled as a music producer. He married across tribal lines to Ojuolape, a beauty in every sense. When she discovered after 4 months that her son was born visually impaired like her husband, her world may have sank but she joined her loving husband to embrace the challenge. She is living her best life and graduated in 2022 from MBA at the University of Southern California. Her marriage is a lever NOT limitation to destiny fulfilment.

When I met Cobhams Asuquo, he was not popular then but he had an aura of celebrity around him, I was in awe of his skills... He was head of Audio Productions at Questionmark Entertainment and I went to discuss recording for the band I managed. In 2005, Asuquo was signed on with Sony ATV London as a songwriter. He set up his own recording facility in 2006.

What am I saying? He is fulfilling destiny beyond the limits of blindness. His being born blind cannot be traced to anything and now he has a son who is blind. If a woman in his life is to fight anything, it is to prayerfully discover the root of the blindness and stop it from continuing while remaining eyes to her husband and son. Her second son has no visual impairment.

Many today can see with their physical eyes but their spiritual eyes are dead. This is why you would reject someone who has a glorious destiny because of what the world call disability.

In DC, as part of our policies, we do NOT share image when we are introducing, referring or connecting. In fact we used to share more information than we do now. Now we give you a code with 2 alphabets, gender and mention circumstance - never married, divorced, widowed and we add with or without child/ren; we never tell you whether the children are biological or adopted; omo babies tabi aibi kii se aarun - having or not having child is NOT a disease or disability. That someone had before does not mean the person will have with you, not having before is not a gate to having now. Trust God with your needs.

If you have gone to pray ahead of choosing one of the options we send you, 2-3, please do NOT close the friendship in 7 days. Do NOT lie that you prayed and when you see photo or hear this and that you say it is no longer God. That is dishonest.

Know that IF you are NOT a member who received counsel, whoever we are referring or introducing you to is for FRIENDSHIP. For those who have received counsel, your connection (step higher than referral or introduction) is for relationship but you still need to be friends and work your way in or up. The friendship or relationship can evolve with your commitment and consistent involvement.

When you develop likeness for a woman or man, you will look beyond photo into the possibilities of the union.


I was never sent my husband's photo before we met in person... When I saw his image online, his eyeballs immediately told me there is a medical issue. Having being Health Captain in high school, I learned a lot by working in the dispensary. When I met him, he was in a state of depression; his yellow tshirt was worn out and frayed at the neck. If I was told then, I would not have believed that he owned the house we met in, in the USA. Instead of seeing problems, I saw POSSIBILITIES.

When I discovered he had a rare blood condition and I wanted to end the relationship because neither him nor the 'connector' told me, God said but I who asked you to go ahead knew. I stepped in and God stepped up to help me.

That a man or woman is fine on display photo does not mean that level of fine is the now level or even a level acceptable to you. If I take an image at an alumni or wedding dinner, don't expect that image when you run into me in danfo bus!

I was severely put off by a man who spent weeks telling me I am God's will for him but when he set eyes on me, he immediately began to complain about my reduced weight. He said I am NOT the woman he saw in an image he likes. This simply means I am your desire NOT God's design for you! So why spend weeks convincing me God said you are my wife. Unknown to him, I lost weight while battling injury inflicted on me in a love relationship.

An image could be a turn off depending on mood or outside influence because some will promptly send such image to pastor or family friends who will begin to judge. Some will even take such image or photo to "altars" or give to parents or others to take to altars in the name of inquiring. I remember a sister getting excited about a suitor's image and giving her blessings without taking time to check through the Holy Spirit whether this man is for right or not. I take that blame as well because I leaned into God's permissive will, NOT his perfect will.

Many today, even those who may be out of shape or pot bellied want fine folks or fall in love with the idea of marrying FINE but the right person can create the right personality for self or you. When my Dad used to buy my glasses, it was as if the capacity to see is doubled by size! Once I could buy them myself, I went for small and simple. When I could afford designers, I used D&G - stylish and trendy.

Was Mrs. Stella Obasanjo NOT beautiful? A roadside hairdresser in Egbaland, elevated by marriage to the status of First Lady of the most populous and most powerful country in Africa. When she started secret affair with him she never imagined this rugged soldier would impact her life positively. Her 60th was approaching and she decided to go abroad to do tummy tuck. She never returned alive!

Please trust God with your journey to marital ease, peace and bliss. The person we introduce could become your destiny mate, lead you to your destiny mate or be a life long buffer.

Embrace Possibilities!


Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words 
for the healing of others.

Saturday 16 March 2024

Need for Deliverance in Delay to Marry



We thank DC Coordinator Pastor Adenike Abidoye for an illuminating session on The Need for Deliverance in Healing. This was during our second DC Special Whatsapp Group Meeting

Anyone who recorded or noted down the prayer points should send to me via direct message or email.

Summary of message in my own words:

Deliverance is required when you need a mind shift from marrying the worldly way to marrying the WORD or Holy Spirit led way. Things to consider as you seek deliverance from the root of delay

1. Learn to appreciate you. Know that you are wonderfully made. This is when deliverance will be easy.

2. Find out or research about generational curse within your family

3. Be mindful of self inflicted reasons... the 'I cannot' and 'I will not' in your life.

4. Be sure you are not operating under the shackles of your parents marriage or pop (popular) culture.

5. Renounce your old ways. I add to this, have you renounced covenants or contracts. These could delay or derail you. We touched on this in our first meeting. It is one thing to legally divorce, it is another to spiritually renounce, mentally divorce and physically let go

6. Is fear factor at work. "My parents marriage did not work, may be mine will not work", such statement is satanically induced. I add that the Bible has 366 fear not with provision for the leap year!

7. The one that blew me away in how it was captured, DOCTRINE OF THE WORLD! One big one she mentioned is thise who insist, "I cannot marry a divorcee". Let me add this: The Bible condemn divorce but there is therefore no condemnation for anyone who is in Christ Jesus! The time of ignorance God overlooked.

During the Q and A session, a sister asked a question that led me to add the following while nothing that the root of delay under self is inexhaustible.

I asked those at the first meeting to individually seek God's face to know the root of your own delay.

I shared in our 16.03.2024 meeting that there are 3 major roots of delay that all others causes can come under

1. God

2. Curse

3. Self. To help men and women with self is why DC exist.

Pastor Abidoye's message extended the borders of the root of delay. In light of this, let me share my response to the question asked:

1. Be reminded that God can delay you. Ruth's delay led her to be positioned in Jesus' lineage. God can delay you for destiny fulfilment or because of disobedience. God asked Abraham to separate himself from Lot and Abraham did as he wanted. How many years did God refuse to speak to him after

2. Grief. Some have not healed from loss. Loss of a loved one, of a promising relationship, of job or property, even loss of location etc. This grief could be visible in your moodiness or irrational mood swing. This could make someone attracted to you worried.

3. Complacency and belief that marriage will happen when it will happen. In being hopeful and expectant, the unmarried is to commit to making marriage a priority.

In prioritising marriage, I shared the dangerous prayers I prayed and warned for us to be mindful of what we pray for.

Let me add other delay factors

4. Disobedience. Yes I put it under God but it can stand alone. God showed you your man or woman but you said no I don't want him or her.

5. Lack of the culture of giving. The woman who connected my husband and I did because we were givers. She met us individually and our culture of giving led her to be awakened to our similarities

6. Lack of virtues. See the lessons in Genesis 17 - Unholiness, unfaithfulness, hopelessness, filthy essay, ingratitude, sadness and disobedience must be uprooted from you life. The world is moody; sadness is rife; joy is attractive.

7. Lack of purpose. Everyone who was connected in the Bible was on the journey called purpose. It was in running with my calling and purpose that my man became connected to me. I remanded the purpose and vision for 9-10 years. I didn't realise that I merely delayed myself.

8. Pride is a big root of delay under self. I reached a sister about connecting her and her mind pridefully shut down so much so she didn't remember to greet. Rather than say thank you, let God's will be done, satan sent her into demotive lamentation, "So my condition has now reached for me to be offered divorcee and widower!" This is pride. No matter who God leads you to, your prayer should be let me be, Lord let your will be done in my life and let me through this friendship be able to fulfil purpose and find peace and bliss.

Please feel free to share your comments and concerns.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others. Pastor Adenike Abidoye is a Public Health Concern who is passionate about deliverance.

Thursday 23 November 2023

Do you feel alienated from God

                  Rev. Omolola Omoteso, DMin.


Do you feel alienated from God?

The prayer points, edited below, were from 3 sent to me by my newest friend. Let me expound as the Holy Spirit directed.

Jesus Christ as human, while experiencing an emotional meltdown, a depressive episode, cried out in Matthew 27:46, My God! My God! Why art thou forsaken me!

The question is how could He have been forsaken when it was an 'ajomo' with Divinity. The Psalmist cried out too in Psalm 22:1.

Indeed a man who watched his mother take her last breath at the hospital blurted out as I ministered to him and other loved ones, as Chaplain at the hospital where I presently serve, "Where the hell was God when I needed him few minutes ago!"

Well, that is what humanity does! If we are not careful, flesh and feelings will truncate us from Divinity and we will feel alienated, and if not careful, humiliation would follow. That very mouth, voice, lungs etc. the man I mentioned lamented with, was given to him by who?

God remains God even in your anger, frustration and exasperation. He is always where He was at creation...

You may have experienced such in your life time, where the only question on your lips is where is God. It is important to check first, before you blame God, whether there is sin in your life. Jesus experienced alientation when He was carrying the sin of the world. The Psalmist lamented after he sinned... You may NOT have sinned but paying the price for those you are standing in the gap for.

In the throes of darkness when I returned from the UK to the USA to see that our most expensive home, 88B Myrtle Avenue, Edgewater, NJ, which I laboured with labourers to renovate for 3 years, had been hijacked by enemies brought in by household wickedness and locks changed, and found myself on the street; with just my hand luggage to my name, I made a discovery.

As I sat at the bus stop ready to spend my first night on the street with no active phone to call anyone, I rummaged through my now scattered hand luggage to fish out a moldy ajeku chicken from days before, remnant from my last super in the UK 2 or 3 days earlier, washed it off and prepared to eat it, I was triggered to say out loud, before satanic orchestra would join the host of hell to put ideas in my mind, I AM OMOLOLA, THE DAUGHTER OF THE MOST HIGH GOD.

This proclamation emboldened me. Home or no home, bed or no bed, food or no food, my identity is standing strong in God- unbendable, unshakable, immovable!

That night, as God began to orchestrate His better plan and purpose for my life, I made the greatest discovery. What I see or experience is NOT what dictates whether God is present in my life. What dictates the presence of God is my relationship with God, my belief in the Holy Spirit and the gift of salvation through Jesus Christ. Matthew 28:20

Immediately I affirmed God and my place as the daughter of God, things turned in orbit and helpers of destiny were sent to take me up. Within few days I was in a hotel paid for by someone ordained and order to show me God's love. Someone who had abandoned her book project years earlier reached me at the hotel with cash plus plea that God said she must restart and complete the project!

Do you feel orphaned or alienated from God?

If yes, I encourage you to pray these prayer points and become mindful about those times you let your flesh or feeling rule over God in your spirit, soul and body. If yes, I invite you to come to the conclusion I came to years ago, whether I feel it or not - God is in me, for me, by me and with me, ALWAYS.

Prayer Points

1. Lord God, deliver me from any astral or ancestral projection of orphan spirit in Jesus name.

2. Every orchestration of orphan spirit in my life, by the authority of fire, let it be destroyed and consumed in the mighty name of Jesus Christ.

3. Lord Jesus, ignite absolute trust that I have in you and remove every tool and trial of doubt in my life.

4. Almighty God, truncate every satanic isolation manipulating me away from your presence.

5. Baba God, my words are lifeless and powerless without your anointing. Loving Father, reignite the pastoral authority in my life and empower me to manifest your power and glory in Jesus name.

🎶 God has spoken. We have heard. Let the church say AMEN!

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate about sharing God's words for the healing of others.

Sunday 22 October 2023

Walk With Widows Commissioning and Commemoration



Speech by Rev. Dr. Omolola Omoteso, Founder of Walk With Widows Initiative at the

Commissioning of Executives and Committee Members 2023 and

Commemoration of Deaconess Ibiyemi Odu-Famuyiwa's Life and Times

I greet you on this special occasion. I congratulate executives and members. This is a great day for all of us. We have appointed and commissioned executives to ensure that each of us enjoy better life as part of this body God led us to create to walk with widows, advocate for widows, reach out to the unreached and inspire widows and non-widows to excel.

MAMI: My Angel My Inspiration, Deaconess Ibiyemi Oluremi Asake Odu Famuyiwa remained an anointed achiever who excelled and succeeded in all the things she laid her hands on with the help of God. She earned a degree in accounting after she had 5 children, so I don’t know what excuse or limitation you have put on yourself. As a beautiful soprano singer, she sang in church one day and a white dove flew into the church.

What legacy do you want to leave? MAMI taught me honesty, integrity and remained a woman of faith. I shared her image with Pastor Praise Tete who will be praying for the executives. Thank you for joining us sir and for your commitment to our leaders and members. You are blessed and highly favoured.

Though she spent double the years of Jesus Christ, her impact on this earth is why we have the Cares Global Network which gave birth to Prayer Channel for Nigeria, which gave birth to Ibiyemi Fund for Education (IFE) through which some organisations and individuals get gifts to help them with education. IFE gave birth to Bola Memorial Watch which gave birth to Walk With Widows Initiative. My MOTHER remained an advocate for education, especially girl-child education, and she inspired me to be all that people said I will never become. She was my pastor, my spiritual mentor and my prayer partner.

To the topic of Excellence and Success, what would it look like if every one of you is serious about excellence and success in business?

Two of our members just became leaders in a state group! That is what success looks like and I am super excited. They are leaders in the society and leaders here in Walk With Widows Initiative (WWWI). Did they achieve it alone? No. They needed spiritual, physical, social, intellectual, and emotional support to achieve success. I congratulate them and pray that their roles in National Council of Women's Societies (NWSC) will beautify lives, move people forward and positively impact our members.

Still talking about excellence and success, when individuals excel, there would be success in hearts, homes, and homelands. There would be thriving churches, thriving companies, and thriving countries and people will see God's Glory. That is one sermon my husband preached that I would want you to listen to, I will share the link later. God's glory and goodness can be seen through your good works; we are saved for good works. Enemies may want to supervise your shame but if you continue to do excellent works, then God’s glory will be seen, and they will have no choice but to praise your Father in heaven.

Few have been called to serve today but we all have a calling and career. We will climb the ladder of success and accomplishment as we become excellent and share excellence with others because it is our calling to do exceptional work. As we love God more and seek to do His will, God will draw us to do good works and excel and we can continue to do our best through the help of the Holy Spirit at work in us. James 2:26 tells us that faith is dead without good works, without excellence. You are called to serve and to serve well. If leaders serve well in righteousness, followers will do the right thing and the land will experience refreshing times and experience seasons of overflow.

And not only that, when you work within the giftings and abilities that God has given you, and sharpen those skills and abilities, you already have an advantage over others. When you lean into God-given skills and talents, the Holy Spirit will equip you with all you need to do good and excellent work!

Pursuit of excellence is one of the business principles we should all live by as we do our work individually, as a group and for the society. We are image bearers and image makers for Jesus, will we fail? I don’t plan to fail, and I don’t think you should plan to fail because he who plans to fail, will fail to plan. This is a call to excellence and by implication a challenge that will lead you to succeed.

Our God is excellent. What does that mean? Follow God’s example of excellence: Be disciplined. Be diligent. Be determined. Be devoted. Be God's disciples. Walk in His image. God is original, be original. Go the extra mile like God who designed and created the world in an orderly, efficient, and effective manner in 7 God-days. I always say 7-God days because we could NOT have created calendar for God.

I want you to remember 1 Peter 2:9 But ye are a chosen generation (race), a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a peculiar people of his possession; that ye should shew forth the praises of God, that you may proclaim the excellencies of God who called you out of darkness into God’s marvellous light.

Another Bible verse explicitly says that we should run the race of life as if we are aiming to get earthy award and eternal reward. Train to be the best and take steps to do the best... for God.

Whatever you are doing, reach those who know better to teach you things. One of the books I published with an achiever of great measure who worked for years with UNICEF and UNFPA is Employees from Heaven. A friend who is older and a minister called me today. I wanted someone to pray with me because this is my MOTHER's tenth year of leaving this world and God led her to call me. You can always tell God your heart and He will send someone to meet your need. She prayed for and with me and we shared her concern as well. The Bible says iron sharpens iron; for this to happen one iron must be connected to another iron. From the prayer she shared with me, I was lifted. From the wisdom I shared, she learned to better handle conflict with in-laws. Learn from God and from others to grow in wisdom.

1 Corinthians 10:31 tells us that even in basic things we should do all to give God glory. In career and calling, do all you do to give God glory. In your executive roles here and other places, in your home and on your job, in your finances and child nurturing, in relating to others and service to humanity, do everything to give God glory! It is very important to serve righteously; the way of the Bible, God’s way.

In our Graceful Women Ministry meeting, a member shared how she finds it difficult to apologise or ask for forgiveness. It is good to say it, but the question is what steps has she taken to do better.

Please write down now 3 things you do well and 2 things you don't do well and would like to improve. For the 5, write things you can do to move forward. Choose one member to be your accountability person. Every 3 days, you and that member should check on one another to find out the steps you have taken to improve on the 5. Share your report with me after 3 weeks.

Colossians 3:23 says do everything with your heart, passion, as unto God. If you have a wicked boss ruthless husband or friend who is NOT really a friend, as you work unto God, God will give you victory.

Esther had victory in marriage and succeeded in emancipating (freeing) her people because she did her service to God in spite of the ruthlessness of her husband, the king. Always remember that you are the light. That light must shine in your heart, home and homeland so that people can glorify God. Matthew teaches us that as Christians we need to be set apart from others. And if you say I am NOT a Christian, you also need to be set apart because you are a child of God. Where the rest of the world is covered in darkness, we are to be light. We are to live as shining examples for others. 

I used to be an appreciation seeker, but God corrected me. Now when anyone thanks me for anything I am quick to say, Na God or Thank God because according to Philippians 2:13 God works in and through me to will (think, make decision, behave right...) and to do of God’s good pleasure. It is because God is working in me, giving me the desire, the power and the strength that I am able to do what pleases God. God always appreciates us by blessing us and that should be sufficient.

To do more or be more, to excel and succeed, you must listen to God and follow what God tells us as worthy disciples. The more you listen - assimilate, understand and act on messages, the more your heart will strategise on how to translate information and knowledge to excellence.

We use the Montessori Method in Excel Leadership Academy (ELA) which is the education arm of Cares Global Network. If you heard Montessori, have no idea what Montessori is, do not ask or did nothing about the information, that is baseless hearing. If you heard and your heart throws up a thinking process about what it is, what it means in relation to ELA, what benefit it is to you, that is listening that should lead you to research, review and use it to your advantage. Good communication skills are incomplete without effective listening which is undervalued. By being an active and attentive listener, you can understand more and improve knowledge and have better relationships. To God’s glory I am the Academy Director at ELA where we heal hearts, inspire minds, transform lives, and mentor followers and leaders. The three key things we teach are based on the acronym, but the mission of ELA is founded on the Yoruba meaning of the word. If you have no idea what ela means, you read or heard the last statement, but listening is faulty or incomplete until you know the meaning of ela.

When you read the Bible, it is important to understand what God means, and what the Holy Spirit is saying to you. Often this calls you to take action - live a Christlike life, release unhealthy emotions, relate better with people and exude joy. What you listen to determines your approach to life. To understand your purpose in life you need to truly listen to and understand God’s calling, promises and prophesies concerning you. This is why I have put together a book titled Promises, Prophesies and Prayers for Widows. Anyone can read it, it is online. To understand, you have to hear rightly - listen.

If you have heard me preach or share, you must have heard the word ASK, said in a way that pushes you to consider asking. Many are afraid to ask. Two key lessons I teach those who attend ELA are - LISTEN, ASK. Embedded in these words are the tenets of leadership and followership to arrive at EXCELLENCE.

Every union includes leaders and followers and how the dynamics of such union is managed stems from how questions are asked and how well parties listen to understand ahead of responding. A leader who cannot listen beyond words said directly, has no business in leadership and a follower who cannot ask directly, has no business in followership. A leader must sincerely LISTEN. L = Listen: I = Integrity. S - Support. T = Train. E = Empathy. N = Nurture. I recollect asking my husband, “Have you trained him?” He complained again and again about a minister who preached instead of teaching; the minister needed to be trained. He was fervent as Christian, but the mistake continued until the leader was trained.

A follower must willingly ASK: Ask. Seek. Knock (Matthew 7:7). Asking is not only about give me this but also, what can I do better? What may I do for you? How may I be of help? When last did you offer help to your friend, parent, pastors, elders, members, those who have been a blessing to you, or strangers God lead you to bless? When last did you offer help to the rich, who have needs in non-financial other areas?

No matter the challenges we face, God has the manual and others have maps for passing through that challenge. Ask for help. Asking for help has never been a sin neither is it shameful. Always ask God who to ask for help because some will intentionally shame you when you ask. Ask how can I better love you? Yes, ask your child, spouse or significant other. How can I do my job or role better? How can I help you become a better Christian? How can I support what you do? How can I be a blessing to the leaders and members of Walk With Widows and other organisations Dr. Omolola Omoteso oversees? ASK.

Asking does not mean you will dance to the whims and caprices of those you ask but you will be better informed about their expectations, and you can modestly respond to the limits you are able to offer.

When you ask, some will give the kind of help or response you desire, others may berate you and others may give less than expected. In all instances, your thought process determines how the outcome will affect you. In life, we must be able to ask God and others questions, towards the actualisation of our plan, purpose, prophecies, promises and the fulfilment of our destiny.

Berebere kii si bere = The asker never miss ask. The Bible is your friend! ASK the Bible instead of google. Ask God through His Word, His beloved, His prophets, His pastors, and His professionals.

Excellence leads to success. Excellence is the quality of being outstanding in all that we do.

Dear brethren, it is not the job you do but the purpose you serve with excellence that leads you to succeed God's way. If I am given a job as a toilet cleaner, everyone who comes in would be blessed by how excellently I have done my job. Many of you are sad because you don’t have the big job. But how well have you done the little God has given to you. In all I do, I seek to do them better and well.

One of my mentees visited to assist with washing, drying and packaging clothes for the less privileged. When I served her a glass of juice, she was so dumbfounded; she looked away. If you are in my office or home, making sure you are comfortable means you could receive a glass of water, juice or snack. Later, God led me to step out to help her peg the clothes. When I did, I saw the clothes on the line. They looked like they were just tossed there! I corrected her that excellence does not mean going the extra mile publicly or for the rich or comfortable, it means serving quality in all you do.

Guess what my favourite verse in the Bible is?

Ecclesiastes 9:10 Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest. There is no work once we die, we will only be praising God. In the grave, there is no work; our body will be lying there doing nothing or decaying, but our soul would have returned to The Creator.

A young girl was taken abroad as a domestic servant to an ambassador because she was passionate about helping the woman, a church member. She was fascinated that they were rich, but she was not fixated on wealth, she just wanted to help. She went the extra mile and learned to do her job as servant better as she grew. Today she is a resident in the USA and has her own home with mortgage fully paid. I cared for her when she was unwell, and later when I became homeless, I stayed with her.

In her serving excellently, she got a benefit. In serving her well when she was unwell, I got a benefit. So, there are benefits to service. When you serve well, you get the results and one of the results is success.

Everything we see today will go, including the people. The only three things we have are Trinity, Time and Teams. What we truly have are moments that may soon become memories and we can create these moments with the help of the TRINITY, using our time and working in mutually beneficial teams. While some of us only have memories of departed beloved, many are still creating memories with loved ones.

What memory do you want to leave people with - the way you shoddily apply yourself to assignments or the quality or excellence you continue to serve? As we have seen with many African leaders, sustaining excellence is a challenge. We continue to ask many who have stories especially of survival or success, to post comments or publish books through CGN Books – Cares Global Network Books.

We saw in the Bible how Daniel, a successful leader in national government faced the choice of whether to take a short unethical cut or risk his own life in the midst of cabals, chief of which was his own boss Darius - a pagan. We learn from Daniel because someone published the story. I help people publish.

The Book of Daniel shows us how we should conduct and comport ourselves excellently to be successful. Daniel had an excellent spirit. He was impeccable. He distinguished himself, which led to the king’s decision to promote him. Be rest assured that when enemies find nothing on you, especially at work, they will question your faith and do everything to make you fall!

Did professors, pastors and believers in government during the last tenure in Nigeria lose the spirit of excellence or cabals stifled them? A man or woman in authority, who is led by God is always a threat to the shady dealings of people who are unethical. With an excellent spirit in me, those around me glean and learn. It is not a surprise that my school son became a worthy PR Consultant. It is not a surprise that my son is a Communication Expert, and my daughter is into Administrative Communication.

In Daniel was found an excellent spirit, which counted for much more. Daniel was ethical, upright and responsible, so those who audited him found nothing to nail him. Be excellent to succeed.

I want all of us to start a 19-day challenge using one of the passages below, per day. After meditating, post few words God revealed to you on the group page. You can choose Whatsapp, Facebook or text through your leader. Anyone who completes the 19 days will get a gift at the next meeting. You have to sign in that you will do it. Then do it and share with us daily.

I charge everyone to make out time during the next 3 weeks to mediate on the verses, see what you can improve in your life and take steps to be excellent so you can succeed. Whether you want to be part of the contest or not, I charge you to read, meditate, act, and pray about the following Bible verses:

  1. Daniel 6:1-4 
  2. Proverbs 20:6               
  3. Proverbs 22:9               
  4. 1 Corinthians 9:24-25                
  5. 1 Corinthians 10:31            
  6. Colossians 3:23            
  7. Ecclesiastes 9:10          
  8. Titus 2:7-8                                     
  9. Titus 3:14                                
  10. Matthew 5:14-16     
  11. Daniel 1:20                  
  12. Mark 7:36-37
  13. Matthew 7:7               
  14. James 1:22                  
  15. Isaiah 55 2                   
  16. Proverbs 1:33
  17. James 1:22                                
  18. Malachi 2:2                 
  19. John 3:16                     
  20. Acts 1:8

I thank you for attending and I want to let you know that I love you, I appreciate you and I look forward to more fruitful years as we serve humanity together. God bless you and keep you, God be gracious to you, God’s countenance be upon you and God give you peace in your heart, home, and homeland.

Dr. Omolola Omoteso-Famuyiwa is a minister who is passionate 
about sharing God's words for the healing of others.